Just a Few Nagging Questions

[Biggie]

1. My girlfriend recently went on birth control for the first time. Naturally, cumming inside of her is a rather new thing we have experienced. She has since (today actually) that the cum inside her is very annoying and uncomfortable. I take it, it is leaking out and making things pretty messy for her. Is it really that annoying for women after sex? Id have to admit today was kinda messy, and it had been awhile since i came so it was probably pretty big, but according to her happends on just about every occasion. Any tips you can give her to help remedy the lack of post-sex comfort?

2. I personally am in what many call the sexual prime of my life, yet I find it hard to get myself in the mood once again after sex. Within 10 or so minutes after cumming I can get hard again but mentally I am not ready. Furthermore when I do force myself to have sex with her again, I last way to long and it is not enjoyable. Less feeling both physically and mentally for a longerer amount of time, I feel I must force the cum out of me just to finish. Not sure what the question is coming to, of course I know this is all normal, I guess I just am hoping to get some sort of advice or tips.

3. The length of time I can last has greatly improved over time. However it is still a game to maximize the time. If i go wailing on her going for maximum penetration and speed I will end up cuming within 20 or so seconds. Hate that. Going so forcefully feels the best for the both of us and I, truthfully, get tired of going slow and taking my time and switching to forplay etc. etc. etc, when we both know what feels the best. Certainly making sex a strategic game of maximum length of time does make the overall experience much more pleasurable, then just a quike 30 second sprint to the finish, but it still gets old.

4. Can porno stars really last 20 minutes of constant high power sex?

5. This is possibly the most annoying question I have and it deals with femal orgasms. Ok, we are all different and not every women is as capable of orgasm as others, but that doesnt solve the problem. My girlfriend, it seems, can only cum after about 5 minutes of oral clitoral stimulation. This is usually ok, because I do like giving her the upmost pleasure I can, however I admit that our moods sometimes clash and she wants to orgasm, yet I do not want to give her oral. She gets to the point where she does not enjoy the sexual experience unless she cums. I understand this because, naturally, I get pretty irritable when I do not cum. However, there has got to be another way to please her without my eating her out EVERY time. Finger stimulation during sex doesnt seem to help... Is there anything I can do? Sorry if i do not want to eat her out everytime we have sex, but I doubt she would want to suck my dick everytime I pull of my pants. It really ruins her sexual experience when she doesnt cum...
Thanks Guys

[thetease13]

the first three i can't really help with...so i'll leave them up to someone else.

however.

#4) it depends on the people. there are people NOT in pornos that can last that long. it just depends on the people. and sometimes it depends on how in shape you are. the more in shape you are, the more likely you can keep up your stamina.

#5) well first i would suggest talking to her and seeing if there's anything else you can do besides eating her out. communication is still the key to any relationship...sexual or nonsexual. however, there may not be anything you can do other than oral to help her reach orgasm. some women just cannot comen without clit stimulation, whether oral or just rubbing. it's not uncommon. it's annoying sometimes, but not uncommon.
but again, talk to her. see if there's anything you can do to help her.

[LittleFury]

