Female Masturbation 101

[vette1963]

COMMUNICATION. Talk about it it. Go online and look at some of the adult toy stores see if anything interests her. But first find out why - you can only do this by talking about it.Bring up the subject when you are alone over abottle of wine to loosen her up. ask her what she likes and comment on your like . Personally i REALLY enjoy watching my partner masturbate and i think she enjoys it for herself and pleasing me.

[Mr Love]

Thanks for the words of encouragement SexGoddess. Do you have a sister?

I'm tired of people thinking that sex is dirty. Sex is only dirty if you think in your mind that its dirty. When two people are enjoying each other and having fun....what's dirty about that? What is dirty about the doggie style? What's dirty about oral sex? I don't get it.

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Quote[/b] ]Quote: from SexGoddess on 6:13 pm on June 28, 2002
Awwwwwwww Mr love. i'm sorry to hear about your predicament. =(

good luck on finding that special lady who please you just as much and enjoy it as much as you please her and enjoy doing so *=)

I strongly believe a woman should get to know herself sexually most definately include her man. There's nothing like having a man take my hand and show me how to touch him. it's sexy,erotic and such a turn on.

I realize not a lot of women are &quot;open&quot; to such things and I feel they are being selfish with their bodies and pleasing their partners. it sucks. it really does.

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[PatientMan]

Well;
First of all you have to start by talking. Most of us are taught that you just don't talk about sex, so this is one of the toughest things for some couples to overcome. I started by saying that I know this is really embarrasing and uncomfortable but I love you and I want every touch, kiss, carress, and movement to be the most wonderful thing we can experience together. It took patience and many smiles and eye gazes and kisses, but slowly we started to open up. I started by having her just take my hands, fingers, and lips and guide them to the right places. Eventually, I asked her to show me how she touched herself. Again this took patience and an understanding that she was taught that touching herself was wrong, and therefore should not be admitted to. After we both admitted to masterbating she slowly started to show me. Having enough trust in a person to allow them to watch you give yourself an orgasm is the most wonderful and sexually exiting thing we have ever done together. After many years now we still masterbate during sex and it has become one of the biggest turn ons of our sex together. The key is lots and lots of patient honest conversation, and a willingness to wait for your partener to be at ease with you.

[AJM]

hold on, don't end it because she won't masturbate. ease into it. the problem is that from an early age, it is taught that masturbation is taboo, and that you shouldn't do it ever, because it is not appropriate. well there is a time and place for everything. you have to ease her into it, if she starts to feel uncomfortable about it, stop. first she has to explore her body, in private. then she has to find out that masturbation is very pleasurable, and nothing bad will come from doing it. during sex, masturbate in front of her, but not for a long time. mastubate with her if she ever tries. make it as stress free as possible and you will make slow but visible headway

[AJM]

I forgot to add, men seem to talk about masturbation all of the time, they don't feel guilty about it because they know they all do it. Females just don't talk about anything like that so they don't know that other females do it and therefore think that they are weird because they do or want to

[DaMnke3]

I think that if your girl is dull in bed and won't do anything you want, then just sit her down and talk to her. Sometimes she may feel that she is shunning her beliefs in masturbating and such.

That may be the biggest milestone to get over, and if she says she doesn't want to do it because of her religion, I wouldn't push it. I'd be frank and say you are thinking of leaving her, but don't ask her to compromise her beliefs... she would totally resent you for it.

If nothing works, leave her, and tell her why. There's no need for both of you to be unhappy together. :cheesy:

[lambchops]

man, that sucks you got one of those super religious non kinky girls...mine's catholic..big time...yet...when we're together...hehehe...i'm not saying anymore

[xx22xx]

Will someone explain why guys are so interested in girls masturbating? Why is it such a big deal?

[vette1963]

I don't know if i have the answer. however, i can tell you i personally enjoy watching my partner masturbate. something erotic about it. maybe a little dirty or personal.love watching the orgasm take place. i get very excited with this type of foreplay. Add a little solo masturbation with hers and your are ready to go.

[jigga5787]

why do some girls not fingure thereselfs some dont some do i dont no why any answers?