Fingering 101

[foxdan]

Originally Posted by SexGoddess

The left side of a womans (if she's laying down) clitoris is REAL sensitive, if you lick or rub her there,she will have an amazing orgasm.

WOW good good advise I tried it and my wife climbed the walls thank you for the good advise SexGoddess

[kiwi pie]

Mmmm the best technique it doesnt exist cuz we're all so different, and different things work for each of us :O in my opinion the clitorial stimulation is the best way for a girl to have an orgasm :B at least it works for me

[Deodorant]

there definately has to be a nice buildup to the dlitoral stimulation tho. if you start off with that you wont get anywhere. i barely touch the clit (besides the odd brush) for the first while until the point where my gf is doing mini gasps whenever i touch it. Thats my que to start putting more attention on it.

[sburcs]

do something, and if she moans, she likes it. orrr if she breathes more heavily. orrrrr ... like gasping or saying 'omg' means you're doing an awesome job hahaha yeah lol. mix it up, start slow n soft n get more rough... and be teasing at the start. the more you tease the more she wants it.
my bf makes it unbearable sometimes lol but in the hotttest way.
but every woman is different. just watch her reaction

[hey]

I was just wondering how do you know when to stop...sometimes she has to tell me.

[Darcymr101]

In my experience.. and it might be different for every woman.. but after the second time "a rest" is preferred as it can take alot out of a woman.

I generally take this time to lay beside her and 'cuddle' so she can enjoy the ongoing orgasm.. ths also gives her time to feel around your shoulders and back whilst in the embrace.

Oops.. tangent.. erm.. generally when the ecstasy has stopped and when shes no longer moaning.

[softhandz]

im sorry as when i finger or go oral they squirt gets a bit messy but i like it hehe

[Ephemera]

I've never had a squirter.

[Demonic-Booze]

u know i was wondering. is it possible for the woman to have an orgasm and not realize thats what it is? my gf claims she has never experienced an orgasm and i have done alot of research to see what i/we/she can do to help her out. alot of things have improved the experience for her and she now she will start to buck uncontrollably around her hips/leg area. sometimes when i stop and cuddle with her she continues to have spasms in that area and she becomes super sensitive. i was just wondering do you think she has had an orgasm and just a very small one or is she still not there yet. closest ive gotten her was her bucking so hard she would sometimes buck me right out of her and she would be breathing very very deeply and moaning. once she even scratched huge furrows in my back

[debspartner]

Originally Posted by Shorty43

OK, so this won't be the most helpful advice, but it is from a female's point of view. *Anyway, when you are fingering a girl there isn't much technique in my opinion. *I love it when a guy does it to me and I guess what gets me going is more than one finger and a circular type motion and then there is the occasional massage you can give her at the same time in the spot right between her vagina and anus. *But, every girl it different and is stimulated differently. *My best advice is don't read all those articles on fingering and assume what one guy says works is the way to go. *Listen to your girlfriend and she'll tell you if she likes what you are doing. *Play around, your fingers move in many ways. *As for oral sex, I think you need to do your own thing and listen to see what your girlsfriend enjoys the most. *I'm not a huge fan of giving oral sex so I don't really get much of it and that is fine by me. *sorry I can't be of more help, but I know that when a guy does something and I'm enjoying it I'm sure to let him know because I want him to keep going and I think most girls are the same way, it is a somewhat selfish internal mechanism females have.

so what do u do if she is not a vocal person. i took my girl to a special place and in the hot tub we we fingering and she started to cry telling me it was good tears. but never let me know until she started to cry. how can u tell. i love her and comforted her but still done know how to tell