I made her orgasm

[kevin83]

i dont care about making woman orgasm, it isnt somethin thats important, but about a week ago, i was fooling around with my girlfriend and she said after it that she'd orgasmed about seven times. this shocked me cause i didnt notice anything extra there, like more fluid, when woman orgasm is there more fluid? or are there dry ones too? im confused.

kev

[mike]

Why do you care? I thought it wasn't important.

[kevin83]

i didnt care before, but now that she said it happened, im curious because if she hadnt of said anything, i wouldnt of known and i wanna know what the signs are, IE extra fluid, like a guy, because i wanna know what i missed. because i was pleasin her and she was going crazy and i stopped after a while and she was disapointed because she was close, and i dont wanna do that to her again.

[HngLkAMouse]

To echo Mikes question...? Why do you care NOW all-of-a-sudden...?

FYI - the reason I bring it up (possibly Mike too, I cannot speak for him) is that your words cary weight when it is text-only on a screen, and you should choose them well.

You opened your message with a fairly ignorant comment saying that you really don't care about your partner's orgasm... giving the impression that all you ever cared about up 'till that point was your OWN orgasm, and that's all.

That there is part of the answer to your question. You need to PAY ATTENTION to your partner(s) if you want to understand them. There is no 100% sure-fire, tell-tale sign for all women. They all have differing ways of achieving, expressing and experiencing orgasms. If you REALLY are starting to care aboutit... then you need to pay more attention to HER and be less physically selfish.

NOW... in your defense, you may be young (I don't know) but if so... we've all been there at SOME point when we started out. Guys tend to start-out thinking that the girl is feeling just what the GUY is feeling. Nope.

Picture getting a backrub from a girl and it feels great. Do you think SHE'S getting the same pleasure from it..? No... you need to RECIPROCATE and understand that just because YOU have an orgasm, she is still waiting for HER orgasm, and when you just "stop" after you get yours and never take the time to learn how to please HER... she is missing-out in a big way.

I can't tell you how many women I know that never had orgasms from their first few years of sexual activity because the guys just didn't know or care how to please them.

Here's an excercise. Try having an evening of sex where only YOU please her. No B/Js, no hand-jobs, you stimulate HER. Start with a sentual undressing of her. SLOWLY. Kiss all-over as you do. Do NOT jump right into sex. Then, when she is either naked or partially clothed. Start rubbing her all-over. Rub her shoulders... her feet... her legs... her back... her neck... her arms...

Kiss her gently all-over... tease her by giving a slight kiss on the neck, nipples or just above the vagina.

Spend a good hour to get to this point. She should be getting good & ready by now. THEN, start to slowly pleasure her... touch her breasts, neck, rub her vagina & clit... keep kissing all-over. Perform oral on her... use your fingers... have intercourse, but do NOT have an orgasm... if you feel you're getting close... keep stimulating her with your tongue or fingers and subdue YOUR orgasm.

If you take your time and put some thought into it, you can give her a night to remeber for a long time... if you play your cards right, you can do it OFTEN and become a better 'partner' from it and she will reciprocate.

Bottom-line, when doing this, pay attention to HER... what makes her crazy... what gets her to maon... what makes her squirm... you will soon learn what to do, what not to do, and what order to do things in to have her go wild.

Lotsa-luck...!!

[girl12]

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Quote[/b] (kevin83 @ Dec. 31 2003,07:27)]i dont care about making woman orgasm, it isnt somethin thats important, but about a week ago, i was fooling around with my girlfriend and she said after it that she'd orgasmed about seven times. *this shocked me cause i didnt notice anything extra there, like more fluid, when woman orgasm is there more fluid? or are there dry ones too? im confused.

kev

i agree with hnglkamouse (sp) . that is a very ignorant comment to make. u make it seem like women are just sex objects.....thats what i think u are making it out to be. i wouldn't feel very special if i knew that my partner did not care about making me feel good.

-if she says she has had an orgasm trust her.

[kevin83]

WOAH!

I did NOT mean that at all! I just meant that i've looked around here and seen guys that are like "I MUST MAKE HER ORGASM", and they get told to shut up, i was merely trying to say that i'm not FACINATED about that sort of stuff, and obsesseed, like some who want to know every secret just so they can say that they've made their partner orgasm. of course i care about her. we're engaged i understand ow that may have came across and i apologise sincerely if i've upset anyone.

Thanks very much for the advise, i thank you dearly, happy new year.

kev

[HngLkAMouse]

That's why I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt. As I stated earlier, what you (any of us) MEAN to say, and what we actually type sometimes conflict.

If you re-read your initial post, you can see how it CLEARLY can be misconstrued as selfish womanizing...

Happy New Year to all, as well...!

[KaLiBaH]

and people wonder why wars are started .....