I am bi sexual and only just recently had my first experience in giving oral to a woman.I have been with her before but we just fooled around by kissing and sucking each others breasts and rubbing our pussies.We were fully clothed the first time.But this time we both got naked and I just had the urge to go down on her(with her consent of course)

I know what I like but all women are different and I had never had a woman do that to me.Only a male and I tried to remember how that felt and also things I had read on this site.I started by gently kissing and licking her mound,then teasing her with my tongue gradually building up to sucking on her inner labia and clitoris.She seemed to like it so much and pushed my head in deeper between her generous thighs.She is a BBW and I like that in women,although I don't like gross obesity.Any way she came very quickly and was very turned on by it.I think she may have even cum in my mouth.

Just wondering am I doing it right,and is there anything else I could do in future to really please my friend orally.I liked it very much and am glad that she did too.

With knowledge and skill, you can do all the things any of the rest of the human race can do. Please read the very first article listed in the Index found at the top right of the main screen.

To acquire knowledge and eventually become a world-class lover, please read each of the articles and add the information from each to what you already know.

Understand that the size of a person's penis is nowhere near as important as the information about how to fool around and make out, and, how to make love to a woman's mind and soul, first and foremost. I know, I know, for boys its mainly all about orgasms; not so for the fairer gender. Girls often learn much later in life about orgasms and how to climax, so until she does, spend your time learning how to love and make love to her mind, first; second, learn how to fool around and make out, beginning with Necking, then Petting, Heavy Petting, eventually Foreplay, and someday--intercourse. Learn about each, then progress in that order, while also mixing them up as you continue to build her level of arousal, excitement, and, expectation.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Thanks big916,yes she definitely enjoyed it and I do hope that she lets me do it again.

Aphro - since you had success your first time and she enjoyed herself very much continue doing what you said. I will say though a couple of girls really enjoyed me wrapping my tongue around their clit, then they can grind on my face. If your tongue is wide enough I would suggest trying that.

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Read around, for heaven's sake.

If she still has a hymen, your tongue will not likely get close. About ten percent of women sometimes squirt.

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> Brandye: About ten percent of women sometimes squirt.

Remember: 10% and "sometimes".

> Katoba: My GF's a virgin and I've never satisfied a girl by fingering and licking (I'm actually a virgin too).

Please read the articles in the index on making out and oral stimulation for help.

> I'm planning to go soft on her as I don't wish to damage her hymen, simply want to stroke her gently and make her achieve orgasm.

This is a good approach; however, you cannot "make her achieve orgasm". Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

Secondly, has she learned to masturbate and have orgasms regularly and consistently on her own? If not, she has to do this first. This is explained in detail in those articles that discuss the female "O".

> I don't need advices on what she can do, as I want to dedicate my whole time pleasing her for the first time.

This is mighty magnanomous of you, yet entirely too selfish. Making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together. While you are reading thru the information provided here, please understand that while you may not think you need information on how to go about pleasing you, the more information you have on this and in general, the better your love life and the better your sex life will be. Maybe she needs the information, or for you to help her help you. Do not think for one minute that she is going to lie there and not want to reciprocate in some way. It is certainly OK if she does; however, do not require this of her.

You should know and understand that orgasms while in the company of a partner are generally vastly more instense than what we can achieve from masturbating. This is because of the pheromones and "sparks" flying between you. Not having an orgasm by whosever hand is to forego one of life's major pleasures! Don't knock it 'til you've tried it.

> Please explain what the consequences of her orgasm may be - squirt or not and so on...

