Female Masturbation 101

[sandra]

i can masturbate with a toy but i can never do it with my own fingers. i clam up when i try to insert my finger no matter how i tell myself to relax. lol! i think masturbation is sexy. i grew up in an environment where sex is taboo. no sex talk at all. but once i reached 18 and went to college i found sex. and fortunately, my background di not hinder my enjoyment but instead spurred it! i would hate to be in a relationship where my sexual needs and desires do not match. it's true that love is more than just sex but sex is one of the most important aspect!

[Squirtilicious]

Masterbation is a wonderful PRIVATE experience. It provides me the opportunity to get in touch with the feel of my body inside and out, enabling you to float on sensation that you alone can orchestrate.

Then and only then can I help my partner to pleasure me. My partners have never asked me to share this moment with them, neither have they gone off in front of me without my assistance. Again preferences come into play.

I am going to suggest this to my b/f and report to this board the responce....give me a couple days of sex before I antagonize him and get placed in the dog house! Seriously, look out for that post.

[sweetmomma]

I masterbate regularly and also have a very active sex life. Maybe she does do it, but is just to embarrased to do it in front of you.

My husband was great at the charm and we often use sex toys now, but in the beginning of our relationship I was a little embarrased at first. maybe you don't make her feel comfortable enough and may pressure her.

Think about what you are saying to her and how you are putting it across to her.

[coveresid]

My wife doesn't masturbate in private and so when I asked her to touch herself she wouldn't do it. Over time I have been able to guide her hand down to her vulva while I am giving her oral and she will start to rub herself and it does send her closer to orgasm. At first when I would stop using my tongue because I wanted to watch, she would quit and I would have to go back down on her. At first she would just rub her clit area and her labia. Eventually she started to insert a finger or two. Lately when I have gotton her started, she allowed me to back away and take a break so I was able to watch her. She had two fingers up in her and was really stroking her. She was so close to orgasm but wouldn't finish herself. She pulled me back down for intercourse and she had her orgasm almost immediately. It wasn't much longer before I finished. But I just loved the site of watching her pleasure herself. She likes to watch me rub myself while she gives oral. There have been a few times she has stopped just to watch me rub myself, so I know she is enjoying the show and that is probably why she was willing to let me watch her. I would like to watch her bring herself to an orgasm and do the same with myself while she watches. But that is something to continue to build up to. It is so hot for me to watch her touch herself.

[Violent Alienation]

Originally Posted by coveresid

My wife doesn't masturbate in private and so when I asked her to touch herself she wouldn't do it. Over time I have been able to guide her hand down to her vulva while I am giving her oral and she will start to rub herself and it does send her closer to orgasm. At first when I would stop using my tongue because I wanted to watch, she would quit and I would have to go back down on her. At first she would just rub her clit area and her labia. Eventually she started to insert a finger or two. Lately when I have gotton her started, she allowed me to back away and take a break so I was able to watch her. She had two fingers up in her and was really stroking her. She was so close to orgasm but wouldn't finish herself. She pulled me back down for intercourse and she had her orgasm almost immediately. It wasn't much longer before I finished. But I just loved the site of watching her pleasure herself. She likes to watch me rub myself while she gives oral. There have been a few times she has stopped just to watch me rub myself, so I know she is enjoying the show and that is probably why she was willing to let me watch her. I would like to watch her bring herself to an orgasm and do the same with myself while she watches. But that is something to continue to build up to. It is so hot for me to watch her touch herself.

Generally speaking when a girl is shy it usually takes a lot to work around her to release the stress and fear. Most of the "hurt one" met men who have no patience. Sometimes it takes 2 or more years to summon the sexual beast a woman can be.

[jukie]

haha she sounds a bit like me... i'm assuming its most probably her not being 100% comfortable with the whole sex factor and also being self conscious... dont give up on her just yet..

[MoxieV]

Yes, just ask her too. Most likely, if she's comfortable, she will because you'll tell her the truth, it turns you on. If she's not comfortable about it, then forgetabout it. She won't do it in front of anybody until she's good and ready. And even after that, it will take a while.

[KiTkAt112601]

I don't really have any advice to offer you but I can tell you this. If you guys haven't been dating that long, it may take her a little while to warm up to you. She has to be reassured in the relationship that you are comfortable with her and her appearance and her actions. Once she is completely comfortable being herself around you, she WILL open up. Don't Worry!

[sexmagik]

I think I'm addicted to masturbation If I don't do it at least once a day i feel extremly cranky and nervous.

[Laika]

Originally Posted by sexmagik

I think I'm addicted to masturbation If I don't do it at least once a day i feel extremly cranky and nervous.

An orgam a day keeps crankiness away
Seriously, I also have a very high sex drive and masturbate a lot even though I have regular sexual life. My partner needs less than me. So I think this is normal.
As for masturbating in front of my partner - I can do it, no prob. But the fact is when I have him near, I prefer to do something with him rather than just touching myself...