Ok... well me and this girl have been dating for nearly a year and a half. we've done just about everything to each other, but i cannot seem to get her to orgasm. i mean... she always moans and really seems to enjoy it, but cannot orgasm. anywho, we had sex for the first time last week and she didnt enjoy it at all. it did not hurt her... it just didnt please her either... as if she could not feel it, (and im not a small guy). we majorly foreplayed beforehand, could this be the problem? if not... how can i make her enjoy sex... or orgasm? i pretty much know everything that she likes, but i can never get her to that point. someone PLEASE help me out!!
Mon, 02/14/2005 - 09:27
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Pleasing her?
Has this been said?
Consider this:
She may feel like she is going to pee right before and then freezes up at that point.
and now she is frustrated because her expectations are not being met...
and she's too embarrassed to talk to you about it or too embarrassed to just let go.
Also consider medications... My friend takes a medication that reduces her ability to orgasm and she HATES it!
For me, the clit needs a lot of stimulation and penetration alone doesn't do it. If I've already orgasmed, though, then immediately doing it doggy style can bring another one.
[QUOTE=Quote (Don_One @ Mar. 03 2005,12:55)][QUOTE=Quote (howdy @ Feb. 14 2005,01:27)]we've done just about everything to each other, but i cannot seem to get her to orgasm.[/QUOTE]
unless your girl is posting elsewhere, it seems you're getting more bent out of shape over this issue than she is. like i've heard time and again, some women just don't orgasm.
sex with someone you care about is all about experimenting. use different sex toys with her, see what she likes. let her use sex toys on herself or masturbate while you watch, so you can see what pleases her. if she's not comfortable with masturbating in front of you, let her do it in private and give you all the details later. hope that helps.[/QUOTE]
Good point Don,
also remember most women don't orgasm from just penetration alone. Try different positions to stimulate the clit or usually I do it manually either with my hand or a vibe.
Nothing wrong w/ that, just how some women are.
Does she masterbate? Sometimes it takes a little self exploration to find out what brings up to orgasm. Suggest that she experiment with some toys. Don't worry too much about bringing her to orgasm. If she's enjoying herself and it sounds like she is just go with it. She might feel like she's pressured to orgasm since you seem to focus so much on it. Just relax and have fun.
yes i was her first, and it was our first time. perhaps it is psycological, but ive explored that and tried to get her to relax. we're exremely comfortable around one another, and communication is not a problem at all with us... and i've already tried the heated massage oils thing. once again, it was pleasurable for her, but she didnt orgasm. just dunno what else to do...
Dude,sounds to me like it may be a physcological problem.Also, are you her first?That might have something to do with it. She might also be too used to other stuff you guys have done. Has she suffered any traumatic sex-related event? If you say you did the foreplay heavily and she still did not have an "o," it maybe all in the head (hers).She might be so anxious as to pleasing you that she might forget to have her fun as well.Try to relax her as best you can and let her know that she can just let loose when shes with you. Also try to give her a full body massage as well.I have been able to assist a girl or two in having an orgasm from those alone.Use the hot oils and stuff,they do most of the work for you