Female Masturbation 101

[Vencedor]

Amz69, don't worry too much. Arousal is all about mood and psychology, far more than the actual physical stimulation. You may just be putting too much pressure on yourself to orgasm when masturbating. I would suggest relaxing when you do it, and don't feel like you need to be able to orgasm straight away, just do whatever feels good. I wouldn't compare it to sex either; chances are the atmosphere will be a lot more exciting when you're having sex, which may be all you need to fix the issue.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

Originally Posted by planetsalign

I had a girlfriend like that once, she wouldnt masterbate, she wouldnt let me go down, I dont even think shed ever had an orgasm in her life. This was much do to the way her parents spoke of it, and treated the idea of her and I doing anything together. I hope she finally got it figured out as her parents forced us to seperate after they found out we had pre marital sex.

oops
im finding alot more people are doing that, a girl at work found a guy who she was dating, she went to do things with him and he said that he was waiting for the right female
i kinda of agree with eek about the right person has to do it for you in that way
to me its 1930's stuff waiting for the right person to do it with
its bad as is it being a guy letting a nice respectable chick do it with her i believe, (not meaning paying for your first time to a female)

[itsreal]

Keep working with her if she that religion you has to slowly guide her into it if she never had that experience she dont know how it feel.You take her hand and slowly let her get the feel of whats going on.

[bid69]

hmm... tips for you:

1. show her some hot pics
2. talk about family planning and your kids
3. tell her that you are hard
4. show her your huge bulge
5. give her some dry fruits and chocolates so that she starts burnning inside
6. try some sex tunning fragrance
7. gift her some erotic, silky lingeries
8. hug her tight (if she lets you). squeez her boobs slowly kissing on her neck and ear lobs
9. press your penis on her clit. or try to press her vagina with your palm

I am sure these tips will help you

[dimitris]

yesterday i had sex with my gf. she had multiple orgasms like always but the last one was really powerful she was shaking and she got a little scared :S what was that ?

[fishman1950]

I would love to watch my wife masturbate. I believe by watch her I will learn how to really turn her on and satisfied sexual. To me I think that is very importing to be able to meet her sexual need as a partner. Beside it also truns me on to.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by fishman1950

I would love to watch my wife masturbate. Beside it also truns me on to.

YUP! Yes indeedy!

If or when a woman expresses hesitancy or embarrassment at masturbating in front of her partner, about all that can be done is to offer encouragement that is positive and absolutely not pushy from her perspective. Maybe in time she will, maybe she won't. Much depends upon her levels of comfort and trust with her partner as well as her self image and esteem.

I believe by watch her I will learn how to really turn her on and satisfied sexual. To me I think that is very importing to be able to meet her sexual need as a partner.

Yes and no. Watching a man perform the mechanics of self stimulation is easy because everything is out in the open and on the "up and up", pun if any, intended. It is much more difficult to gather information on what a woman does and how even in broad daylight and fully exposed.

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

The KIVIN Method of performing Cunnilingus

Here is a partial copy of a reply I made to someone just after Christmas:

> i try everything to spice up the mood. if she gets close to a climax but looses it she becomes frustrated and will either tell me to stop or she will become dry and yea you can see what comes next. now im not one of those guys who is selfish i do want to please her ,

Please look at the Index found at the top of the main screen and read the articles listed in it. Here are some important links to relevant articles:

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

What to do when the Clitoris becomes too sensitive, by Dancingdoc2, Brandye, and, others

Too Sensitive: Suggestions for touching and pleasuring the Clitoris--Answered by Brandye and Dancingdoc2

Body Worship How-To by EEK

> its a turn on to please her but she thinks im just a selfish guy because she tells me im the only one that gets to climax ill show her this article in hopes she can give these tips a try

It is important for her to know and understand that the missing link to all this is the lack of information. She should stop assigning blame and the two of you need to acquire some knowledge. This is the purpose of this site and why all these articles and others were written. Help yourself, and help each other. A relationship is a partnership as are the romance and sexual aspects. Explore and learn together and practice.

Each of us needs something more than just visual cues; we need verbal and non-verbal feedback as explained in one of the articles listed in the Index. When we masturbate each of us benefits from an internal feedback network that lets us monitor our progress and to make midcourse corrections along the way. This is missing when we turn the reins over to our partner, therefore, what we need to do is to replace this with verbal cues and body language for how we are responding to our partner's caresses and for what we need now/next.

1. Watch her masturbate
2. Ask that she guide your fingers over a few
sessions until you learn to mimic her movements
3. Encourage feedback

-doc in Sac.

[DirtDriver]

Originally Posted by dimitris

yesterday i had sex with my gf. she had multiple orgasms like always but the last one was really powerful she was shaking and she got a little scared :S what was that ?

It's because you are sooo awesome in bed! You really drove her crazy and wild and she'll never feel the same again!! You go soldier!!

[pinkFlames]

Originally Posted by dimitris

yesterday i had sex with my gf. she had multiple orgasms like always but the last one was really powerful she was shaking and she got a little scared :S what was that ?

Simply the best orgasm she's ever had.

[yum]

i'm doing it right now