OK, lets see if I can help.
1) It does feel kind of strange a lot of times. I would recommend to try putting a towl underneath of you before you do it, so the mess will be a bit easier to clean up. Also, I would have baby wipes and soft paper towls on hand, this could also help you to clean up afterwards. See if that works.
2) All people are made differently. IT might just take you longer to get back into that state. OR you mgith be one of the people who can't do it twice in a row within a short period of time. Nothing bad about that.
3) A lot of times then you go forceful, it is actually hard for a guy to last long. Especially if the girl is pretty tight. Even very experienced guys might have trouble lasting then going deep and fast and forceful. Thats just the nature. Dunno what to recooemnd for that though, sorry.
4) Possibly. MAybe, maybe not. You know, they have done it so many times, that a lot of times it's a job to them. Also, you do know they sometimes can cut and splice and all that fun stuff with the tape. And I think I read somewhere that there are some requirements to be bale to be a porn star, that mgiht be one of them. PLsu then you're doing that with a chick who is like a 5 galoon bucket, it probably much easier to last.
5) Get her a sex toy. If fingers won't do it, then maybe a sex toy would. ANd could probably be fun if you use it on her. Also, you know a thing guys call "blue balls"? Girls can get something like that. IT can ache, not painfully, but it can potentially ache if you don't come. Can get pretty annoying. Also, consider yourself lucky that she can orgasm after only 5 min, it can take me from half an hour to almost an hour a lot of times. Also think about it. HOw fair is it? That seems to be the only way for her orgasm. And if she's craving it and you won't give it to her, then how pleasurable would that particular encounter be for her. YOu say that she probably wouldn't give you oral every time, but the thing is that for you there is another way. For her there isn't. Just think about it. So until you find soemthing that works, I would say give it to her as much as you can, especially since I'm sure 5 minutes of you giving her oral and making her come beats her laying in bed after you guys are done and you orgasms and feeling pretty crappy. NOt bashing you, just a food for a thought.

[Biggie]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]you do know they sometimes can cut and splice and all that fun stuff with the tape

That is what spurred the question and curiosity. I figured that is what they do, but hey if one can last that long then more power to ya.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

and yes, it is annoying.. when its "leaking" lol you feel.. so full and sometimes it does feel nasty.. i can't blame her for feelin that way, but a towel does wonders.. or just going to the bathroom.. helps..

jamie

[crystalnmo]

I think it feel pretty gross. We always have a towel by the bed. I like one slightly cold and damp. Also you could consider pulling out and cumming on her, or in her mouth, some people enjoy that.

[Brandye]

Well, welcome to womanhood! Our biological role is to extract semen and take into our own bodies. There is about a tablespoonful and of that half is absrobed through the vaginal walls and the other half drains out. Hence, the notorious "wetspot," source of many jokes.

It tickles as it runs out and the next trip to the loo with the putrifying juices of both running out smells bad.

The soultion: stop having sex!

On the orgasm issue, your g/f and I are the same. Only a quarter of all women typically reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Half of us need oral or digital stimulation. The other quarter simply do not have orgasms.

Do her first and then it does not matter how long you last. Although many of us are most receptive to a penis immediately after orgasm, we also tire of the thrusting rather quickly. Five to ten minutes is more than enough for me and much longer and the guy will find himself on the floor.

[tikteka57]

Okay about #2 Lasting a long time is always good just go hard and she will love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And if you need to get into the mood just get her to tease you!!!! like get hard and tell her to rub your penis around her clit and vagina without penitration she and you will both be horny in no time!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#3 if you really fell you need to last longer just wear a thin condom!!!!! you will still feel alot of the pleasure and if it breaks she is on the pill so it does not matter!!!!!!!!!!

#4 Yes some gies can go that long!!!!!!!! what worked for me is kegel exercises and honestly let your mind wonder while paying attention and still ****ing hard!!!!! i can go without a condom for about 45 min hard and i mean she is screaming for 40 of them!!!!!

#5 The only advice here is try to please your significant other as much as possible!!!!!! if you want her to taste better get her to eat alot of fruit!!!!! Make a fruit platter before a nignt when you are going to have sex and both of you eat it and she will go nuts i mean nuts. also try eating her out with whip cream or play the skittles game
the game is get skittles and put one down there move it around with your tongue but becareful don let it get lost!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

1. use a condom - problem solved. Condoms are not for birth control they are for hygiene and std protection.

2. focus on eroticism and develop your foreplay skills; this will also help with #5

3. forcefully may feel great - until you bang into her cervix or slide above it and ram right through her vaginal wall into her adominal cavity. It happens.

4. pills - need I say more?

5. see #2 above and learn how to caress her G-Spot with the head of your penis