No Noise while "Fooling Around"

[LuvinVanessa4]

I've been on this board for like a year now and people have some good follow ups to the questions that people have posted. Well, the problem I am having is I want my girlfriend to make noise when we do stuff. Were both virgins and have not had sex yet, and I'm hoping that when we do that she will make some noise. I've noticed when we do stuff though she starts breathing louder and faster and like at times you'll hear like as if she can't keep up with the breathing and she'll make this one sound kinda like lol i don't know its hard to explain kinda like a moan i guess, i think she's really nervous about making any noises like that or moaning or anything like that, is their anyway that I can help her to be more comfortable with making noise during stuff, cuz i find it a turn on. also another question i know she won't let me go down on her either, she thinks its sick, but i really just wanna try it once and see if she changes her mind about it, does anybody have any ideas that would help? Thanks!

Thanks,
John

[?wiseman?]

Hey John, some women are "moaners" and some are not. Your gf may just be a bit shy about letting go with her verbal utterances. You can try talking to her, asking her how it feels, what she'd like you to do, etc. Once she feels more comfortable verbalizing, she may open up with expressions of the sort you're seeking.

As for going down on her, just a couple things off of the top of my head. Go very slowly and don't make a big deal out of it. Focus on other areas of her body with your mouth and tounge and as she begins to respond, SLOWLY begin to move south. If she hesitates, back off. Remember, the whole idea is to pleasure her and if she's not comfortable with it, then she's not going to enjoy it.

I would also suggest that you can bring a warm washcloth to bed with you. You can stroke her "down there" with it in a pleasurable manner while you're cleaning her as well. This might encourage her to open up a bit as well as she may simply be concerned that she's not "clean" down there.

[Caitshidhe]

On the topic of moaning, some people do, some people don't. *Both my boyfriend and I are incredibly silent when we fool around. *It's very handy when his parents are in the house at the same time. * * *

If you are wondering if she's enjoying it, watch for other reactions, besides moaning. *If she's afraid of being vocal, try to talk to her about it.

Communication is the key, and you should discuss this with her, bring it up carfully, and get her more comfortable with the subject. *Eventually, she'll most likely open up and let you go down on her. *I know I was nervous as anything when my boyfriend first went down on me. *It just takes alot of talking and getting used to.