> I've been married for about a year now. And I think I've only once managed to get my wife to orgasm during intercourse.

It is sad that you do not know for certain. Communication and feedback are key to a satisfying relationship. It is also good etiquette for a woman to let her man know when she climaxes so he does not have the urge to ask: "did you cum yet?"

> Lately we first get her to finish with my fingers, then I go for it (and last about 30 seconds).

It is not impossible; although, it is unusual for a woman to climax just from intercourse alone. Most knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lovers will reach around and stimulate the clitoris while also stroking.

> What can I do to please her with my penis?

Asked and answered, above.

> How can I last longer and how can I reach her clit?

Please read the article listed in the Index on lasting longer:

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

"How can I reach her clit?" Do you know where it is? The obvious answer is that you touch it with your finger(s), lips, tongue, etc. You must mean something else so please tell us what you mean in order for one of us to offer better help.

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Please find and read the sticky posts The Program and Body Worship and you will learn that there are a great many things you can do to assist your wife to orgasm. You should also read what we tell women who have difficulties orgasming - look these up in the Index.

With all dus respect, DD, not ENTIRELY true. Unfortunately, humans, including women, vary widely so although the 'standard plan' may be x some women are y. Just how it is. Oddly enough, the same can be said for men. Some men orgasm quickly and some take f-o-r-e-v-e-r.

Please do not neglect the g-spot, the anterior fornix, and the posterior fornix all of which are accessed vaginally and when caressed correctly can induce orgasms in most, but not all, women. Please see the sticky post The Four Hotspots.

Geez...another man who can not satisfy a woman? Seriously, do you guys read anything? Do you learn anything?? I have yet to have sex with a woman who didn't orgasm. While it is true orgasm for women does not come as easy as it does for men, and it is true that more women have trouble with orgasm, the truth is, it lies in MEN who SUCK in the bedroom!

All guys tend to think about is "pussy" and "fucking". Thats not how women think (most anyway). Educate yourself. Foreplay is the woman's greatest tool towards orgasm. Read this book - The dimensions of Human Sexuality by Greenberg, Bruess and Conklin. You will learn that the sexual cycle of women greatly varies from men. A woman has a different excitement phase, a different peak phase and a different refractory phase. If she's not dripping wet with foreplay, you're doing it wrong! And most women need clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Its a fact.

If you still can't make her cum, get her a clit vibrator. Problem solved. The guy who invented the clit vibrator did so for men who suck in bed.

Here's a fact - there are less nerve endings in the vagina than there are in the clitoris. HINT - very few women can orgasm on penetration alone.

And we are ignoring certain irrefutable facts oft cited here: One-quarter of all women never, or rarely, achieve orgasm no matter what is done; one quarter frequently reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. That leaves one-half of us (I am in this group) who usually require additional stimulation to the thrusting to reach orgasm.

Human anatomy is such that the penis automatically stimulated during coitus but stimulation of the clitoris is dependent upon the individual anatomies involved and the positions used. The ladies first movement recognizes this and encourages women's orgasms before working on the male. With younger men, a repeat performance is often possible so how about an orgasm early, bring her off and then an encore?

This is where extensive experience also comes in.

Encores are possible with MOST men, age not withstanding. The variables to consider are health and fitness, hydration, and...interest. Beyond that you have his schedule, your schedule and whether you're out of time on the parking meter. (joke)