Fingering 101

[surajk]

Well,ive been with my gf for 3 months and few dats now and she agreed to me fingering her,but she has some concerns. And i knew this was the right place to ask questions. Well i have like a few questions, can you answers them for me please.

1)Does fingering hurt the girl in anyway if its her first time?
2)How does it feel?

Thank You,
SurajK
-Orange County

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Originally Posted by surajk

Well,ive been with my gf for 3 months and few dats now and she agreed to me fingering her,but she has some concerns. And i knew this was the right place to ask questions. Well i have like a few questions, can you answers them for me please.

1)Does fingering hurt the girl in anyway if its her first time?
2)How does it feel?

Thank You,
SurajK
-Orange County

1) Yes, probably, if shes never been pentrated before, my girlfirend is 22, and a virgin, and everytime ive tried it over the past 5 months, she either didnt feel it, or i ended up hurting her. yesturday for the first time i was able to finally get to to guide me a little bit in what feels good, and she had a very pleasant experience

2) she said if i had sex with her(im not yet cause her hymen is still too tight) i would have made her cum, every time she said a finger just isnt enough untill yesturday,

if she isnt gonna guide you and tell you what she likes, you wont know probably and she wont like it as much, i suggest waiting of she isnt open with the idea of communicating.

[xcutiex009]

when it comes to fingering, copycatting is good.
what I mean is, watch your gf finger herself, and do what she does.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

Your reply is good as far as you go, yet your suggestion is incomplete. In order to do what she does, it is necessary to know HOW she does what she does. This involves rhythms, pressures, and tempo. To learn just how she does what she does, it is necessary for her to guide her man's fingers over a few sessions until he learns to mimic her technique. Key to this is in providing verbal or non-verbal feedback on how she is responding to your caresses and for what she may need now/next.

The same holds true for you with her. Very shortly after a boy learns to masturbate he quickly works out a technique that he pretty much relies upon for the rest of his life. While he may vary this a little out of boredom or a desire to experiment, if we stray too far from what works either an orgasm will not happen or if it does it will be less than hoped for. This is why we must learn what to do by rote not just by what we see. There is more to it than simple observation can give us.

[pink_menace]

tongue and finger in unison.....it's amazing....

[MissCaty]

I don't think anyone has asked this one, and if they have, I'm sorry for repeating.

I want to know if there is any good way, after fingering or masturbating (I'm female btw) to get the smell off your hands? Odd question I know, but I live in a dorm, so finding a time to masturbate is hard, and I don't want my room mate to know (she's from a catholic school and a bit of a prude). Washing my hands and hand sanitizer doesn't seem to help and lotion only covers the smell. I feel really awkward about it too...

[dancingdoc2]

What brand and type of hand soap are you using? Women typically have more sensitive noses, yet I find it hard to believe that unless your hands are in close proximity to your roommate's nose she would detect anything on your hands.

More important me thinks is the scent in the air caused by your activities. For this you might try Fabreeze or Lysol.

We use a variety of flavors of liquid "Softsoap" and it works OK for both of us. Dunno what to suggest beyond this.

-doc

[arutha]

Try using warmer water, even hot if you can handle it without burning yourself, and soap. I had this problem with my ex, I think some people just have a stronger smell than others, haven't had the problem since her. The best I could come up with is hot water (especially if I have a shower) and soap. But yeah as the doc says, it won't be noticable unless she gets close to your hands, but the room smell might be.

Also if she is a bit prude, chances are even IF she notices anything she won't comment on it so you don't need to worry.

[MissCaty]

Thanks for all the advice. I'll try it out.

[Lover56]

I've been with my girlfriend for six months now and she is a virgin just like me and we've started to experiment with fingering. Luckily for me, she used to ride horses all the time so her hyman has already broken...but it still hurt her when we first started. But now she has gotten used to it...well I never realized she would have an orgasm everytime we would "play" (that's what me and her call anything sexual) until today I asked her if she's ever had an orgasm when we did that...I mean I know she'd get wet everytime I did that to her but I didn't realize that was her having an orgasm LOL...she told me the first time she ever had an orgasm was when we were txting each other...we like to txt erotic things to each other when we're not together