Finally, on the subject of orgasms, you should know that they are not the biological imperative for women that they are for men. In other words, you can do much to please and pleasure her without her ever having an orgasm. This said, learn and perfect how you make love to a woman both psychologically as well as physically--as in how to have great makeout sessions! Understand that for guys at this stage making love has generally more to with with our orgasms; women on the other hand, wish to be appreciated, loved, validated, first and foremost. So, do not get all hung up on orgasms. Get concerned with how to make love. The importance of this is shown by the quantity of articles in the Index devoted to this important yet often minimized part of arousing a person.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Orgasms--
The reasons for encouraging you to concentrate on making out and making love instead of having sex with orgasms are:

a. Making love is not done by the numbers. The process and the steps involved are dynamic and change moment to moment and session to session. We take our cues for what to do next from our partner's reactions.

b. It takes time to become in tune with each other, becoming relaxed in each other's company, comfortable being seen nude or partially so, and, letting go of inhibitions.

c. While guys can be up and ready in moments and achieve orgasms easily, not for for the gentler gender. A woman's "engine" needs a fair amount of priming and warming up, first. Having a Quickie is OK; however, great sessions require a minimum of half an hour of making out--more within reason and time permitting. **

d. Guys learn about orgasms straight out of puberty; not so with all girls. Many learn to masturbate later in life if at all. Boys are driven to have climaxes often, and without a lot of fanfare; for girls, learning to masturbate is a conscious and concerted effort. Since we do not give orgasms away, and because your girlfriend may not yet have learned how to achieve orgasms on her own, please understand that you can have a great time and she can greatly enjoy the intimacy without her climaxing one or more times.

e. **Please devote time to reading the articles discussing the how-to's and why fors of making out. For whatever reason nowadays, boys especially operate under the misguided misconception that spending time fooling around is old hat and mostly unnecessary. Nothing could be further from the truth. A good lengthy makeout session is necessary for a woman and very beneficial for a guy. Learn how. Learn well.

f. Here is something to think about. Males and females of the species all masturbate in generally the same basic way for their gender, yet we all have developed unique differences in how we each go about it. If we vary the routine sufficiently, either an orgasm will not happen or if it does, it will not be as expected. Now, couple this without knowing how your girlfriend stimulates herself and there is a fair chance that she will not be able to climax from your caresses.

g. The solution is to learn how she does it and this requires that she show you and guide you by taking your hand and moving it the way she does until you learn to mimic her unique technique. The same goes for you with her. (If your girlfriend has not yet learned how to masturbate and achieve climaxes regularly and consistently, encourage her to learn. She should read the articles devoted to this.)

h. The importance of reading the many articles in the Index and Home page are for you and others to understand and learn about the nuances involved with all this.

i. Communication is critically important. When we masturbate we benefit from a built-in feedback loop between the sensitive nerves in the skin and our brain. This internal feedback lets us make tiny midcourse corrections to what we are doing moment to moment in order to stay on track and build our arousal and excitement. This feedback is non existent when we turn the reins over to our partner. So, what are we to do? COMMUNICATE. There is an article devoted to verbal and non-verbal communication. Knowing about this is a must for your continuing education--your empowerment.

> I'm planning to go soft on her as I don't wish to damage her hymen

You may discover that although she is a virgin she may not have an intact hymen. Among western societies, we take a woman's word that she has never experienced intercourse; not so in some eastern cultures. It is not unusual or uncommon for a girl's hymen to rupture as a result of strenuous exercise, using Tampons, fingering and exploration.

Often by the time a girl reaches her mid--late teens her hyman may have already torn or eroded away, be it partially or completely. This said, the measure of whether a girl is a virgin is whether she has had a penis inside of her and for this we take her at her word.

> Please explain what the consequences of her orgasm may be

* That she will no doubt connect with you, or, reaffirm and reestablish an existing bond.

* That like with you, all stress and tension will go away for a while.

* It will be extremely pleasurable and enjoyable--if:

The important "if" is in learning how to go about stimulating her both emotionally and physically and in this order.

The important "if" is in knowing about and understanding the differences between the male and female psychology and physiology and about arousing each other. What you are used to doing and the technique that works for you is not what works for her, especially when you consider that your penis is a much larger version of her clitoris and that all those sensitive nerve endings in the head of your penis are compacted into a space about the size of a pencil eraser in the tip of her clitoris!

I urge you not to focus on orgasms during your early love making sessions.

