Oral Techniques 101

[Old Kid]

Just be sure to get the soap all rinsed off. Brought back memories of my ex. She would "tidy up" as you say & a couple of times there was some soap residue. Talk about getin your mouth washed with soap! LOL

BTW, my present GF seems to prefer haveing her inner lips licked from end to end. Doesn't seem to get much out of haveing her clit licked. Matter of fact, I don't seem to be able to find it or get it to stick out like other women I've been with. She loves having sex and says it feels great but I also have a hard time telling if she has orgasms or not. I know every individual is different, just wondering if this is very common. Perhaps I should just quit thinking about it?

[wifey123]

[quote=tweaser;103007]Who out there can tell me what I am doing wrong during cunninglingus? Seems like my technique does the exact opposit of my intentions, my woman is becoming very relaxed, (but also lubricated). I don't get it! In the past, (once or twice), she was got off great but I can't seem to repeat that even though I done a lot of reading and understand the
mechanics of it all. She says she enjoys it but it relaxes her. Last night I incorporated a
small vibrator at the same time for about half an hour with not much success. We continued afterwards with regular sex and she always gets off. Is there something else I can try because this is very fustrating. I enjoy going done on her emmensly but since she is not getting off it take s a lot of ther ejoyment out of it. HELP!


are you on her clit? cuz its relaxing to get licked but if your not going to the most sensitive area (clit) she wont orgasm! Also the frenulum which is what connects the clit to the minor lips.

you should try circular movements with tounge, some one earlier said like icecream, i think thats a great example.

[sniperboy]

I love eatting my partner's pussy. I tell it to her everytime. Although, I think it embarrasses her greatly everytime I go down on her. Once I start she quickly forgets her embarrassment. It is funny how she never gets over this. Do any other women feel a little embarrassment when it comes to receiving oral?

[ladyfaze]

2 out of 6 partners have done oral on me. But #6 is my fiance, he lives an ocean away and can't visit much until we get the visa, and we havn't had a chance to do much physical. I think he would go down on me. Anyhow, first two were disappointing, they were the same 2 who did oral on me. I think the first guy, I wasn't really ready mentally to be having sex with anyone so I think that is why it did nothing for me. Maybe he just wasn't good at it. I married the second partner, he thought he was good because he used to hang out with some strippers, but I think it was part of their job to pretend, or maybe they liked different things. Ever woman is different, so of course maybe I wouldn't be impressed by something they liked.

I think I felt teeth, or maybe he was sucking too hard. But it was really uncomfortable. I told him and he said, "oh no you just need to relax." Or, "no it just feels so good right now you only think it hurts." Uh. No. It DID hurt. Dummy. Moral: listen to the woman.

Personally I don't like cold air down there, or having the warm air sucked up leaving cooler air in it's place. He did some slurping sounding thing to get the liquid off his teeth (something like that?) and it was like cool/cold air was blown there and I hated it.

I became self-conscious that I don't come fast enough. That puts pressure on me to a point where I couldn't really enjoy it. I liked his finger inside me like a penis well enough. He would get bored. I don't know if he really enjoyed it or not, the way his thingy got soft. I think one time he even asked me if I was done yet. Usually he would give up. There were several things wrong with that relationship. The sex was only part of it - still a big part, but by no means the only thing. I think our problems in bed were a symptom of problems outside of it. At least half of the problem was related to intimacy, which includes the sexual stuff.

I think this time around things will be different. This time I know more what I like and I know I need to communicate better about it. And not let my fiance (once he becomes my husband, we're not having sex before marriage) proceed too fast to sex. He knows little about sex, being a virgin (I found this rare beast living in another country, with his loving but strict parents), so he doesn't know how fast of slow things are supposed to go. I will keep him as slow as I need, in order to actually be ready, and if that takes as long as I used to worry it did with my ex, well my Love is a blank slate ready for me to write on. Oh I love my rare creature!

