Wanting to try bi?

[**StRiPpEd*AwAy**]

Hey guys...haven't posted in a long time so...anyways, I have this problem..
I'm 20 years old, and have been in a LDR with a guy for like 3 years. I've always had relationships with only guys and I've never been with a girl before..or even thought about it. I never really thought it would ever be 'my thing' to be bi until a casual new friend of mine told me that she was really into me and wanted to mess around. There's always been a certain charm to her that i liked but never really got it...but idunno. The other thing is that she works with me too and I'm afraid of risking the weirdness of after we did it or if people found out and what they would say because we're co-workers. Everytime I see her I get really hot and I wanna just go for it and get on her, but something is holding me back and I can't figure out what it is. Do you guys think that it's just because i've never been with a girl before or what? She's around the same age as me and I've been having problems in my relationship with my bf for a long time now so I'm thinking of just going for it. She told me that the reason she hasn't already tried anything with my physically yet is because she's afraid of my reaction so I think that if things are gonna happen, I'm gonna hve to take the next step...any ideas? should I go thru with this? and if so, how do i go about it?
Please give me some help guys...I work with her everyday and it's getting to be really confusing and hard to deal with it all the time...thanks guys
xoxoxo
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[wonderboy]

Reading your post it sounds as though you realy want to go for it. I don't know what's holding you back, it may be that you feel like it's not right, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal for a woman to feel like this towards another woman. You've just gotta go with what YOU feel is right. Don't let society hold you back.

[thetease13]

if you're worried about what your other co-workers will think, don't.

i'm "involved" with a "co-worker" ("involved" cause we are, but we aren't and "co-worker" because he only works there one day a week) and before we ever started doing things, the rumors were already flying simply because we have a fairly close friendship.
neither of us liked those rumors, and we still don't like the ocassional ones that float around. but for me, it's honestly to the point where i don't care anymore. let them think what they want. it's not ANY of their business why i'm good friends with him or why i'm attracted to him or whatever. and i will continue to shoot down their rumors as much as i can.
what we do in our spare time does not affect our work and that's all that matters.

[archer]

I say definetly go for it, i reckon the time is right and the only negative is that co-worker thing. i reckon if u make the first move, she'll definetly guide u along and ull feel really comfortable, she just doesnt want to get on the bad side of you. she just needs some type of repsonse to tell her that its okay for her to move to the next level. she is definietly a good find wen she is really considerate of you.

your inhibitions are prolly as you say , its cos you havent been with a girl before. go for it!!

wat else can be the next step be than a kiss? and breaking up wif ur b/f?

good luck....trust me ull b fine!

[katie]

If you do go for it, make sure you let her know that you aren't entirley sure about your sexuality. You don't want her to end up feeling used if it doesn't work out.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Also.. don't forget about the guy.. make sure to.. break it off.. or something.. and THEN maybe get involved with someone else.. or..maybe just talk with them about it.. i duno... just dont leave them out in the air too long

jamie

[oberon]

Thank you, Lady. *I was surprised no one brought that up before. *Just because it's a woman you want to fool around with doesn't mean it isn't cheating. *You can either let him know you want to try this or break up with him, but, please don't do it behind his back. *Deal with him first.

As far as how to proceed, it's just like any other relationship. *Just let her know you are interested and go from there. *Katie is right when she says you both should be aware that this is an experience you are unsure of and may not work out.

Your worries on what people will think are valid. *Gay people- which is how your relationship will be viewed- are still discriminated against- with little or no protection from the law. *You should be aware of that and be willing to deal with the consequences.

[laroxes]

Some people have already labelled you as gay or lesbian. I don't see it that way. You appear to want to experience intimacy with both sexes. If I were female I would have a strong desire to get close to another girl to find the different type of love we could share. I wouldn't call it cheating because I don't feel we compete in the same way. Another man would be a different story. Of course you must know what a turnon it is for a man to be included in a bifemale trio. Right now I'm fantasizing how exciting & delicious it would be to kiss a girl whose lips & tongue still had the taste of her girlfriend's climax.

[3ATM3]

Hey,

Your BF defintley wont care (unless he's gay?)