Anal sex - again!!

[curiousguy81]

I've never tried anal sex, but being naturally curious I'd love to give it a go. I never had the chance to bring the topic up with my last girlfriend; she told me pretty early on in our relationship that she wasn't up for it. Obviously I respected her wishes but I got the feeling that she hadn't really thought about it properly - she seemed to be rejecting it out of hand based on preconceptions, which makes me think; how can I bring up the topic with a woman, without freaking her out? I don't want my next girlfriend to miss out on something we might both enjoy just because of some preconceptions she might have. Sometimes it seems to me that girls (maybe just the ones I know) are more likely to be freaked out at the mere mention of anal sex, whereas men are keener to try it. I know I'd jump at the chance!!

Obviously I've read the anal sex 101 here but it doesn't answer all my questions. Any advice on how I can breach the subject with a woman, without freaking her out/making her think I'm a total pervert lol? I'm single at the moment, but I reckon most people would enjoy anal if they tried it and it was done properly, so I'd like to give my next girlfriend the chance for us both to enjoy it together - if she wants to - without her just rejecting the idea out of hand. Any advice? Thanks

[Brandye]

I enjoy anal play especially cunnilingus but there is no way anyone is going to stick his penis in there. If you read all the Golden Posts on the topic, you have seen my medical and personal input.

Anal play will possibly arouse her interest. Rimming may raise it a bit further. Sha may become receptive, she may not, she may be eager to take the next step. We each have our limitations and those must be respected. Whatever happens, please use a condom whenever you get to it. It is much safer for both of you irrespective of STDs. The worst urethritis and prostatitus cases often begin with bare anal sex.

[Sheriff Crawfish]

dont pressure her with anal sex. If she isnt cool with it fine. You can suggest it and maybeshe will be hip on the idea. But dont say "we should have anal sex" all the time. But start off small ya know

if you want to bring it up without freaking her out.. just kinda bring it up out of nowhere like "how do you feel about anal sex?"... Thats what I would try.. like have her calm first. So it isnt just weird...

havent had anal sex... So i am not quite sure with how to explain it

[curiousguy81]

Thanks Crawfish; I'm beyond pressuring her - that's not fair, is it? - but you've reinforced what I was thinking myself, which is basically not to make too big a deal of it

[jimmyray32]

I was wondering what the largest penis ever encountered is. I have heard rumors of a 18 inch erect penis. I have talked to several women and they say that they have been with many guys who are well over the 9 inch range. I have a 5and a half inch penis when erect and I seem to satisfy my partners but I am curious if this supposed monster penis exists.

[ShadowLynnParker]

Im just telling you what I think on the subject and that is that nine out of ten women hate it. That my friends is a fetish and nothing more. The ladies that like it, more power to them. Some women will try it only because they love you guys too much and wish to please you but if you notised it only will happen once or twice. This is just my view anyway.

[iamawesum69420]

Don't just say "I want to try anal sex." Mention to her things like anal play and rimming. If there's any chance of her trying anal sex you're going to have to in a way ease her into it. Bring up licking around her anus during oral sex and see how she responds to that. Or mention just teasing her anus with your finger. Believe me it is a bit much to go from having nothing to in your ass to having a penis in there. It can be very traumatizing. Oh and if you do end up trying anything inside of her anus warn her about a weird feeling. It's similar to the feeling that you get when you need to poop. I freaked out when I first experienced that because I had no idea what it was but I talked to a friend afterwards and she said she felt the same thing so I felt better about it.

[dancingdoc2]

You can always titillate yourself when alone and even massage your prostate. Doing this will show you what it feels like and knowing this you will have much more information to give her, not to mention just enjoying this form of pleasure by yourself.

You can talk to her about the matter when getting all romantic is not going to hapen.

This next tidbit of information is worth knowing. The nerves outside and inside the anus along the sphincters are very very sensitive and serve to augment the sensations we are experiencing from other forms of caressing. In other words, fingerng the anus outside and/or inside is not unlike lighting the afterburner on a jet engine or reving up the turbocharger an a conventional engine. These nerves only "turn on" and become reactive when we are extremely aroused; so, do not spend a lot of time there until your partner is on the verge of an orgasm.

Anal play can be a lot of fun, however, anal intercourse is best left for the very experienced couple. Begin by casually fingering the outside of the anus when she is nearing her orgasm and let her experience the increased intensity from this. Then, if her reactions are positive, spend more time there in addition to whatever else you are doing.

The only thing I would insert is a very well lubricated finger and only up the the first knuckle or two. To enter, press, do not shove, jab, or, poke. Enter very slowly so she gets used to the feeling. The natural tendency most people have the first few times is to clamp down on the sphincters in order to try and prevent penetration. If this happens, encourage her to relax. If you do it should the tables ever be turned, then just remember to relax the muscles.

Once in you can stroke in and out and wiggle your finger around all based on her reactions.

IF THE PERSON ON THE RECEIVING END COMPLAINS OF PAIN, stop and add more lubrication to the sore spot. Never chafe the skin or cause injury. You can never use too much lube, so if you think you have enough--add more to your finger or dildo.

Speaking of whick, there are many fun toys that a couple can enjoy, however, hold off on them until the two of you have more confidence in each other, and with yourself.

[nursefluffykins]

i have a little experience with fingering the ass, licking, not so much actual penetration, well tried a little bit, but no real thrusting, anyway, well that was with my ex, not the current bf i have been with for over a year, he's more i dunno stick to the basics i guess... well anyway, we 've kind of talked about it vaguely but havent taken it any further.. my biggest concern right now is how to make sure its cleanest possible down there.... cuz this guy gets freaked out easy and it would be super embarassing if he puts a finger in and i dunno im just scared even if you clean and what not that it wont be...

[lisa4daz]

well im in kind of the same situation tho with sexes reversed.. its something i am interested in and i know my partner respects me too much too ask? an its one of those situations i feel a male needs too approach?
me personally would like a romantic evening.. slowly seductive, work your way through the pleasures and as u are both most relaxed and open to trying new things within the moment.... maybe 'the moment' will take u where u wanna go?