Preference -- Hard and fast or slow and deliberat

[tim_bucktoo]

Ladies, when making love do you prefer

Hard, rough, intense, fast sex with lots of sweat and skin slapping

Or

Nice, slow, deliberate, methodical, romantic love.

I realize a little of both would be the primary answer her but what is your preference most often and why?

[demonbuttercup]

I usually prefer slow, shallow penetration.
I don't usually care of deep pounding penetration. It just doesn't feel as good. It stabs my cervix lol. Also w/ slow grinding im able to feel more stimulation on my clit. With the pounding it really never gets the attention it deserves..lol.

Both is a good answer too. I like to start out slow so I can work up to my orgasm but just when I'm about to come I like it harder and faster.

[Ringo]

The majority of women I've slept with have liked it rather hard throughout.

My current girlfriend likes to start quite soft, which isn't too easy for me after years of doing it other ways. Therefore I've been letting her go on top to control the pace a bit more.

Cheers,

Ringo

[lil'goober]

I like both. More often then not I like it a little rough but a good mix of the two makes for the best sex. I would have to say though, 'Fast sex' is out of the picture, for me at least. It only makes me feel like a cheap whore. I need some tenderness.

I'm with demonbuttercup on the whole 'stabbing' thing. The shallow penetration just hits more nerves, and then when he finally enters you it feels so complete, and it's a rush for both partners.

What's really hot is when a guy is being really tender and loving, but talking really dirty. My new boyfriend does that and I totally love it. It makes me melt.

[eDJ]

I've had many partners and I think most of them want and need to feel loved and cared about initally. *They have all liked the "little pickle tickles" as one of them called it. *I've learned that a womans sex is a different neurological system than a mans and what works for her is usually revealed by the way she would touch herself or the way she would use a sex toy. *Unfortunately that doesn't seem to happen early in a relationship.

Getting to the point where a guy can learn this usually takes some time to build to. *He will have pursued his normal guy style of wham bam am I big enough to fill this thing or what style of humping away.(cause it feels like the way he would masturbate.....when you think about it) This is the delimma for young guys and girls who are becoming sexual in their teens and early twenties. *Also a time for early pregnancies, divorces, and consequent distorted first opinions of sex alltogether or confusion that will last for years if not a lifetime.
(especially for girls/women)

Learning to have sex is kind of like learning to dance when you think about it. *The difference being(to him at least) he has to pound away with a girl so he can cum(procreate). It isn't so much a guy thing(roll eyes) as a physiological factor
of his penis, heartrate, psyche, and some other biological factors. *Girls my be stuck with the feeling like they are the stage for him to perform on and after he climaxes then collapses and rolls over to fall asleep...which is a biological factor in men commonly misunderstood by women. *A young physically fit guy may be able to do two or three orgasms without stopping to get his breath,(but will still collapse) I remember when I could. *These were usually times associated with first sex in a new relationship and being is some special surroundings.

One girl I was with in a new relationship wanted to do it doggie style the first time we had sex. *I had a ribbed condom
and just went so easily barely penetrating her. *As I progressed I would feel her backing into me more frequently. *She was wanting more and deeper in time until I was making full slow strokes. *She was completely into it and moaning sweetly enjoying herself and the pleasure. *I would have liked to have been pounding away and wanted to....but figured the first time would be for hers. *So as I did her I was as focused on her satisfaction and not mine. *After a while she began to murmer "harder", "f*** me harder"! *Within a few moments my mood had shifted and I produced quite an orgasm and she made murmers to acknowledge it and then whispered "stay in me". *So I just stroked her back and bottom with my hands to soothe her. *She was into feeling *the heat of my hot cum inside her. *As I stood there I could feel her inner muscles contracting on me as she savored the *special pleasure I was giving her.

Finally she made the move for me to pull out and I backed up as she turned to be seated in front of me. *Her face lit with excitement when she saw the long drooling condom hanging
from the end of my cock, filled full of jizzum. *She eagerly removed it from me and wanted to dispose of it when she went to the bathroom to pee. *She returned with a wet washcloth and towell to bathe and dry my cock. She was so excited and thrilled by our first sexing. *What surprised me was she wanted to do it again within minutes
where she would sit facing me with her legs spread wide and me on my knees in front of her. *This is when I Fucked her more aggressively and she seemed to enjoyed it as she was wanting to give herself to me.

This girl probably had the best outlook about herself and for having good healthy sex. *She didn't seem to have the insecureties, hangups, or issues many girls have regarding doing what we were doing. *She made a comment to me once that I'll pass along to others here.

"For a woman to be successful with men she 1) should be the wife and mother of the home, 2) be the magician in the kitchen, and 3) be able to be the "Whore of Babalon" in the bedroom". * We were only dating in school and the wife and mother part wasn't an option for us. *I think her philosophy
worked well as being my lady, cook, and lover though. I was always proud to be with her, and she could cook well enough
for a college girl, and the sex was devine.

When with her I realized most of a girls sensitivity is in the lower 1/3 of the vagina near the opening. I would guess that the G spot you hear so much about is at the deepest end of her sensitivity. *So why is her vagina so deep and elastic.....to give the guys sway to do what they have to
do in order to cum. *The guys won't know if the girls don't tell them and bring them to understand this stuff. *That understanding usually comes in time in the framework of a relationship. *So, yes it is difficult for a single girl just starting
out with guys(who are just working on instinct)

One other thing I'll mention that she did and I don't know where she got it. *She presented me with this tickler toy that strapped onto the base of my cock(on top) and had an aray of soft rubber finger-like projections. *She most enjoyed seating me on her couch and straddling me face to face
while grinding her sex on me and giving me her long wonderful sweet kisses....that I will never forget. Here's a photo of something like the tickler she had.



These are some insights I can share concerning the "sewing machine" style opposed to the "slow-poke & grind" methods.

eDJ