WOMEN WHO ENJOY ANAL SEX PLEASE HELP MY WIFE

[jay_bee]

This post is directed towards the women on this forum who enjoy anal sex.

I know anal sex is not for everybody, love it or hate it. Also, I understand the reasons why certain people are for anal sex and others are against it. I?m not looking for advice on whether or not a person should practice anal sex.

With that said?

My wife and I tried anal sex one time several years ago. We were young, inexperienced, and unprepared. The experience was not a good one for either of us. Although, penetration never occurred, she experienced a lot of pain. Because of this, she swore she would never do try it again.

Over the past year or so I have been gradually reintroducing the idea of giving it another shot. At first, her answer was a firm no. She would not let me anywhere near that area. Slowly, over time, I began moving closer to her anus during foreplay. We are to the point where I can apply just enough direct pressure to her anus with my finger to avoid insertion. I know she?s enjoying it because she is having very intense orgasms, and she isn?t telling me to stop. But, she is still nervous about the pain she may experience during penetration or actual anal sex.

What we would like is for the women of this forum who ?enjoy? anal sex to be honest about their first experiences with anal sex. What can she expect during and after? How would you scale the pain, and how long did you experience it? Did anyone experience any health related problems caused by anal sex, ect?

Please be honest. She wants to be informed, and I thought learning from real people, with real experience, is the best way to learn. Thank you.

[thetease13]

I have never had anal sex but I do plan on trying it..hopefully sometime in the near future (time is not exactly in my favor at this time when it comes to getting together with my guy).
It is not something I really ever wanted. In fact, I never wanted it, but I knew that he did so we compromised. He would give me something I wanted and I would let him do that.

Now, I know that it will hurt and it will probably hurt a lot.
However I know to use a lot of lube.

So my advice to you is to use lots and lots of lube.
While it may still hurt for her quite a bit (the anus does not expand like the vagina does), it may help cut down on it some.

[Tessie]

Ok I will give this question a shot. I have done the anal thing many times over the years with my hubby. Its not for free and he has to make one heck of a deal or give me something I am wanting. We use it as the ultimate bribe or reward. But we are like that.

First off on the subject of tons of lube. There is such a thing as to much lube. The last time he used so much he couldnt get it in. Plus to much makes a horrible mess to clean up.

The times its been for me is when its not totally planned that I will. If left for me to dwell on I get very tense knowing that the pain is coming and don't want that.

Our best times to do it is when he has me so horny and wet that I don't care what he does to me. When he is down eating me and using my dildo he will use his fingers to get it ready and then stick it in.

Now there are times it hurts so bad that I cry and he will stop. And there's been times when it has actually felt good. Can't predict when the good will happen.

Good luck.

[Brandye]

I will not advise for or against but please read my quite old golden post on the topic.

[jay_bee]

Thank you for the replies. Please understand that we aren?t looking for advise on the pros and cons of practicing anal sex. We are looking for people to share their early experiences with anal sex so she has a better idea of what to expect.

We have educated ourselves on this subject, but we feel that hearing about what others have actually experienced is the most accurate information.

Thanks again.

[starburst697]

Hey, hopefully this isn't too late to be of any use to you, but hey, I'll put it out there. Me and my bf have been having anal sex for about a year now, and yeah, like others have said, at first it did hurt. *My bf has accidentally put it in too far before I was ready, and the pain was pretty bad. I've been told by him that it's pretty hard to control the urge to just put his dick right in, and you might experience that too. The trick is, however, to put your dick in very, very, very slowly. *You need to let enough time go so that her muscles relax and open so that you'll be able to fit, rather then shoving it in when she's still tight. *MAKE SURE SHE'S RELAXED! She'll be tensed up if she's not, and the muscles will too. *Go slow the first couple of times, and use lots and lots of lube. When you think you've used enough, u probably want to use more. *You may want to stick your finger, first one then another, to get her ready and get the muscles relaxed. It's probably best to let her ease herself onto you when you're first entering her, that way she controls the movement and will know when she's ready. I haven't had any health problems because anal sex. *When you guys get more used to it, you might want to try her on top with your back propped up against a wall, the angle lets her stimulate her clit on your stomach while she rides you, the angle gives a wonderful sence of fullness, ooooh, just thinking about it. Oh yeah, and she may want to, how would you say it, empty her bowels before, makes things a lot less messy. *Just remember, the space isn't like the vagina, its curved, so some angles won't work well, standing up with her bent forward works best in the beginning. If you have anymore questions, I'll be glad to help!

[otradiogirl2]

Start with rimming. It feels great and opens the anal area to more exploration. Always begin slowly! Make sure she is very turned on and wet too. Use good water soluable lube. Have fun that is most important. It feels great with the right person.

[nuttychick]

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