Fingering 101

[FelixLovesKitty]

Originally Posted by Demonic-Booze

u know i was wondering. is it possible for the woman to have an orgasm and not realize thats what it is? my gf claims she has never experienced an orgasm and i have done alot of research to see what i/we/she can do to help her out. alot of things have improved the experience for her and she now she will start to buck uncontrollably around her hips/leg area. sometimes when i stop and cuddle with her she continues to have spasms in that area and she becomes super sensitive. i was just wondering do you think she has had an orgasm and just a very small one or is she still not there yet. closest ive gotten her was her bucking so hard she would sometimes buck me right out of her and she would be breathing very very deeply and moaning. once she even scratched huge furrows in my back

LOL. What you describe above IS an orgasm, my friend...in fact, it sounds like multiple orgasms. Don't worry, you're doing your job.

[anglital]

During foreplay with my fingers I can usually bring my girlfriend to orgasm. She starts gasping, grasping and shaking, which is all very nice. But she also pushes away my hand when this starts, seemingly wanting to experience it alone. The question is: does/would she actually want me to continue fingering through the orgasm, on to further ones, or is she absolutely telling me that's enough until this one has passed? Would continued fingering through the orgasm be unbearable for her?

[eminatic]

Originally Posted by anglital

During foreplay with my fingers I can usually bring my girlfriend to orgasm. She starts gasping, grasping and shaking, which is all very nice. But she also pushes away my hand when this starts, seemingly wanting to experience it alone. The question is: does/would she actually want me to continue fingering through the orgasm, on to further ones, or is she absolutely telling me that's enough until this one has passed? Would continued fingering through the orgasm be unbearable for her?

i find that during/immediately after orgasm everything is way too sensitive for even the slightest touch...it ends up feeling painful.

[quickbunny920]

So I have been with my boyfriend now for 3 years... and his is the only guy i have ever been with, and we have sex, and oral sex, but my problem is I dont think he is ever given me an oragasm... there have been times were I think I have but Im not sure, and to even get to that piont alot of times takes awhile... is there something Im doing wrong???

[dancingdoc2]

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[sera300]

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[e_room_matt]

It's been said before, but every woman is different. As a general rule the my advice if things aren't going well is....

1. SLOW DOWN! If you are overpowing before she is ready, she will get numb and you'll be down there for a week. Women have to build to orgasm so slow down and get comefortable.

2. TEASE, TEASE TEASE! Women feel a loss of control when you are down there and some even feel distant. Teasing does a ton to build excitement (see above) and keeps things light. There is also a level of communication to teasing that women enjoy. It reminds them that they aren't all alone in the room and makes it easier to give up control because it is obvious you have it.

3. Spread lips to expose the clitoris fully. The more surface area you have to work with, the more she will feel.

4. Add action, particularly fingers on the G-spot as you go. Build your performance. Don't just go as hard as you can just because you feel like she needs to kick it into gear. Keep something in reserve for when she actually says "I'm gonna cum." Being able to start rubbing the g-spot rapidily once she reaches that moment can often trigger multiple orgasms.

5. SLOW DOWN!!! Enjoy your woman. Don't feel pressure to bring her to orgasm quickly and remind her not to feel pressured either (that makes it worse). Relax and even take a break if necessary. Proceed as if you are enjoying your favorite meal on a lazy day instead of wolfing down a burger when you are starving to death.

[atomic]

Originally Posted by vette1963

Fingering and oral are a self taught art - differs girl to girl. i have found out that if you take time and rub her mound of pussy hair for a while they tend to warm up.gentle pressure on the mound and move your hand around - star at the bottom of her stomach use your whole hand almost like a massage on the outside of her pussy. then slide your middle finger over her clit to the actual hole and move it in and out like a swinging door that is attached at the top - just barely catch the bottom of the hole as you going in very shallow strokes in and out. she should be or getting pretty wet by now - now try sticking a finger or two in her and if you can change positions so your head is at her feet turn you hand palm up and insert your finger try to find a spot or rough surfice on the inside of her on the outer wall - with any luck you will have found her G-Spot massage it gently. circular or up and downj motion on the spot should get her pretty hot.Don't get upset if you don't find it the first time some are smaller than others and maybe hard to find but when you do both of you will know. as far as oral goes - spread her pussy lips and expose the clit or the clit hood your objective her is to massage the clit with your warm and wet tongue - you may have to get under the hood of the clit depending on her level of excitement - just gently move the foreskin/hood around. massage her pussy lips with your thumb and fore finger there are lots of nerve endings in the lips that we males don't pay much attention to or forget to. the whole pussy region is full of nerve endings that when stimulated adds to the pleasure. I'm sure Brandye can comment on all of the technical stuff - and i'm sure girlygirl-sexgodess and xx22xx can comment on how they would like a male to approach their genitals. Good luvk and let us know how it works out or in as the case maybe

I remember reading this when I first joined and everything in there stands true, still! Course I was still a virgin back then and had only ever had one proper boyfriend But still, wise words and very sound advice! Gets me hot just reading it!

[raverscott]

Hmm...if you like to lick your woman, try first to take in a menthol candy or anything that is minty. Rub the tip of the tongue to the surface of the candy and then....lick her! Once in a while give her a gentle blow to reactivate the mint.

[missionary]

In response to the above. Not all women like this... It can create a slightly overly strong feeling, almost burning. It could be very nice, but its not for everyone.