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First, make certain your body is clean and fresh.

One approach to try is to shift around and position your Vulva near his lips and at a time when each of you is very aroused--not before.

A second and similar approach is to wrap your legs around his neck or upper body and encourage him to move in.....

A third approach is to have some ambient light or small night light on in the room that is sufficient to show off your body. Give him a little show when he is very very aroused: Slowly part your legs, seductively move your hands down your body and to your Vulva. Let him watch as you part your labia and finger yourself, and then either invite him to continue using his tongue, or, grasp his head and position it down there where you want it. Then, in order to encourage him further and to whet his appetite for more, give him lots of verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding and for what you need now/next.

Anybody else have some suggestions?

-doc

Oh hell, girl - SOUND PUSHY! Jeez, why be so shy - this is your HUSBAND we're talking about. Your desires are just as legit as his and he's only following your lead so if you don't ask for more he's going to assume you don't want more - TELL HIM, dammit! He doesn't read minds. Why just assume you have to 'take second place' when you are the real sex machine?

In the circles in which I move - a man takes pride in his skill at cunnilingus and does not hesitate to offer it at every opportunity.

why is wanting reciprocation considered "being pushy" to you 69queen. i think you need to practice more of your user name. and you need to now what side of the fence is he on. does he like doing it or not. if he is not sure if he is any good at then tell him. come on!! you have been missing out on power orgasms because your afraid of being to demanding. this is your husband. talk to him.

"Mmmm, I'm liking that, but you know what you're AWESOME at that I REALLY have this craving for right now?....." Or something to that effect, worded however you normally talk in the moment.

Also....you sound fairly non-demanding, like me. It's been my experience that us Non-Demanders, our men often love it when we actually GET demanding for a change. For one thing, they don't want to be the ones always doing the work, the only one who ever has those pent up desires. Everyone wants to be craved. A man wants his partner to want/need his hands, his mouth, his dick, just like a woman wants her partner to want/need what she has to offer him. We all need to know we're desirable, so go get him!!

Now, me, I am DEMANDING - and I stand there wearing little more than a big wide grin while doing so - "dare ya". Now what man can resist - HAH!

alternatively - a "race you to the bedroom" also works well

as does a slow walk toward the bedroom negligently dropping articles of clothing on the way leaving a trail - ala breadcrumbs - for him to follow

You thought I was talking "Fishwife here"? - Silly!