Oral Techniques 101

[moonflower]

Here is my input. First of all take it slow. If you just dive in and start fingering or licking her body is not ready and it will really never pick up from there. start at her breast and move down around her belly button (some women really like there belly button kissed and licked) move down and around just outside of her hair line to her thigh. then up. DO NOT just dive into her clit. It is very sensitive and in the beginning it is to sensitive, the more I get turn on the more pressure I want, but in the beginning dont even touch it lick around it. as far as the hole goes a tongue really does nothing different than a finger (anctually a finger is better). If you want to drive her crazy do not actually put your finger inside for a long time just play around the outside and just inside about 1/2 inch. By the time you do insert it she will go nuts. Now once she is completely into it and trying to grind your face start sucking (gently) on her clit. Pretty much once she is grinding it ALL feals good. But DO NOT change what you are doing if she is about to cum, dont change, dont speed up, do NOTHING different (I hate that).Dont forget a little anal play occasionally (if she lets you) Alternating (with seperate fingers of course) from one to the other WOW. If your not sure how she willl feel about anal play this is a good time to find out. well there is my 2 cents.

[SweetHomeAlabama]

Hey y'all. I've been looking at these message boards for quite some time but never felt the need to post something. I figured since we haven't had any new tips in awhile I would put in my two cents :;):

Before I divulge all, let me say that my boyfriend is INCREDIBLE in bed and knows what he is doing. Guys, if you're having a little trouble with your woman or are new at oral sex, I would recommend reading this! He has never had any previous (or current) complaints in the bedroom. So these techniques will work for most females.

Usually when we start fooling around, he will make sure to give my whole body the attention it deserves. After kissing me, he might kiss his way to my ear and softly suck on it. A lot of guys don't realize this but it drives many girls wild. There are many nerve endings in the ear. Then he will go to my neck and collar bone and slowly kiss it (a la American Pie 2). At this point I'm starting to get really turned on. He'll kiss down to my breasts which is another spot that should be given a lot of attention! The breasts especially the nipples are very sensitive to touch. The thing that feels best personally is when he either licks my nipples very slowly in circles or twists them gently between his thumb and index finger. I've realized that slow is better than fast when it comes to stimulating this area of the body.

He will travel down to my stomach and maybe linger at my belly button, another sensitive spot. Still kissing down, He'll slowly rip off my pants and underwear. By this point I am usually very wet , but he will NOT start eating me out just yet. Despite what some say it IS good to tease, fellas! It makes the girls want it more and it feels much better in the long run. He'll then spread my legs as wide as they go and kiss the inner areas of my thigh, maybe nibbling a little bit, too. He'll kiss and lick every area BUT my clit. If anything, he'll slowly rub my clit in circles with his finger just to get me going a little bit. Eventually he will give my clit one long slow lick, from the "head" to the "base." Finally, he will start eating me out, but still won't go full speed yet! Usually he'll start off at a slow pace, licking slowly and softly all over my clit. It is not best to start off really fast. While he is doing this he might reach up and rub a nipple with his thumb. Now, you can also put a finger or two into her vagina for an added bonus, but some women (including myself) do not enjoy it enough where it is worth it. As my climax is building up more and more, he will lick faster and harder.

There's many techniques to use at this point. One of my personal favorites is flicking the clit really fast or going in little circles. You can also try sucking the clit softly into your mouth while licking it at the same time. This technique drives me insane! Also, you know a girl is close to orgasm if her nipples are hard as a rock. This is when they are most sensitive and my boyfriend at this point usually reaches up to both of them and rubs them in circles very furiously and quickly. This almost always brings me over the edge within seconds.

After she orgasms, don’t necessarily stop what you are doing. It is true that some women become way too sensitive to touch at this point, but if you again become slow and gentle most can handle it. After my climax, my boyfriend usually gives me a little kiss and says he loves me. It just makes me feel incredibly sexy. If she’s not a very vocal person, ask her how you did and how you can improve, although you can usually tell whether you’re doing a good job or not. Also, If you want to feel more connected with your lover, look her in the eyes when she climaxes.

