Female Masturbation 101

[Cloudnine]

well...my boyfriend has never asked so I haven't been affected by this problem...however...he's made me orgasm a few times but it's not consistent...
I personally have never "directly" masturbated...I've done the whole sitting on my foot thing and grinding against a pillow or something like that...but actually used my hand or a toy...no...because of the whole "taboo" that has been placed upon it...not necessarily because of religion but because of the way that it has been talked about by my friends...and--childish I know--I'm scared to use or buy a toy...I'm afraid that it will give me a bad image...one of the disadvantages of living in a small town I guess...
but after reading this I might try...I mean it will be a hurdle to go over...but if it will bring me and my boyfriend closer together I will try...wish me luck!

[BTDTWoman]

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Originally Posted by I still regard masturbation as a personal act

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BY DEFINITION, masturbation is SELF-generated genital stimulation to orgasm WITHOUT a partner. Get it? WITHOUT A PARTNER.

Stimulating the genitalia of a partner needs another name because that is NOT "masturbation". You do NOT "masturbate each other". Such are the limits of the English language! . . .

This is not to criticize but to CLARIFY.

Sorry, but you are mistaken. Masturbation is the erotic stimulation of the genitals, usually with the hand or an external object. The definition does not require self-stimulation or privacy or the absence of others. "Mutual masturbation" is a common sexual practice in which sex partners do masturbate each other.

[XxtashyxX]

Originally Posted by Mr Love

My partner is in the same closet cool macs. If your girl ever comes out tell her to bring mine with her. What is it with that? I'm very close to leaving her and being with someone else. We've had all the talks. Even if she were into this stuff...she would'nt be very good at it.
Its hopeless....i'm going to find someone else.

hey hold up i was one of those girls and i came of the the closet....maybe u not makin her feel comfortable..... my ex taught me that i should be comfotrtable and he always paid me complements.... than after he was patient and i felt comfortable with him cause he didnt want just sex from me we had hot raunchy sex that lasted hrs....best nite ever.....so be -patient and majke her feel comfortable...gd luck if u wait u'll have the best sex ever.....dont keep sayin ull be with som1 else cause ur not speeding up the process ur slowin it down....

[AAwazere]

y wont she masterbate?
i do its great!!

[coveresid]

My wife is getting more comfortable with stroking herself while we make love. Just the other night during me giving her oral sex, I again brought her hand down and put it right on her pussy and had her start to rub. She went right into it while I continued to lick and play with her with my tongue. I even backed off to enjoy the show and she just kept on going for awhile. I think she got a little self aware and stopped, but I guided her hand back down to let her know I wanted to watch a little longer, so she started to stroke herself again and had no hesitation to insert her fingers and even spread her labia which was a nice view. Before she used to only rub herself a little bit and then once she stopped, she would never start again like this time. So I'm glad she is more comfortable because I really enjoy the show and I know she is rubbing the right spot to get her feeling even better. She was so turned on by the time I went back down on her she was ready for anything. She had me insert my fingers and even wanted a finger in her anus while I sucked and licked her clit. Both our orgasms were great. I wanted to go down on her after ejaculating in her but she was to sensitive and couldn't take any more stimulation, so we ended up just laying back and resting.

[atomic]

I discovered how nice it felt to touch myself down there when I was 12. I have masturbated at least 3 times on average per week since then.

Knowing your own body does help when it comes to sex, but you can also get impatient as you know what gets you off and your partner doesn't always read your body language. If you are shy, this can be frustrating, but when you feel confident enough, it is a big turn on for both parties to show him how you get your rocks off

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

to me it seems to be a half do it and others wont or dont want to because they dont know what to touch or it feels better if someone else does it.
there is ones who dont care and play as much as they can depending on the times of the month
the girl i am seeing at the moment didnt know anything about down there on her, just by slowly showing her, she isnt so shy with doing things now
best way is to find out their views on touching there and slowly introduce them to the idea and it isnt so bad as it seems or (dirty)

[pink_menace]

i do have some experiences before, that my man wants me to play around with mahself in front of him...or do a little dirty dancing....he said it would please him...
...but i dunnow...it's just so awkward.... i haven't tried it in front of him but he kept on asking me most of the time....i still don't have the guts.....am still too shy...i guess...

[coveresid]

pink menace, with him asking it would be a good show for him and you should try it for him. It is hard the first time. When I played with myself for my wife, I think it helped her relax some and made it easier for her. So when I was giving her oral, I guided her hand down onto her and she took over. It has gotton to the point that she will do this for me and let me watch. It is so hot to see her rubbing her clit and stroking her labia. She will even insert two fingers while I'm watching and can really get herself hot. But she wants me to take over and so I go back to oral or go to PIV.

[pink_menace]

i dunnow....im still too shy...we've been together for years now....
and he's been asking me about it most of the time....
i just said, i promise i'll do it on our honeymoon....^^