Fingering 101

I was wondering>

What are the BEST BEST BEST techniques for fingering a girl and giving oral sex...specific details are appreciated...THANXX

[Smoove]

I just went down on my girl a few days ago. It was tons of fun. She loved it, I enjoyed it, and she even tasted good. I pretty much just flicked my tongue around her clit while my thumb sorta rubbed the lips and entrance. I fount it really hard to use both hand and mouth.

BTW, can anyone help me figure out when to tell when she comes? I always miss it, and she has to tell me to stop.

[vette1963]

Fingering and oral are a self taught art - differs girl to girl. i have found out that if you take time and rub her mound of pussy hair for a while they tend to warm up.gentle pressure on the mound and move your hand around - star at the bottom of her stomach use your whole hand almost like a massage on the outside of her pussy. then slide your middle finger over her clit to the actual hole and move it in and out like a swinging door that is attached at the top - just barely catch the bottom of the hole as you going in very shallow strokes in and out. she should be or getting pretty wet by now - now try sticking a finger or two in her and if you can change positions so your head is at her feet turn you hand palm up and insert your finger try to find a spot or rough surfice on the inside of her on the outer wall - with any luck you will have found her G-Spot massage it gently. circular or up and downj motion on the spot should get her pretty hot.Don't get upset if you don't find it the first time some are smaller than others and maybe hard to find but when you do both of you will know. as far as oral goes - spread her pussy lips and expose the clit or the clit hood your objective her is to massage the clit with your warm and wet tongue - you may have to get under the hood of the clit depending on her level of excitement - just gently move the foreskin/hood around. massage her pussy lips with your thumb and fore finger there are lots of nerve endings in the lips that we males don't pay much attention to or forget to. the whole pussy region is full of nerve endings that when stimulated adds to the pleasure. I'm sure Brandye can comment on all of the technical stuff - and i'm sure girlygirl-sexgodess and xx22xx can comment on how they would like a male to approach their genitals. Good luvk and let us know how it works out or in as the case maybe

[xx22xx]

aright...start to finish as you wish...start out with kissing/making out and holding each other...make it seem like you're NOT in it JUST for the hookup, make sure she's relaxed and where you're somewhere that no one's going to walk in/see you. *then as you're making out, shift into a position that it will be easy access for you and comfortable for her...take your time, and make sure you run your hands over every part of her body, especially the inside of her thighs and her chest, to make sure she'll be wet when you actually get to fingering her. *the easiest way is obviously with her pants off, but assuming this is her first time too, she may not be very comfortable not having most of her clothes on in front of *you. *and assuming that, then i found that one of the easiest ways for both guy and girl is for the guy to be sitting up (this works best on a couch type thing) and leaning back with the girl laying down (horizontally obviously) with her head/mostly the upper body in the guys lap...this girl has her knees bent with her legs spread, and her pants only need to be unbuttoned *it's a turn on if the girl starts with her legs together and the guy slides his hands in between her thighs and rubs her entire 'area' over her pants. *then he unbuttons her pants and undoes the zipper/whatever (we're not going to think you're retarded if you need both hands to undo our pants, cuz we do to) so anyway, then repeating rubbing her entire area over her panties, then finally doing it without anything in between your hand and her. *i found that it feels best if the guy then VERY slowly slides one finger between the lips, and puts it inside just a little, enough to get it wet, press it gently on her as you pull out, and keep moving upwards until you feel her clit...then circle it. *after you do that, put your finger back inside of her, and move it in and out slowly for maybe a minute or so, and try and spread her 'wetness' around her entire area so if you rub *a different way it won't be dry and hurt her. *then she should be wet enough that you can put two fingers in, possibly three but don't push it, remember to watch her body language, if she's arching her back or rasing her hips, she likes it a lot. *so when you have the 2 (possibly 3) fingers inside of her, it feels better to go a little faster (in and out), just don't be rough and don't ignore her clit...teasing it feels realllllllly good. * and if u've been doing it for awhile, then pull your hand out of her pants, and rub her outside of her pants, then go back in to give you and her a rest for a little while. *in the future, being in this position will be good for you because her head and hands are in easy reach of guess what!! your dick!! *so all you need to do is just take her hand and put it on your dick, over your pants to start, and show her how to rub it...and then for oral sex a little later on, all you have to do is roll her head to the side, and it's easy for her to swing around to being in front of you on her knees.........good enough??

[Shorty43]

OK, so this won't be the most helpful advice, but it is from a female's point of view. *Anyway, when you are fingering a girl there isn't much technique in my opinion. *I love it when a guy does it to me and I guess what gets me going is more than one finger and a circular type motion and then there is the occasional massage you can give her at the same time in the spot right between her vagina and anus. *But, every girl it different and is stimulated differently. *My best advice is don't read all those articles on fingering and assume what one guy says works is the way to go. *Listen to your girlfriend and she'll tell you if she likes what you are doing. *Play around, your fingers move in many ways. *As for oral sex, I think you need to do your own thing and listen to see what your girlsfriend enjoys the most. *I'm not a huge fan of giving oral sex so I don't really get much of it and that is fine by me. *sorry I can't be of more help, but I know that when a guy does something and I'm enjoying it I'm sure to let him know because I want him to keep going and I think most girls are the same way, it is a somewhat selfish internal mechanism females have.

[xx22xx]

just one quick reminder: if we are showing signs of liking what you're doing (heavier, faster, harder, breathing, moaning, whimpering...whatever), then don't change...faster isn't always better but harder will do...and even though orgasm is most easily brought on by certain sports such as the g-spot and the clit, don't ONLY concentrate on those...maybe you can mix it up like stimulate those, but other parts at the same time!!

[Shorty43]

I've developed a new favorite and thought I'd share

So last night my boyfriend was fingering me and my god, I always love whatever he does, but yesterday I thought I was going to die it felt so amazing!

So for you guys:
(and hopefully I'm not repeating another post, but if I am you know this technique works all the better)
2 fingers slowly going in and out, at times alternating fingers (very nice feeling), then faster, while massageing with one free finger (the thumb works well) the clitoris, and with the free finger on the other side the perineum.

Oh my god does it feel wonderful!

[SexGoddess]

The left side of a womans (if she's laying down) clitoris is REAL sensitive, if you lick or rub her there,she will have an amazing orgasm.

[ty_guy]

Lots of details of the art of pleasuring have been posted, but here are two common sense basics to consider well before the fun starts:

1. Clip your fingernails (for obvious reasons)
2. Wash your hands (to help prevent urethral infections)

[Guido]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (SexGoddess @ Jan. 22 2003,03:32)]The left side of a womans (if she's laying down) clitoris is REAL sensitive, if you lick or rub her there,she will have an amazing orgasm.

OK SexGoddess ... NOW you have my attention! * *I have NEVER heard of this one!

Question 1: HER left side or my left side (as I face her)?

Q2: WHY will she have an amazing orgasm from that side? Does it apply to all women, or just your experience?