1. Work first at establishing an emotional bond.

2. Work second at establishing a partnership in which you explore and learn together.

3. All this is serious business, although, you must not take it so seriously that the two of you cannot have fun. Mistakes happen. Learning how to pleasure and meet each other's needs takes time and effort. Please do not exect that the how-to's of making love are as simple as 1, 2, 3; do this and that will happen. Expect that there is going to be a learning curve as the two of you become comfortable with each other and learn how to pleasure each other.

Lastly: Do not be so self critical that you cannot have fun along the way and perhaps squelch one another's enthusiasm and enjoyment in just being together in each other's arms. Please read the article on "experience".

Now, go have a good time and be safe. Got questions?

Great stuff Doc!!

Hey DocDoc2 , You are very .... I dont have words to admire your comments today. You are in real mood today. Very Very informative Sania...

Kotoba,, Unless your girlfriend has had practice pleasuring herself in the past, i don't think that fireworks will be sparking on her first time.!
That goes for you also, reaching total pleasure can be a bit tricky unless you have had practiced already (i.e. if you are a pro)..

before you start, I would make sure you have read all the techniques for what to do.
Actually, this website is great for tips and hints! Take a read!

For your girlfriend to have an awesome experience and total pleasure, you need to make her 100% relaxed. As you know your girlfriend the best, only you will know how to do this.!
If a girl is feeling a little tense, automatically her abdomen muscles will tense and that will not allow you to have total access to all those areas you need to please!!

This also goes for the myth that "girls bleed during the first time of sex"..
A very small percentage of girls squirt (or bleed) on their first time of oral or normal sex!
It isnt a bad thing if she doesnt 'squirt', she hasnt hit any less of an orgasm than is she had! Dont worry!!
But she may get incredibly 'wet' down there, depending on how horny you make her!
In that case, if you are paranoid with making any type of mess on your bed (or wherever you are going to do this), put down some type of towel! But make sure you explain to her why you are using a towel, its a major turnoff for a girl if she thinks you are embarrassed or discussed by her fluids!

I hope that helped you!! Good luck!!

A lady I have known for about 20 years , as very good friends, was so shy and did not or never had experienced a man pleasing her orally, that every time I started to work my way down her tummy and down one leg, to come up the other one, would always be saying....'No, don't do that...It's dirty, you won't like me after....etc., etc., etc. I finally calmed her down with words of encouragement, a very tolerant attitude, and light kisses to her lower tummy and pubic area, to start. After, I proceeded to kiss her mound and gently lick and spread her lips gently with my tongue, and before you know it, she started a soft moan and guiding my head aver the points she wanted me to stimulate.

I proceeded by exposing her clitoris, gently hidden under the hood, and as it got harder and exposed itself more, I started to suck it softly and roll it around in my mouth. I also flicked it on both sides and pulled the folds of her labia into my mouth, ever so gently, and at one point, several minutes later, I think' she just grabbed my head, mashed it into her mound, and started to heave, shake and almost rip my head off between her thighs. I mean, this was a tall girl! I am 5 foot 11 and weigh in at a decent 260 lbs, but this girl was 5 foot 11, weighed in at 200 lbs, which you could not even find!, and was not to be messed with when she was in her killer heels(over 6' 2"). she wrapped her legs around my head and shoulders, started to buck like a bronco for about 2-3 minutes after which I had to surface just to breathe, but she did not come down from that high for about 20 minutes, during which she held me so tight, I thought she was going to squeeze out the stuffing in me!

Every woman has a different way of reaching orgasm, some just moan gently, others really get off, so take your time, enjoy the moment and good luck!

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You ought to not be sexaul active with a girl. With a women *YES*. As to do women squirt? Yes they do! Most times anyhow depending on your experience of finding the G-Spot.
Do women get lubricated (quirt?) absolutly. This was to allow easy entry for the penis. So, with time you will learn when it's fake or not. Just because of this little piece of body chemsitry given to women. There is so much more to all of this but time only will tell you. I am a certified master Coach and also have a site for MEN and a site for general question on Keen.

