Tired whilst fingering

[Ringo]

There have been times when I've been fingering my girlfriend (I say fingering, but I'm more specifically talking about stimulating her clit since it works better for her) when my hand, wrist and arm will get tired from the time I spend down there.

Now I'm 30 and in reasonably fit shape, so I'm not too sure why this is. Sometimes it will be after 5 minutes, sometimes somewhat longer.

My girlfriend isn't the easiest to stimulate to orgasm (sometimes I need to work for 40 minutes plus although she enjoys it all.) I've tried swapping hands, but it's tricky to get the same rhythm again. Obviously also used my tongue, but again it's difficult to get the same rhythm going which is what she's after. And when someones enjoying something I'm not the sort of guy who is going to take a break half-way through!

Any thoughts?

Cheers.

[Acid8000]

I myself get the same thing, Half an hour of moving ur hand in the same general motion can get tiring. I myself am in great shape, work my arms and for-arms at the gym every week.
So im guessing everyone gets it from time to time, I just keep goin, screw the cramp, No pain - No gain

Women suffer from this too, we all do :P

[vagabondprince]

you just have to work through the burn sometimes, which is the only way i've dealt with it. Your forearm gets tired, it's as simple as that. it can't keep things up forever no matter how fit you are. and working out generally doesn't work the muscles you use to finger a chick. my preference in moves to stimulate her are to start with the fingering, but only use that to tease and get her going. then i'll move to some tongue action . for me i have found it easier to stimulate the girls i've been with orally. the trick is not to just lick; suck on the clit and all that as well. do some more playing around and figure out what works best for you though. also as you finger her, you build up the endurance your hand will have for the future, so don't give up

[Demonic-Booze]

ya my arm starts killing me after ive been there for more than 10 min. something u might want to try. have ur girl lie with her back on ur stomach. this way u can reach down there still and its at a different angle than before so u can last a bit longer and even return to the original position later. i know my girl loves this position cause when she gets really turned on from both clitorial and breast stimulation she can arch her back around my body.

[dancingdoc2]

Well, there are really two situations to be addressed. The first is the length of time it takes to bring your partner to climax; secondly, muscle fatigue. As for the latter, I remember as a new dance student that I had to learn how to hold my partner with what is called a "dance frame". My arms were not used to being in this position for three-four minutes and quickly became tired. I trained them while driving an hour to and from work by holding the steering wheel like I would a partner and with my left arm out the window.

Another scenerio is when each of us began masturbating. Think back and try to recall how tiring it was to rock your wrist back and forth. Well, the same holds true for trying to stimulate her with movements you are not used to. Now, I must say that doing this for more than a few minutes is not a good solution to the bigger situation which is why it is taking her so long to climax. For this, I suggest devoting more time to making out and then to foreplay instead of fingering her clitoris and environs too soon.

We all have an arousal curve and if you begin certain activities before we are ready then it will take much longer to achieve. It sounds to me like you are relying upon lots and lots of fingering to get her to the point of a climax instead of what the two of you should be doing which is to raise her passions to this high point, first, with lots of making out.

The same holds true for guys. From several recent posts it seems to me that the trend among some young men is to rely upon lots and lots and lots and lots of stroking to get them off---WRONG. Stroking maintains an already high state of arousal while thrusting peaks this and carries us beyond the point of no return. If the two of you are not spending at least half an hour to making out then you are probably starting way to early to peak her arousal just from fingering. Do this when she indicates that she is extremely turned on.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Begin as you are then stop using your hand for clit stimulation and use your mouth while using your fingers to caress her G-Spot. Variety, you know.

[little_me]

thats happened to me plenty of times, sometimes it takes a while but alot of the time its after only 5 or 10 minutes, once my arm actually went totally swollen for some reason lol had to take my watch off cos of it lol.

[Newtolove]

what if she sat in you lap ? I think the mainproblem is also getting easy blood flow to your arm so a position where it is pointing down will help

[little_me]

yeah that kinda helps but not completely, it doesnt get as sore if i am lyin between her legs wen fingerin her, it mainly hurts after a bit wen lyin beside her doin it, i do it anyway lol cos i love it.

[Demonic-Booze]

ive noticed that if i slide down to where my wrist can be straight it doesnt hurt nearly as much