Penis Size 101

[hookedemin06]

Okay, I'm at a bit of a loss here. I've been married to the most wonderful man for 7 years now. The sex has been horrific for 6.5 of the last 7 years. When we were dating, I knew he was small (3.5 in erect), okay reaalllly small, but it was new love and everything else was so perfect. We also spent a fair bit of time early on in the relationship drinking socially (he's Australian - it's a national pasttime:-), so a lot of the timing and technique problems that would have been red flags weren't really all that noticeable. What I have now is a husband with a really (do I need to say it again...reeeaaallly) small penis (my previous lovers were 7 and 8 inches - with the odd average sized fling thrown in), a serious timing problem (I can literally count to 5, we're talking 2 thrusts, 4 max, and all the skills of your average 16 year old. I do not know what to do. I love my husband dearly, wouldn't ever think about leaving him. Cheating is not really an option. Does anyone have any suggestions? Anyone out there faced with something similar? I've thought about a sex therapist, because I really do think that there can be some happiness if the timing and technique issues are taken care of (because well, anatomy is anatomy and there's nothing that can be done about that). Has anyone ever been? Would they be helpful in this kind of situation? I've tried teaching, we've tried books, nothing has worked.

[69mustang]

size counts for some thing, but, so does the ability and knowledge to perform to the satisifaction of your mate.

[xx_tatiana_xx]

Size to me isn't that much of an issue. Anything around average (5-7) inches is fine! I slept with a guy who had a wide penis and was also really long and found it to be painful, neither of us could get into it when I was yelping in pain every thrust. I've also slept with someone a little under average and that was also fine. I find about 6.5 inches or a little bit bigger to be ideal. However I definitely echo what someone else said, I'd rahter have a small penis on an amazing man than a large one on someone who can't make me happy outside of the bedroom. Most of the time I get the greatest pleasure from my bf going down on me or fingering me (normal sex is great as well, because of the mental part that my guy is inside me, but physically the other stuff feels nicer) so the penis size isn't really important.

[SassierApple]

I used to be a "size doesn't matter" kind of girl. Until last night, that is.

I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months. Had never done anything but kissed because "he respected me". Well now I know why. His penis is tiny. I mean TINY. Not only is it tiny, he doesn't know what to do with it.

I really really like him, but I don't know that I can deal with this. HELP!!

[hookedemin06]

I couldn't agree with you more. I think that those that say size doesn't matter have never been with a man who is truly small, like waaay below the average. I agree that other parts of the relationship are more important (if I didn't, I wouldn't still be married and madly in love with my husband), but I went from a sex doesn't really matter kind of girl to a what I wouldn't give for a long stiff one in me kind of girl. My husband does do other things to please me (I'm not a big fan of him going down because he's just not very good at it which is more frustrating than not having it done). The fact is though that if all I wanted was some hands and a mouth, I'd be with a woman. The other fact is that he was given what he was given. What I'm trying to do now is work on technique and timing (he's currently sub 30 seconds --- no, really, he is). I think that if we could get better at some of the other aspects of sex the size would still be a problem, but not as big of a problem as it is now. I would say, try to work on his skills. If that doesn't work, run. It's nice to say that on a nice guy size doesn't matter, but believe me, eventually it will - especially if he has no skills.

[Luvs2plzU]

6.5 yrs of horrific sex??? ....you don't just get handed great sex techniques when you are born.you just don't become a cunnilingus specialist overnight!!..it takes some reading and GOOD feedback from a partner....this is a TEAM effort..I think some divine intervention by a sex therapist is going to have to be sought out..the 2 stroke and out is obviously something deeper than just some training...i'm thinking he's totally under tremendous performance anxiety or something along those lines...there is an underlying malaise that is causing all this and heck it could be psychololgical..but it needs to be dealt with....better try that appointment you were thinking about before this turns into a train wreck !!

[Meow]

Hookedemin~ I would normally just lurk, but feel bad enough reading your post when I have a suggestion. I have a friend who like your husband had a below average sized penis and he started doing penis exercises and actually grew his penis longer and thicker in less than a year. Size increase alone, will not make him a better lover but at least he had more to work with. It also built his self confidence up so their lovemaking is a whole lot better. He also gets stronger erections as well he can control himself to not ejaculate until he wants to. Am I allowed to post the site? My friend is now a moderator there helping other guys with these problems.

[anti-hero]

I tell you anxiety is the worst thing that can happen to a man's sexual performance... In terms of penis size I'm one of those guys who thought of himself as extremely blessed. Every gf I had before the incident practically worshipped me in bed and I felt great about it as a young athlete.

However, when I was in college I finally was getting down to business with one girl and when I dropped my pants she took one long stare of horror and said "Oh my god that's waaay to big! Are you crazy?! Don't come near me!" It so happened that I was really into this girl, (even envisioned a future with her) and her having that reaction gave me the biggest anxiety problem for just about a year and some. Coupled with that there was the fear of sex period, and then the fear that if I was too big that I should try to finish as soon as possible so I wouldn't hurt her - so sexual unhappiness became my middle name. Good thing I found a girl who loved me for not only for me but loved my size and was willing to work through the issues I had. Now that that is over I am better than I ever was before but I have to say...

(1) be careful how you approach your men cuz it could have lasting effects
(2) size does matter to most women when the penis size is on either extreme - below 4 1/2 and above 8 inches.

[wizz kid]

yip thats right, the average woman can only manage 5"s so you can stop worrying! worrying will only put a damper on your performance. believe in yourself and enjoy for you rather than worry for her and things should sort themselves out

[Visa Man]

what girth do girls generally like?

im 14 and 6 inches girth,

i think the average is 5?

but i am not talking about averages, what girth do girls generally like? and what may hurt them/they wouldnt feel anything.