There is something else that works well, but not all women will go for it. If your girl is extremely close to the edge, stop what you are doing for 10 seconds or so, so she doesn’t cum. If you do this a few times before the grand finale, the orgasm will feel 10 times better. Before you do this, ask her first because some may not have the will power :;): Tell her to squeeze your hand when she is really close so you know when to stop. During that 10 seconds you can start kissing her or fondle her breasts. A good lover NEVER stops doing anything. Both of your hands and mouth, of course, should be occupied while eating your woman out.

Well, before this post becomes too long, I think my job here is done! To y’all who are struggling, look this over and try some things out. Have fun!

[laroxes]

Oral means using your mouth so open it & tell her how beautiful her [unt is. Tell her how captivating she smells & then how delicious she tastes. I never realized that so many girls wanted the excitement of cunnilingus because I thought it was something they allowed to give pleasure to their guys. It would be nice if you told him that you'd love to be thrilled that way.

[Tessie]

I love it when my man tells me how great I smell and taste. I love getting eaten and fingered more then anything else. And he is so sweet that he stays down there for as long as I want him too. We use toys and that hot blow stuff. There is just so much to do. And cumming over and over is the best part too.

So yes laroxes girls do want it for themselves and not just to please the man.

[Don_One]

One thing that I find that amazes me is how many women don't like men going down on them. I personally like going down on a woman, but for some reason a lot of women are insecure about receiving head.



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[vagabondprince]

one thing i didn't see here is one thing i read about somewhere and have found to be very useful in pleasing during both oral and while fingering...

the clitoris is much more than just the little bud that is hidden in the top folds of the labia. it is a thin stem that runs from that bud forward/upward. you really can't feel it normally, but when a girl is aroused it stiffens, much like an erection does for a guy. once the girl is aroused you can run your finger across the mons (or just south of the mons really), and kind of feel that shaft buried in there. As it is part of the clit, it has that concentration of nerves, and can be stimulated as well.

One of my little tricks when i'm eating a girl out is, while she's laying on her back and i'm down there, i'll lick horizontally just above where the clit head is, or i'll lick up and down, feeling the clit stem just to one side of where i'm applying the most pressure. this is kind of like stroking the penis in the way it stimulates. this technique may be good as part of that teasing, or for stimulation of someone whose clit head is too sensitive. this is only a small part of my cunnilingual repertoir, but i'll spare the rest because it is quite similar to what SweetHomeAlabama said a couple of posts above mine.

[my first time]

ok well i just started having sex about 2 monhs ago .. i very much enjoy it .. i have no problems with giving my botfriend oral .. it actually turns me on .. my boyfriend dont like giving oral .. he said he has had a bad experience with it .. all my girl friend yell at me bc i dont make him give it to me .. n tell me how much i would enjoy it .. i want to make him feel comfortable with me enough to perform oral on me .. how can i talk to him about it n make him feel ok with giving me oral

[thetease13]

First and foremost, remember you can't MAKE anyone give you something they don't want to.

You can however drop hints that it's something you'd like. You can even tell him that you'd wash yourself down there before hand. That seems to be the problem with a lot of guys. They don't think we're clean down there so they don't want to perform it.

Or, you can do a bit of a compromise. That was my situation.
He wanted to do anal on me, and I wanted oral. So, he gave me what I wanted, and I gave him what he wanted.
He did make me wash down there but I didn't find it as big of a deal as some people do. Sure, it's a bit annoying he doesn't think I'm clean and before it now he asks if I've washed.. but hey, I'm getting what I want, so if all I have to do is wash a little bit beforehand, then so be it.

[Independent woman]

my personal opinion is that when my boyfriend flicks his tongue across my clit while fingering my vagina this builds up the excitement after teasing my clit with his tongue he swaps so that his fingers are teasing my clit and his tongue is inside me,it deffinately works for me.

[CONFIDENCE101]

ok, im very sexual and very into sex, both sensual and hardcore and i feel that when im tongueing around the vaginal area it is less satisfying for me becaus ei feel i can give more....i love kisssing, and slididng my fingers up and down her back, and not diggin my nails into her back but more of a fingertip grasp, and just using my whole body all over her body, being close and soft and slow, it is the shit, and its very sensual, and i like that better than fast, hardcore sexual....i feel it makes out better in the long run...if im wrong ladies tell em, caus ei think im ok where i stand