Sorry if this already has been talked about but i couldnt find the thread.
Here's my situation my girlfriend and I enjoy sex and love trying new and exciting things. We recently decided to venture into anal sex, and the results were successful (if anyone is wondering how.. i used advice from this website and a video(DVD) called "Tristan's Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex"). She tell me that anal sex doesn't hurt which is a good thing because " it shouldn't hurt" but the only reason i don't enjoy it is because it seems like she doesn't, no moaning, no dirty talk she just sits there and takes it and tell me she cant feel anything. my question is is there anything i can do to change the situation because i feel awkward having anal sex.
I think you have to discuss this with her. Are other parts of your sex life more exciting? Talk to her!
If she can't feel anything, was it really successful?
it might be that you're the only one who likes it....
or she's doing it just to please you.....and then
it'll turn out that she's not liking it at all...
Some like it; some do nt. If it is not being enjoyable for either, why continue?
You need to be combining it with clitoral stimulation. This can totally transform the experience, or at least combine it with some pleasurable sensations.
It can be quite intimate spooning, with anal penetration and well performed clitoral stimulation with your fingers.
If you can bring her to orgasm while you are inside her... wow, her muscle contractions may well take you over the edge too.
> the only reason i don't enjoy it is because it seems like she doesn't, no moaning, no dirty talk she just sits there and takes it and tell me she cant feel anything. my question is is there anything i can do to change the situation because i feel awkward having anal sex.
Please read this article listed in the Index:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
The many sensitive nerve endings in and around the Anus are extremely sensitive, however, they only "turn on" and become reactive after a person becomes very aroused. My recommendation is to wait to touch the outside of the anus until she is very aroused. You can finger the outside with a dry or lubricated finger while working on other areas.
Stroking along the inside passageway and sphincter muscles just before triggering an orgasm will usually feel very very good. These sensations will help jump start an orgasm as well as making the feelings much more intense.
Ok, anal itself isn't that whoopie for me. But I loved how my ex-bf would hold me during it and talk the whole time. He was also thoughtful enough to reach around the front. Just the positioning of it for us was so intimate and he was so gentle...very different from vag sex.
Have you tried getting her to climax first, a couple of times, before you go for anal? This is the only time anal is even remotely enjoyable for me.