Male moaning/groaning

[lilcoyote]

I love to do a variety of things during sex from foreplay to penetration but one thing that REALLY gets me aroused is hearing my partner enjoying it from moaning,panting,breathing hard and dirty talk..but alas it is so rare though I have mentioned it..is this common to other males out there? how noisy are you?

[thetease13]

my guy is a heavy breather and a sigher when i'm giving him a blowjob. he's also a "god that feels good" person.
he grunts and breathes hard some more when he cums too.
it's all soft though. never loud. and i find it majorily sexy and such a turn on.

[Bewitching]

With my ex-bf, we were going out for nearly 2 years. Our sex life was amazing.

It was only within the last, say, 6 months that he actually started coming around and doing the whole "breathe hard, moan" here and there, the "oh yeh's" (but only quietly).

I wondered the exact same thing, let me tell you, and being the person that i am, i let the whole world know when he'd hit a good spot.

I think that he was always "shy" in bed so to speak. I was the only woman he has ever felt truely comfortable with in ALL aspects, not just sex alone. A lot of men i've even heard of have been the same, and enjoy the women's part of the noise and never really express it themselves. They tend to feel "embarrassed" or incase they sound "stupid". As i mentioned, it was only in approx. the last 6 months of our relationship that my ex started making noise and DAMN did it turn me on even more, truely amazing. So all in all, it's a self-concious thing. Eventually, they will grow out of it. It may take years for them to finally express it despite the relationship status, and it will only be with a woman they truely feel comfortable with.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Well, i know how you feel< I LOVE IT!! gebus guys.. LISTEN TO US lol WE LUUUUUVVV it.. LOL sometimes too.. when you dont it makes us wanna be quiet... i duno about you but if he gets going so do i. but sometimes he will do it.. and *drool* other times.. hes very quiet.. but alot of the time i ask him to do it.. and when he does.. i start doing other things to bring it out more.. lol see guys? :P wouldnt you like to see what your girl could do.. ALL by using your voice :P and breathing is great, but around the ears.. but i'd rather the guy moan.. or something or just EXpress it in someway. cause you know... sometimes GUYS :P its like we know you are enjoying it.. but arent sure.. so it makes us shy.. and kinda like.. "well.. ok?"
I thought i would add that.. :P

Jamie

[Rawbob]

I've reflected quite a bit on this....and i've come to some interesting, self-revealing, and hopefully NOT TOO controversial realities.

I think we can all agree that no matter your orientation, usually the first few sexual events had more "overt expressions" of what was going on - even if they may have been a bit forced. We all want our partners to THINK they are bringing us pleasure.

That said, i looked back and compared how i acted and "expressed myself vocally" during sex...and here's what i came up with:

Active vs. Passive Vocalization
Active Vocalization: I know for me, that as a TOP, during sex, i'm taking the active role. I'm DOING something to someone - be it vaginal, oral or anal sex, i am the one bringing the pleasure to my partner. Because of that, i'm more focused on GIVING the pleasure and listening for feedback from my partner by what he/she says or does while i'mi doing it. So, if i'm in the missionary position and i'm doing my thing, i'm usually watching my partner for visual signs that i'm doing ok, and also verbal signs that indeed i'm pleasuring him/her. Because of that, i'm most often NOT going to be overly verbal, other than the typical "My god you feel good, this feels incredible, is this good for you, etc". Add to this, the TOP or ACTIVE role is usually much more of a physical position and the ANXIETY factor that goes on with every TOP/ACTIVE person..the age old question, "I wonder if he/she's enjoying this" or "I hope this feels good" etc.

Passive Vocalization: If you take the prior position, and reverse it, you have the Bottom or PASSIVE role. When i'm laying back and my parter is in the TOP or Active role, i am then free to relax and focus on what is being done to me by my partner. I find myself being MUCH MORE verbally and physically expressive when i'm in the bottom/passive position. I love giving feedback to my partner about what he/she is doing and how wonderful it feels, or what i want more or less of. It really is amazing when i look back, and even when i talk to my partner about our sex, he says, Yep...no doubt, when you're on the bottom (passive) you get to really focus on whats happening.

So, the bottom line for me, is that "switching" alot during love making is KEY to keeping everyone verbally engaged. Gals, if you're always receiving sex, try and slow things down, and roll over and YOU do something. Make HIM lay still and you lick his nipples, or french kiss his bellybutton, or lick that very SENSATIVE spot on a man between his scrotum and anus (trust me, he may squirm at first, but licking down there will drive him crazy).

If you want to be more, or get more vocalization from yourself and your partner - switch it up! Don't be a prude! And for all you str8 gals - if you want to see your hubby be expressive? Blindfold him, and give him a prostate massage! You'll hear him say and do things he's NEVER done before - and he'll love you for it!

[Humble]

Hmm, I don't know... I don't think its shyness that is causing men not to be vocal. Perhaps they just do not feel the urge to do so - it just does not feel natural and doing so would feel fake for the man concerned?

I can't speak from proper experience, but when masturbating I never feel the slightest urge to grunt, etc. even though I am alone and have no cause whatsoever to be shy in such a situation. I think this may account for men's 'silence' in proper relationships too. Most likely, however, if you mention that you like it, most men will do it to please you, but it is not something they would do spontaneously (at least I would not)...

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

rawbob, i duno.. thats how I AM in bed.. usally.. but he isnt at all.. like that..he usally watches me like hes doing all thew ork :P lol ya know?

jamie

[Cornelius111]

Simple answer: men, on average, are not as vocal as women.

[demonbuttercup]

my b/f talks dirty and tells me it feels good but as far as moans and grunts he's pretty quiet in that area.
he likes me to talk dirty but i find sometimes it just distracts me for some reason.

[lilcoyote]

I find whether on top or bottom I have to urgue my partner to it because as mentioned it does let me know what feels good to them apart from their movements and increases my passion in great degrees but to have to urge it during the act is distracting. though I know most are quiet til the end then they become more vocal but how can we bring it about more...?teasing til they are made to say oh please don't stop ,keep going..oh yes...etc heheheh kind of likes the sound of that actually heheh[I]