Fingering 101

[Shorty43]

Well, if she says she enjoys it then I don't think you need to worry much. When my boyfriend fingers me it is ten times more intense when we kissing. I guess location and position really matters for that, but it is so much nicer than a guy just jabbing his fingers around you. I'm sure you could have figured that out yourself, you just need to remember it. And kissing doesn't just have to be a mouth to mouth deal, I love getting little kisses anywhere, especially my neck where the jaw and neck meet.

Not that this is really an option for you, but before I had my own room and I used to sleep in my boyfriend's room on the weekends and it really got me going when he'd finger me with his rommate sleeping like 5 feet away. I'm not too into erotica etc. but it was just such a thrill to know that at any minute we could be had. So, in other words, maybe there is something that would mentally stimulate your girlfriend.

[MarcTomko]

Far as me enjoying things, she gives a good hand job, we'll leave it that

Basically in reponse to some of the suggestions here, I've come to this site before and read the different articles, so I gotta pretty good idea of whats going on (if thats the best way of saying it lol).

I guess I just prolly need to be a lil more patient.

[automatic leg spreader]

I have never fingered my girlfreind b4 can anybody give me like exact details on exactly what i should do? it would be very helpfull.

[Shorty43]

There is no exact way to finger a girl. As you will read over and over again on this site, every girl is different and stimulated by different things. Play around, move your hands all over and see what she responds to the most (in a good way of course). Take a look at other topics that deal with fingering and make note of some techniques. I know I've made a few posts attempting to describe what I like best. Just remember that sticking your finger(s) into her vagina is not usually the best was to bring a girl to orgasm, it is all about stimulating the clit, and a finger or two inside doesn't hurt at the same time.

[automatic leg spreader]

ok yeah i guess so. and i heard in the other thread about the left side being more sensitive . maybe ill throw that into it also. is the g spot (like if shes laying on her back) in and towards the front of the inside?

[Shorty43]

The first thing you do when fingering really isn't look for the g-spot, but yes that is where it is. Finding the g-spot isn't always easy so you should start with the clit.

[automatic leg spreader]

i know but i was just wondering if i knew where it was so that i could give her the pleasure she deserves

[JoP]

The combo of oral and fingering can be one of the most powerful combonations for women. Getting them to compliment each other rather than distracting from each other can be tricky tho. My general method for the complete experience is as follows:

Start with some good lengthy forplay to get things moving in the right direction. Lots of kissing, necking and caressing are important. I generally start the approach with a bit of light fingertip stroking of the clit. If you did the forplay right, there should be enough of her own lubrication to make this a bit of a slip and slide over the clit. Think of it as just gliding over the surface. If things start to dry up a bit from the friction, do a quick slip of the fingertip down to her vagina just to moisten the fingertip again. Do not ram your finger into her, the theme here is light and gentle.

After a bit of this, and with encouragement for more from her (moaning and other happy noises) move down her body to replace your finger with your tongue. Let your tongue take over the light caress of the clit, and increase intensity and pressure over time. You are building up to something, do not push too much to fast. I like to start with some long licks from her opening to the top of her clit before concentrating on the clitorus.

A quick 'no no' on clitoral stimulation. Variety is good, at first. Try several different techniques to see what really gets her going. But once you find something good, stick with it. I can't tell you the number of times I was getting a great licking, but then my partner changed rhythm or technique and just totally lost my building orgasm. Increasing intensity can be good, but something completely different can be a disaster.

So you have a good rhythm going, a mild intensity and happy noises abound. Yay! Lets add fingers.

One of my favorite ways to add fingers is VERY gradually. Start by moving your hand up her thigh, squeezing lightly. Move your hand to her inner thigh and continue sqeezing. You want her to get the idea that you are going to go there, just not yet. Next, take your index and middle finger and bend them, then place your knuckles just to the right of her vagina, just outside. You want to feel her wetness, but not be 'inside' her. Just let her know you are there. Increase your intensity with your mouth. Prepare her for good things to come.

From here I straighten out my fingers and gradually gradually slide them inside her. You almost want her to be begging for you to be inside her and then give it to her, but slowly. Once you are inside of her don't stop there. Increase the intensity on her clit, and press upward with your fingers (towards her G-spot) and a bit deeper so that she begins to feel less tease, and more full. Hold that for just a bit, and then you can begin moving your fingers in and out, slowly at first, but then over time increasing intensity.

Try to match the intensity of mouth and fingers. Listen to her body. ALL of her body. Happy noises are good, a hardnening clit is good, swelling vaginal walls are good, feeling her "open up" inside is a GREAT sign. Just let her encourage you on and try to do what her body tells you. You should be orgasming any time.

The clencher to this technique is the finish. After she has come, unless you know your girl likes post orgasm clitoral contact, remove your mouth. However, leave your fingers inside her. Dont thrust or wiggle, just let them be inside her. If she had a great orgasm you might get to feel some of her contractions. Kiss her belly, upper legs and thighs and SLOWLY start to pull out of her. And I mean slowly. As you are pulling out, press on one side of her inner thigh with your arm. As you are pulling away keep pressure on the inner thigh, and even after your fingers have left her vagina, trail them along the inner thigh.

Why? It makes it feel like it is taking forever for you to leave her because you were so deep inside of her. Its kinda hard to describe why this is so awesome, but it is.

There you go, a JoP technique.

Ok, so that may have been too detailed and too long winded, but forgive me, it was my first post.

Jo

[bubbablues]

JoP That was beautiful. A little more soft wet tongue from the anus to the clit and it would be perfect. There's no greater pleasure than the taste of a womans pleasure.

[star]

I don't always like being fingered and didn't like it from my ex (long term). I can tell you that I am really not into being fingered if I am not already turned on. But the #1 for me is that I have to be caressed on some other part of the body at the same time. Kissing counts big-time as "other". Also, if you can stimulate her clit while fingering, it should make a big difference.
I know this is a late response to your question, but I hope it helps!