Oral Techniques 101

[BrowneyedEvelyn]

I have one big no no and one big yes yes:

No no - Hard tongue flipping over clitoris million miles an hour. I think they've got that from a porn movie, where girls moarn for pleasure what ever guys do. I have a couple of words for that person who ever thought that looks sexy!

Yes yes - sucking in the clitoris and surroundings. Gently though, no need to turn on the vacuum cleaner for that. Sucking in, and simultaniously playing around with a soft tongue. Yappee!

[SexKitty]

I guess for this I'm sending it out towards the guys..my boyfriend and I have been experimenting on each other since Jan and he loves it when I go down on him. I want him to go down on me, but it makes him gag and can't go through with it. I know he really REALLY wants to too...any suggestions as to what I can do to make it better for him??? thanks guys

SexKitty

[uncreativename]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Don_One @ Nov. 27 2004,15:16)]One thing that I find that amazes me is how many women don't like men going down on them. I personally like going down on a woman, but for some reason a lot of women are insecure about receiving head.

to answer this, i think it's cuz they're insecure...insecure their partner wont think they smell good or taste delectable down there...they dont know if their own smell down there's normal etc. etc. and this makes them paranoid and unwilling to receive oral even if the girl gives it to her partner! all a girl should EVER need to think about before oral is cleanliness. have a shower/bath a few hours be4 oral and u shd smell of ur natural smell...this avoids any yeasty yucky smells when he peels ur pants off! (lol) evry1 tastes different and if ur worried, taste urself...it does no harm! i actually dont mind my own taste that much and tbh my boyfriend (when i finally let him give me oral - he was more desperate than me lol), he was like "u taste rly good"! just b confident..it's not like all guys have delectable cum anyway!

uncreativename

[GARF13LD a.k.a MaG1C Hands]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (cunnuslover @ May 21 2003,08:01)]I knew this married lady i was 18,at the time ,all she wanted was oral ,she did me too . i asked her *why not sex *she said i would problay bang her five or six times ,and when she went home her husband would want sex and she would be sore where as with oral , no soreness could screw him silly ,i use to see her a t least once a week she was great did a great blow job too , she was a wonderful experience.

Lucky son of a bitch ive always wanted an older woman experience

[circlemakerwannabe]

i go down on my girlfriend quite a bit, and even though she says that i am the best she has ever had, i cant bring her to orgasm. she has never experienced an orgasm before. i also finger her. nothing seems to work. i think i am doing everything pretty well, she usually screams the whole time im doing it. i know it feels good but she just doesnt cum. im beginning to get frustrated.

[clare33]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (moose_hd @ May 01 2005,01:26)]Though I am wondering about something else on this topic: When I am eating her, it is better for her to be lying down or sitting on something that allows her to spread her legs and recline, or some other position? We are both very new at this sort of thing, so we really don't know what is the most effective method (if there is one at all.)

As far as positioning, when you're starting out, keep it simple. Have her lay on her back on a bed and spread her legs. You go inbetween her legs and do your things. It might also help if she has a pillow under her butt so it's easier for you to get at.


My other tips as a girl to guys:
Don't be frustrated if she doesn't cum right away, especially if she's younger. First of all, girls can be inherently very insecure about this, to the point that they will stop themselves from enjoying it because they are so worried about what the guy will think. So help her out, tell her you love going down on her, that she tastes so good, etc. Tell her it turns you on. Don't lie, but be sure to tell her what you like about it and keep reassuring her about this. It can takes girls a while to be able to cum from oral, but the pleasure can still be very intense. If she doesn't cum from it, that's fine. A good way to help her cum is to finger her while sucking on her clit (gently). This way she can get the harder penetration too.

In a relationship, please be sure to try and keep the blow job to eating out ratio as equal as possible. I love going down on my boyfriend. And my boyfriend enjoys going down on me. But I think sometimes guys just kind of....I don't know, don't really think about it...and they don't do it unless specifically asked. Don't make her ask. Depending on how much she enjoys it, make it a fairly usual part of your routine.

Some people find this gross, but my boyfriend and I are very close, and I get turned on when he kisses me during oral on me. Sometimes when he's fingering he'll make me lick his fingers too. If you guys enjoy this, it can be a fun addition and makes it hotter.

[Nikki Vandom]

The first 45 min to an hour devote to my wife.I think like I don't have a dick.Foreplay is the maincourse.Intercourse,for me, is dessert.Massages,oral,toys whatever she digs she gets,it's all about her.I got really fed up w/ my physiology.She would be pleasing me , I'd fire off then get sleepy, then she was left hanging.So now she gets pleasured first and I love it!I cannot describe how warm and content I feel knowing I did her well.Best regards,N.V.

[rainydayzsunshine]

i dont give my bf head very often, but when i do, it takes forever for him to cum. the whole time he tells me it feels really good, but even when its the best of best it still takes along time. i dont mind cause i like to make him feel good but i was just wondering why it might take so long?

[moose_hd]

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Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (rainydayzsunshine @ Jan. 06 2006,13:42)]i dont give my bf head very often, but when i do, it takes forever for him to cum. the whole time he tells me it feels really good, but even when its the best of best it still takes along time. i dont *mind cause i like to make him feel good but i was just wondering why it might take so long?

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For me at least I think it's just physically harder to push &quot;the right buttons&quot; when giving oral. It's different that what he's used to and probably builds him up more slowly. But this can be a really good thing too because a long buildup makes for a really satisfying orgasm!

[dancingdoc2]

&gt; (rainydayzsunshine} but even when its the best of best it still takes along time. i dont mind cause i like to make him feel good but i was just wondering why it might take so long?

Two things:

T#1 is that right out of the gate having just discovered masturbation, a guy begins to develop a unique and specific technique for bringing about a climax. Over the course of a few weeks he learns that certain movements, rhythms, tempo, and pressures, used at specific times based upon the feedback he is getting will bring about an orgasm in due course. When guys find what works we rely upon the method daily. Of course we may change the technique from time to time for variation, however, if we stray too far we either do not reach the trigger point of an orgasm, or, when it happens it isn't quiet up to par.

Girls are much the same way, I susspect.

T#2 is that we do not generally reach the trigger point of an orgasm by stimulating the glans in a way that mimics the oral techniques someone gives us. That said, it is often difficult or impossible to trigger an orgasm just from oral. More often than not, the best way is to combine oral and stroking. The two together are a dynamic duo!

If you want to take him to the brink quickly, you have to learn to mimic his stroking technique. This is best done by encouraging him to demonstrate how he masturbates and then for him to take your hand in his in order to guide your movements so that you can learn how to build his ardor in the manner to which he has become accustom. The same goes for you. Teach him how you finger yourself by guiding his fingers a few times until he gets the hang of it.

The next thing is to find his hot spots. The #1 hot spot is the Frenulum {Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). One or more additional hotspots can be found around the Corona Rim.

So, what is a girl to do? Stoking by itself will get him off. If you want to dramatically intensify his pleasure, switch to oral. If you want to send him soaring into the ozone, combine the two.

If you then want to trigger an orgasm when you know he is on the brink, concentrate on his method of stroking in addition to what you are doing with your lips and tongue and then let your thumb rub the Frenulum. A few swipes here and it'll be over in the blink of an eye.