Girlfriend's vaginal pain..

[max_power]

Okay, I'm obviously new so I will do my best to make my situation as clear as day. *

My girlfriend and I have been together now over a year and a half, but towards the end of last summer she started having vaginal pains from sex, sometimes a small cut at the base of her vaginal opening. *I think its a lack of lubrication, but I have some other ideas too...

Here's what I am thinking:

1. She works very hard and pressures herself a lot.
2. She wants to make love very badly, but her body doesn't physically prepare itself as it did when we first started having sex. *
3. Not only does she pressure herself because she wants it, but she wants to please me too. *

I think that all this, added to the fact that we have been together for a while compounds and prevents her body from preparing itself. *We do use lubes sometimes, and I am not sure how much that helps, but it seems like it does. *

Right now she is studying at a different campus and is about 5 hours away. *Over the summer, I saw her like 3 times, and thats how many times we got to make love. *She said she recently noticed that with a friend of hers, she noticed excitement, but ignored it because of what we have. *Is this simply because it would be something new and exciting?? *That is what I think and hope. *

As you can imagine, being apart is killing the both of us and if we don't work something out, I'm afraid of it coming to an end. *I know that this is something we both have to work on, which will be very difficult being so far apart. *Our relationship has been so very amazing in every way possible, and I cartainly don't want it to end because of this. *I have been bent out of shape the last couple days because she said that it is really bothering her and the excitement by others is confusing. *Is this normal? *

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. *Thanks for listening and wish me luck.

[WallyLlama]

While they may seem related, I'm not so sure these are... the "pain" issue is best addressed by a doctor visit. I wouldn't begin it guess what's causing it, although a lack of lubrication should be fairly obvious and also easily resolved.

As for being "excited" by someone else... I'd say that's about as normal as you can get! "I only have eyes for you" is great poetry, but we're human and our bodies respond to stimuli.

On the other hand, the undercurrent of you post seems to be suggesting you might sense some relationship problems because of the long distance factor... she's not finding you as exciting as she used to... she's attracted to others...

That's also quite normal. But the wonderful thing about a relationship is that you don't have to do the math alone. Instead of getting bent out of shape by trying to figure out what these things add up to, you can ask her! She may not fully know the answer herself, but you can team up to figure one out. And, to some extent, you can go for the answer you want by determining how you are going to cope with the distance, etc.

You make your own luck, really.

[camman]

Man u can just look at it this way.

YOUR DICKS TOO BIG.

LOL. look there is a bright side to everything.

And incase u dont end up with here it will be really kool to be able to say< " yea i was way to big for my last girlfriend "

Any way i know i didnt really give advise but i like to have that avarage post thingy say at least two per day and this is my second post
So yea tanxs!