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great info. DOC

As a virgin she will probably be nervous, maybe just a little nervous, maybe extremely nervous. She will most likely be unsure about you going down on her. She will probably be worried about you being disgusted. She may think that she will smell or taste bad (as long as she's healthy she won't). You may have to work a bit to relax her and make her believe that its what you really want to do.

This will take more than standard foreplay. I suggest a full massage. I never feel more pampered and cared for than when my husband does this for me. Set the mood with low lighting, we have two lamps with 25 watt red bulbs in them and it's perfect. Turn on some soft music, whatever you guys like. I also like a scented candle so the room smells nice.

He starts the massage with me on my stomach and he rubs my back for a bit, then moves down to massage my butt and the backs of my legs. There are few things I love more than having the backs of my legs rubbed very lightly with the tips of his fingers. It's relaxing and arousing at the same time!!

Then he rolls me to my back and starting with a couple of minutes on my feet and the fronts of my legs, he moves up to my upper body to my neck and breasts. Then he goes back down to my pussy. If you start with something like this, sprinkling in lots of compliments about how beautiful her body is and how much pleasure this is all giving you, she should be very relaxed and highly aroused. She may tense back up a little as you actually get between her legs but it shouldn't take much more to relax her again.

As far as what to do when you are actually performing oral on her the most important thing to remember is that her clitoris is the source of nearly all female orgasms. If you aren't familiar with the location of the clitoris and other lady bits go to the site at the end of this post. The female anatomy diagram on sexinfo101 shows the internal orgasm but not the external lay out which is what you need to know about.

The whole area of the inner and outer labia is very sensitive and she'll respond well to stroking or licking there as well as on her clitoris so remember to spread your attention around and don't just focus on the clitoris at first. However once she seems to be building to orgasm you need to stick with whatever you’re doing. At this point you should focus mainly on the clitoris until she goes over the edge. For specific techniques go to the Oral Sex part of the sexinfo101 in the Sex Encyclopedia section.

It's hard to say how she'll react to orgasm. Some of us are very loud, some are very quiet. Personally I'm very loud during but as I get very close to orgasm I become nearly silent. My husband says that he can always tell when I'm getting close tho because my nipples get harder and harder. He can look up and tell right away if I'm close. If she's truly never had an orgasm the intensity may freak her out a bit but stick with her. If she's masturbated the whole thing may not be so surprising although the orgasms I get from masturbation and oral are very different. Once she has reached orgasm her clit will become extremely sensitive so you can stop at that point.

Not very many women actually squirt when they orgasm but she will be producing lots of lubrication in her vagina during the whole process of foreplay, massage and oral so she will probably be very wet by the time you even get down to the oral. Some women get wetter than others tho so if she isn't super wet don't worry about it. You won't need to put a towel under her but putting a firm pillow under her bum is something I would suggest. It raises her up a bit so the angle isn't so hard on your neck as you're down there. Also your tongue will get tired, when it does you can take over with your finger and just run your finger along her lady bits as you were doing with your tongue.

An excellent site to learn about the clitoris is [url=http://www.femaleclitoralstimulationtechniques.com]Clitoris - Clitoral Stimulation Techniques You will find a picture of a pussy showing where the clitoris, labia, etc all are under Clitoris Basics, some oral sex don'ts, and lots of other info that should be helpful.

one of the best places where i learned how to orally satisfy women is [url=http://www.learn2lick.com/]Learn To Lick, site by Jennifer Dobrowitz, and my girlfriend is now hardly letting me out of the bed ;)

Squirting is definitely the rarity and usually involves gspot stimulation. A high state of clitoral stimulation is usually needed to even get the gspot involved. We're talking semi-advanced sexual techniques.

Most women rely on clitoral stimulated orgasms. So that is what I'd learn. And clitoral are non-penetrating so no hymen issues.

my penis is only 4 inches :( what can i do?

What kind of advice do you have for me, ok Sometimes when my b/f eats me out I just gush and gush for like 2 or 3 minutes straight, but it doesn't squirt out, is it the same, am i squirting?

Thanks for sharing. I have been having sex for some time, and it always good to be reminded of the important things. Thanks.

the only time i can make a women orgasm is by going down on her

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