When do I stop?

[IamwhoIam]

I am in a great relationship with my girlfriend and am just wondering when I am giving oral to her, basically when do I stop? I don't exactly know if she's having an orgasm she has told me she has. Usually her body is twitching uncontrollably and she moans or pulls my hair a bit. Its really hot actually but i don't know when I should stop. Like she just ends up telling me to stop or pushing me off. I can tell she enjoys it because she has a hard time speaking or even moving so I just thought there might be a sign from her body of when to stop or something

[canoestripper]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (IamwhoIam @ Dec. 12 2005,20:34)]Like she just ends up telling me to stop or pushing me off.

That's the sign...

Sounds like she's doing an excellent job of letting you know when to stop.

[j56h]

Well...with my wife, she starts to lose control like you describe, but she does manage to keep enough composure to give me a couple pats on the head when she needs me to back off. If I choose to ignore the pats to the head, that is usually followed by what I call "the head vise". Those thighs close up with some pretty powerful force! Hey, sex has its risks, but it's too much fun to not take some chances!

[Sheriff Crawfish]

i couldnt have said it better

[dancingdoc2]

A pat on the head works; so too does a squeeze of the hand somewhere. The two of you can also create a "Do not exceed" or a bailout word that when spoken means absolutely stop regardless of what was said or done before. This way either of you are free to express yourself and perhaps say "no more" or anything else but unless or until someone speaks the DNE word, all is fair in love. This only works if the two of you absolutely abide by the word chosen and NEVER EVER ignore or dismiss it. If either of you do this then a trust has been broken and it may mean the end of the relationship or that it has been severely harmed.

> when I am giving oral to her, basically when do I stop?

* Stop when she says absolutely no more using whatever the DNE word is
* Stop after her orgasm has run its course
* Stop anywhere along her arousal curve and pause until her sense of urgency has subsided--then begin rebuilding her arousal

> I don't exactly know if she's having an orgasm she has told me she has.

It is commendable on her part to share with you the fact that she has had an orgasm; however, it is key that she somehow signal you when she is about to have an orgasm or that one is in the process--or, that she just enjoyed one!

Female orgasms are a bit on the secretive side and guys cannot always tell when one is or has happened, so it is great when a woman can quietly signal her partner to convey this information.

[IamwhoIam]

Thanks for the advice. I think that DNE word idea is great and i will definitely try it with her.