Oral Techniques 101

[vette1963]

All males boast about the how they perform oral on a woman. Everybody has a different style. personally i think I am pretty good with my tongue on a clit and/or sticking it in and out of the vagina. I guess the question is what do you as a woman like the most. Also, is there a technique you like and why?

[Brandye]

Vette, you will not like the first part of this. The best I have experienced is from another woman.
That said, men can do a great job and a major part of that is anticipating his entering me. I am most receptive right after an orgasm and cannot wait to get him inside me.

Please do not bludgeon my clitoris with your tongue. The little girl is really sensitive and powerful. If she is not exposed, let it that way; do not go digging. I like a tongue bath of the complete pudenda with each and every fold properly licked. Then sometimes just sucking around the upper part of the genitals sets me off. A little flicking sideways across the hood. If I want the whole thing spread wide (sometimes) I'll do it. Mostly slow and gentle and respond to where I am shifting things.

[Tjdude]

i often heard and read from women that the best oral sex they get is from other women. I guess is because they exactly now what to do and where to do it (like in the very instructive post from Brandye, thanks for the tip!).
But i wonder ... could it be that a blow job from a man could is better than one from a woman? Hmm, i'm not sure if want to say that i'm curious LOL.

And for the original question, well, i always listen to my g/f, if the sounds of pleasure are getting louder it means i'm doing something good, if not, i move to some other place.

[LovelyRita]

I have said this many times before, "Oral sex kicks ass." With that said, honestly, I'm happy to be getting anything. Everything about oral sex feels absolutely wonderful. Just remember, you can't get better unless you practice...a lot.

[Brandye]

Vette,

You have not been very active lately. I miss you. And SexGoddess. We need all the knowledge we can get and so do a few new young questers.

Cunnilingus? Between girlfriends? Sigh! Heaven! More should really try it but according to Cosmo, about 40% of us do.

Right side up, upside down, on top, on bottom, inside out, outside in, front first, back first, start in the middle, fast, slow, soft, hard, with tongue tip, with whole mouth, nibbling, licking ….you get the picture. But after much kissing, caressing, breast play, tummy play, 28 days a month but only about once a week.

For me? Thanks for asking!! During my period I love slow tongue baths treating every crease and fold, getting firmer as it progresses with a finger approaching my anus to enter in rhythm with my contractions.

In our relationship, whoever has her period gets to be queen.

[sven one]

Not to sound like a pig, but isn't that wht nature intended. I mean men being macho and women trying to please. I am not a maccho type and I believe in mutual pleasure, but you do need to consider instinct.

[Brandye]

Sven,
That is why I say rather typical. In this context that can lead to risky behavior - the male showing sexual prowess and the female showing desire and submission but neither remembered the condoms. "Once will be OK." And neither has the process quite figured out.

[SexGoddess]

I for once would prefer a man who actually would mean and do as he says or boasts about when it comes to giving oral sex.

I love when a man can insert a finger or two inside me while he's licking on my clit. it makes me all the more sensitive. but my problem is that once I've performed oral sex on a man he will STOP giving me oral sex or drastically decrease the time and effort put into pleasing me because he desperately wants me to perform oral sex on him.

I love giving but ####! WTF? LOL

[Brandye]

SexGoddess,

You are onto a real phenomenon. Orgasm in men generates endorphins in the brain. Very pleasureable but makes them sleepy. Young sperm machines keep on going but more mature men poop out and we women get shorted.

Make sure you get yours first!!!

[Tjdude]

hey Brandye, do you know any way to avoid geting sleepy after sex? i always want to continue having sex with my gf after i ejaculate, but is hard to doit when you feel so sleepy, sometimes i don't even lose my erection but i can't do very good because i just feel so weak.