How long to do squeeze technique?

[ssj5]

I hope this goes under pleasing her because I'm trying to last longer for her so here goes. I've looked for this answer throughout forum but I couldn't find it. When doing the squeeze technique or start/stop technique so should I

a) Last as long as I can (masterbate for +30min) and then apply squeeze technique when I'm about to cum

or

b) try to get to an orgasm as fast as possible and then when you're about to cum apply technique

or

c) a and b switching from time to time

or

d) Don't worry about it and just enjoy yourself and apply technique when it's about to happen

I'm guessing it's (d) but I really just want to make sure I'm doing it right. The website say do it for 2-6 weeks and I don't feel like wasting all that time for nothing.

[Brandye]

Sounds like you are using the squeeze technique during masturbation. Having no penis, I know nothing about this. In sex therapy the squeeze technique is typically taught as a participation sport. The man on his back with the woman straddling and taking his penis into her. When he announces he is getting close, she raises herself from the penis and performs the squeeze for about ten seconds and then takes it back into her. There is usually some slight softening of the erection. This reduces both sensitivity and sexual tension slowing climax.

It is really great fun. Mistakes happen but they wipe off easily. Over time, it is believed, the man will last longer between needs for a squeeze and eventually the squeeze will be unnecessary.

I have difficulty understanding using the technique during masturbation but that is likely because I masturbate differently. The change of pace and stimulation along with the squeeze of the corona are what makes it work with a partner.

[ssj5]

I basically want to know so that I can last longer when I'm with a woman. I don't have one now but I see no harm in practicing to last longer. The thing is that I want to make sure I know my body well enough to be able to stop myself before I cum. I'm just scared that if I masterbate and try to make myself cum as fast as I can, even if I use the squeeze technique, I think my body will learn to cum as fast as it can. So I want to know how long a session should last before I apply the squeeze technique

[ssj5]

Should I try to last longer than 10 min while masterbating so I won't cum quick while doing real thing??

[dancingdoc2]

> so should I
a) Last as long as I can (masterbate for +30min) and then apply squeeze technique when I'm about to cum
or
b) try to get to an orgasm as fast as possible and then when you're about to cum apply technique
or
c) a and b switching from time to time
or
d) Don't worry about it and just enjoy yourself and apply technique when it's about to happen

I'm guessing it's (d) but I really just want to make sure I'm doing it right. The website say do it for 2-6 weeks and I don't feel like wasting all that time for nothing.

A, B, & C all have to do with your ultimate enjoyment prior to and up to the point your arousal may be nearing the trigger point, therefore, the time spent for all this pleasuring is separate and distinct from what happens when you actually have built your level of arousal to a point that is near the trigger point of your orgasm. As long as you stay further down the curve you're safe for the most part. It is only when you near the plateau phase at the top of the curve where a climax is close at hand (pun if any, indended) that the squeeze technique is useful.

So, what am I saying? D.

The application of the squeeze should only take as long as it takes the sense of urgency to subside. Brandye said ten seconds. OK--and if takes 15-20, OK too. It takes however long it takes which isn't much.

> > [Brandye] I have difficulty understanding using the technique during masturbation but that is likely because I masturbate differently. The change of pace and stimulation along with the squeeze of the corona are what makes it work with a partner.

Our own internal feedback generally makes the squeeze play unnecessary when masturbating. As noted in another post, when we turn control over to our partner, we no longer have self regulation and must rely on verbal or non-verbal cues to inform our partner how we are responding to her/his caresses and for what we may need--now! So, this is why the exercise I outlined is important. Once a guy can recongnize and associate certain sensations with different points along his arousal curve, he can then control the timing of his climax. It is when it sneaks up and surprises him that we have Premature Ejaculation.

> I basically want to know so that I can last longer when I'm with a woman. I don't have one now but I see no harm in practicing to last longer. The thing is that I want to make sure I know my body well enough to be able to stop myself before I cum.

Please read the thread "its a real problem". I've addressed the concerns of Premature Ejaculation in two posts.

Your concerns about self control are lofty goals; however, lasting longer is mostly a matter of communication between you and your partner and in recognizing when you are nearing a climax by the unique sensations that present themselves at this point. Nobody suffers from Premature Ejaculation when masturbating so you cannot master it by yourself. It requires a cooperative effort with you and your partner, whether you use the squeeze play that Brandye suggests and/or master the exercise I recommend.

> I want to know how long a session should last before I apply the squeeze technique

As noted, above, it is not about the time you spend pleasureing yourself, rather, where you find yourself along your arousal curve. It's about recognizing the sensations associated with being at the brink of an orgasm and just before when you can still maintain control. It is a person's failure to recognize and associate these sensations that lets an orgasm sneak up on him.