I am married to a wonderful woman and would not trade her for anyone in the world. The wife of our best friend does not believe in giving oral sex, but our friend likes blowjobs an misses them.
I told my wife about his dilemma and we discussed her possibly giving him a blow job every now and then, but the only thing holding her back is she is afraid it will make the friendship strange.
I told her that he might think so much of the gesture that it would strengthen the relationship, but on the other hand, she may be right.
She asked me to post this and see what all you think.
Once crossing that line, will the sexual contact continue to be just a blow job? Or will it ease into more due to her being turned on by him and wanting more sexual contact?
Are you comfortable with that? Is she? Are the other couple?
Would this be considered a friends with benefits scenario???
I wouldn't go there. Think of it this way, this is your best friend, male, getting a blow job from you wife. What are you and his wife doing while this is going on, baking cookies? I was asked to be part of a three way with a good friend of mine, and her husband. No, don't care to be touched by another woman and there was nothing about her husband that made me want to touch him.
It would be a friend with benefits type thing. I have a very open mind and I have told her I will never restrict her actions as long as it does not affect our relationship. She is not really turned on by him or finds him attractive, but she just feels sorry for him. I am far from pushing her to do it and it may never happen, but I just wanted to ask the question.
Just curious, but what would his wife think of the idea? If you're talking about doing it behind her back I wouldn't go there. If everybody's out in the open and okay with it, then that's another thing.
She is fine with it as long as it is nothing more than a blow job. Infact sh ehas said she wants to watch if it happens.
I still would not go there. Once you do there is no going back. She may only do this once, but it was once. I'm in a friends with benefits relationship, and if there are other women I don't know them and do not want to know them, he's (well for now) mine.
I almost see oral sex as more intimate than vaginal, it's my way of making my man happy, not the neighbors. Take your wife to a swingers club or to a strip bar, you don't have to do anything, but if you can live with another man looking at your wife then good luck. Will you be looking at this man looking at your wife and wondering what his thoughts are? I bet yes, so say sorry dude but I am just not willing to share my wife with anyone.
This appears on more levels then the obvious top be a mistake in the coming!
It's either an open relationship where all things go or it is not....leaving it at a blow job??
Look, I like a blow job as much as the next guy....but lets be honest....after a few minutes of oral pleasure I cannot wait to et hold of my wife and have my way with her....your mate will think the same of your wife!!
Goodluck with the decision....
In an ideal world.....great "friend" your wife would make if she was looking to "please" another due to him not getting a paticular "style". Hey, I do not get enough anal......don't have a freind looking to over his wife for that at the moment!
She has never acted on it, but she does have permission to do what she wants. I see what you all are saying. I know I would prefer she didn't, but it is her decision. Thanks!
From what I have read above it does sound like it is something that has been talked about. As a woman if I were your wife, asking her not to would earn you bonus points in the hubby dept. And if this is something that the other couple needs to know is now off the table, You need to go to them or him and tell him. That way there is no tension and everyone knows the bottom line.
You don't have to tell her, but ask very nicely.
I'm glad you have told both your wife and your friend that YOU don't think this is such a great idea. Hubby points!!!!
I spoke with my friend and he said he will not let her suck him unless I approve.
If I had a husband and he was willing to lend out any part of my body for another man's pleasure, I would have serious doubts about our relationship.
No you miss understand. It's not me that wishes to lend her out. I would prefer to have her all to myself. She is the one considering it and I have told her I would prefer not to, but I have told her it is one of those life decisions that I can not make for her.
this is the first i have hered of men telling the ones theay love to give another man a bj. I know if my bf told me that i would tell him to go do it
Well neeta I'm glad I'm no the one telling her to give another man a BJ. It had come up in conversation and I was really looking for what the world thought. I'm glad I'm not nutts in thinking it is a really bad idea. Thank you all! I do appriciate most of your comments. I am one of those that plays devils advocate and makes someone think about something from all angles. I spoke to my wife and she read all of your comments and has decided to drop the wole thing. Another bullet dogded. Thanks again and hope to see you all in other forums.