Fingering 101

[girlygirl]

Interesting. I have noticed that the left side of my clitoris (my left) seems more sensitive than the right, but I always assumed that was somthing unique to me.

[SexGoddess]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Quido:
Question 1: HER left side or my left side (as I face her)?

Q2: WHY will she have an amazing orgasm from that side? Does it apply to all women, or just your experience?

OK Guido,
Yes HER left side. If you are facing her, then it would be YOUR right side. TRUST ME. It's extremely sensitive. Although, I would not just dive right in lol. Wait til she's just a lil' excited then go for the gold!

#2. YES as far as I know, it applies to all women. I found this out about 6 months ago after reading a book called "The venus butterfly" and so, I decided to test that theory and lemme tell you, It's WONDERFUL!!!!!!!

So, give it a try.

[SexGoddess]

I almost forgot,
as you are going for her most sensitive part of the clitoris, you will have to pull the hood back just a tad so you can get to that sweet spot much better

[Guido]

As a side-note, I wonder if the same applies to men? Now I come to think of it, the left side of the head of my penis does seem more sensitive than the other - but I kind of assumed that was just from "practice" from being left-handed ... maybe not eh? Any other guys care to comment?

Oh ... and SexGoddess, you never mentioned in your reply as to WHY it works - can you enlighten us?

[SexGoddess]

oh,sorry! It's because there are more nerve endings there.

[Guido]

Well, as promised I am back with my report ... and ... I have some good news and some bad news.

The bad news is that there must be at least one exception to evey rule - and I found it. No difference to report here; afterwards I checked by asking my g/f, and she said she couldn't feel any difference from one side to the other (but she DID enjoy it! Oh well ... )

The GOOD news is that it was a helluva lot of fun trying!!! . Send me on a mission like that any time SexGoddess!

[SexGoddess]

Sorry to hear it didn't work

But you know, you can keep trying and playing around with that little spot.
Just like us women have to learn what spots to hit, (believe me, I am constantly learning where my husbands are!) LOL just the same with men, you don't always get the right spot the first time around....give it another shot sometime or many times until ya find it

OK I had to edit this because I just had a thought about that spot. Try using your fingers. My husband will use his and hit it everytime! If he uses his tongue, it doesn't always work. So,use your finger(s) first and watch her reaction.

[MarcTomko]

Alright well heres the run down. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months. Neither of us want to have sex, atleast yet, and we haven't gotten into oral related stuff either (she doesn't want to yet).

Well the problem is, my girlfriend doesn't really react to much of anything. I do talk to her, and occasionally ask questions, but the problem is she's never masterbated. And she is pretty much dead set against it. So basically communication doesn't really get too far, she only manages a "I dont know". She does enjoy it she says, and I have gotten her to jump a couple times when I found her clit, but I cannot seem to ever really find it, despite knowing where it is (I have found it on other girls). *Her G-spot I have found (shes admitted that much) but again, I don't get much reaction out of that it seems?

So basically I'm stuck. She doesn't really feel completely comfortable talking about it, and anyways I don't think she can really tell me much either.

Any suggestions? I am very down to earth when I do attempt communication with her, and she'll laugh and enjoy it altogether, but I really would like to maybe get a moan or two out of her if you know what I mean. *

[Uro]

I sort of have the same problem with my gf. I haven't really solved it yet but I am getting closer. let me tell you what I know and maybe you can help me at the same time.

1. communication is good BUT you can't make her reaction your sole topic and you can't ask her about it too much. you should be there for fun first and foremost.

2. you can't say anything negative about her. the things she does or tries to do. her smell or taste. thats a real big thing. always make her feel comfortable. tell her how sexy she looks and how much you like the taste and smell of her.

3. dont expect her to moan. probably wont happen for awhile.

4. open up yourself. moan when she does something you like. tell her what you like and what feels best. and just have fun.

thats all I can think of for the moment. I'll check back later.

[xx22xx]

If you read around the ‘Pleasing Her’ section, there’s a whole bunch of topics on the g-spot, female orgasm & ejaculation, and fingering. There’s also one called ‘Sounds of Pleasure’, and that’s under ‘Pleasing Her’ too, you have to scroll down a little bit to find it.

You should go read those because they may help, then come back here and post again, but as for now, it seems that you two are comfortable with each other, considering you’ve been together for 6 months or so. I don’t think it’s exactly a problem that she doesn’t masturbate. And it sounds like she’s not comfortable talking about it…maybe while you’re doing it you can just ask her if it feels good, or what feels best.

Come back with an update and Good Luck