[hiedi77]

hello i am new to this site and i looked at your message and wanted to help!!!

my favorite thing about getting oral sex is being teased!!!!!!


what you need to do is to go down there and not do a hole lot of anything SLIGHT kissing and heaving breathing stuff like that for a minute or so then you can start don't do it every time but i bet it will drive her crazy she may even beg you to start.

don't expect too much either i am a women that it is IMPOSSIBLE to get off so just because she don't cum doesn't mean you are doing a bad job.

one more thing if you do it after she cums it is major sensitive so carefully and take it easy but it is GREAT!

good luck and you REALLY need to try the teasing!!!!

[couriousgirl]

teasing is great! i was wondering if many others liked it also.

[Deodorant]

The other day I gave my first oral, and I must say I LOVED it!

Started off with a nice massage, after awhile that turned into some fingering, and as she was starting to get wetter i whispered in her ear "I'm going to try something new", then ducked under the blankets to remove her pants/panties and have myself a little snack . I must say, it tasted ALOT better than I expected. Anyways, I made sure to explore every nook and cranny i could find with my tongue and was eventually tounging/fingering at the same time. The alphabet game i had heard about also seemed to work wonders on her, and got her to the point where I could hear her hands tightening greatly on the bed atleast 3 different times.(would that be considered orgasm?) 45 minutes later my tongue was too tired to continue (sadly).

She told me that "you are amazing and can do things i never thought possible." However, she is also virginal and I am the first person who has ever touched her there. So I plan on using the advice of more teasing to make her anticipation even greater.

She doesn't really tell me how she likes stuff (to be honest I'm not even completely sure if she masterbates much herself), so I am really just feeding off her body language. One thing that I know I will be changing is that when she seemed to be getting more and more excited I sped up aswell, but now I will keep it at a constant pace. (Thanks to whoever mentioned that).

One thing tho, she is quite shy about sexual things and has still not given me any sexual attention. While I am more than happy to wait (and get massages ) I was wondering whether I should wait until she offers (I've been dropping hints) or whether I should ask/move her hand down there and see what happens?

[Mickeyd]

hey stupid question, but i gave oral on my girlfriend (I'm 16 she's 17) for the first time the other night. She isn't really loud or vocal when it comes to sexual stuff, only when shes having an orgasm. I'm not stupid when it comes to oral (I've seen some pornos in my past) so I know the basics of what to do when I'm goin down on her....

Girls-----Tongue Action...what do you guys prefer the most? I went down on her, kissed her from her breasts all the way down to her belly button, then went to the top of her clit, then kind of faked her out and started kissing her inner thighs, teasing her. Then went back up to her clit, and went to the other thigh. By now, she's beggin for me to get started. Once I did, I started with all the basic techniques, but I'm just wonderin if there's a difference between flicking my tongue from side to side (which I can do alot faster) or flickin it up and down (on the clit obv.)

Just let me know what's the best to do with my tongue when it coems to flickin/lickin

[Darcymr101]

Generally finding A path and then switching to others that she likes instead of the same thing over and over despite speed.

Change to licking bottom to top.. alternating speed to really send her off the rails.

[RC83]

I was just curious as to what you women think of this.
Place a pillow under the small of her back, lie on your stomach with one of your hands below her and the other wrapped around her waste kinda forming a "half heart shape" with your hand over her genitals. I start out about 2 inches bellow her naval, barley touching with your lips start kissing and exhaling softly.. start working my way down with my lips and start tongue flickering her hood. After making your (and I quote Brandye) "little girl" hard take my index finger and thumb on either side of her hood and slightly pull up.. not trying to ressurect the titanic here.. but gently apply a little pressure. Without diving into clit-tastic tongue diving, take my other hand that is bellow you and insert my pointer finger upside down and do a "Come here" motion with my finger, not directly onto the Gspot but rather just around it to get things a little hotter. and well.. after that start tongue flicking her clit and as things start to boil up use my other hand/finger and start to massage your gspot while licking your clit... sound invigerating or am I truley clueless as to what I'm doing?


Please critique and or add a response. Thanks.