Well, cant really answer on your question, but can tell you my story...

When me and my girlfriend started, she used to orgasm at least once, usually twice EVERYTIME we did it... The record was five orgasms in a row.

Months later, she no longer had a single orgasm, even tho our sex improved by far...I have been asking myself all the bad questions, ie am i a bad lover or something lol... But fact is, she, much like yourself, enjoys during sex so much, she doesn't need to orgasm - her own words. Sex satisfies her. When she is playing with herself, using butterfly, she does reach an orgasm, but by far not satisfaction she gets from sex. So if you really like it the way it is, and don't feel the need to orgasm, nothing is wrong with you.

Well, perhaps you feel that because you are about to ejaculate, not pee. I am sure, if you go pee right before the sex, you could deliberately ignore that feeling, as you know you have peed before.

I say tell him what you feel/fear so he knows what to expect, go take a pee, lay a towel down under you, and just go for it. No self respecting male with 1/2 a penis would mind a dribble for the benefit of watching his lady come. ;)

Worse come to worst just give him a signal to back his face away or whatnot, and do it hands only for the buildup.

> Please help! I feel like a freak :confused:

You are not a freak, just a person without needed information and you should not feel bad about this. You came to the right place, so, now, be happy. :D Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

[QUOTE=MsMelBel;272545][COLOR="blue">I have had a steady relationship with my boyfriend for over 6 months now and let me tell you, we have some Great sex! And I enjoy every second of it! But, I don't think I have ever orgasm'd and my boyfriend really wants me to... He is so great when he's... Down there! Oh my! I have never felt anything so great! [/COLOR]

I recommend reading this article:
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
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But When he realllyyy gets going and it starts feeling better and better and then... ! I have to pee! I stop him immediately and dart off to the bathroom. Sometimes I actually pee a little but sometimes nothing at all. Is this normal?[/COLOR]

Here is the long and the short of it:

Short answer:
* This is normal (in the beginning when learning how to climax)

Long answer:
* I suggest emptying your bladder shortly beforehand if convenient; however, having said that, when people are learning how to have orgasms, the urge to pee is a false signal as you have sometimes discovered. Not to worry, as you learn how to masturbate and make the connections between the sensitive nerve endings in your genitals and the pleasure center of your brain the false urge to pee will go away.

As noted, above, women can enjoy making love without having to have an orgasm; although, most women are glad they do!

Why Women's Orgasms?

Female Sexual Response
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My boyfriend wants to keep going when I say I have to pee but I don't want to pee all over his face! What do I do???[/COLOR]
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By wanting to keep going, your boyfriend is correct, especially if you know the urge is indeed false. This being the case, just push right thru the sensation and you will usually find your orgasm on the other side.

I say "usually" because before a woman can climax she must first learn how. This requires some training and is more of a conscious effort than it is for males of the species. It is important for both of you to know that we do not give orgasms away. Each of is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

Please read the articles and spend some time alone learning how by practicing the exercise described. Once you can climax reliably and consistently, you can show your boyfriend how you do it and then guide his fingers with yours over the course of a few sessions until he learns to mimic your specific and unique technique. (The same is true for him with you. While the two of you may know generally how to stroke a penis or finger a clitoris, there are enough individual differences that make success from general knowledge problematical.

Communication and feedback are important keys to your success. Let each other know how you are responding to kisses and caresses and for what you need now/next. Relationships are partnerships and this includes the sexual aspect; explore and learn together.

Lastly, I recommend that the two of you read every one of the articles listed in the Index. Do this together or individually, then discuss the information and add it to what each of you already knows.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Firmus and TheConfusedGuy, while your recommendations have merit, there is much more to this than you realize. Please read my reply, above.

TheConfusedGuy,

> So if you really like it the way it is, and don't feel the need to orgasm, nothing is wrong with you.

You are presuming that MsMelBel has learned to masturbate, yet the following declaration says "no": "But, I don't think I have ever orgasm'd"

> When she is playing with herself, using butterfly, she does reach an orgasm, but by far not satisfaction she gets from sex.

I believe this is true for all of us. Orgasms tend to be much more intense when in the company of a lover. Guys often find that the intensity is so great that their penis feels like it will burst! and this simply does not happen when home alone.

MsMelBel, as noted, above, learn how to masturbate and then help your guy learn how to stimulate your genitals so that he can help you climax if this is your desire. None of us are mind readers, so work together as a team.

Enjoy,

-Doc

> So do I really have to get myself to orgasm or can I let my boyfriend keep trying?? Haha

I do not understand the "haha".

I do not understand why you would question the information in my replies. I did not spend valuable time writing the articles listed in the Index, nor did I write my reply to you to give false information or half-truths, particularly on a venue whose charter is to pay it forward and to help people having questions and concerns regarding life, love, relationships, and, sex.

Now, having said that, it is possible albeit very rare for a girl/woman to learn to enjoy orgasms by the fingers of someone else other than her own. The reason we recommend exploring your body and learning what is required is because while Mother Nature gives us the pleasure center in the brain, all the nerve endings in the skin, and, the autonomic nervous system to transmit sensations back and forth, she does not connect them all together. This each of us, male and female must learn to do ourselves.

We know how to modulate our movements in response to the sensations we experience moment to moment, where to touch for greatest effect, and, when to tense our muscles or relax, when to speed up, when to slow down, etc. Expecting a partner to get all this right is naive.

> It seems gross and I want nothing to do with female genitalia!

"Masturbation" has been described as making love to the person you love the most--you. How can this be gross, yet not so when done in reciprocation with someone else?

Why don't you have the same feelings about your breasts? Assuming that you like your breasts, what is so different about them vs. your Labia, Clitoris, Vagina, Perineum, etc.? What message are you sending a boyfriend if you let him touch your body here and there yet you will not? Could it be that you are rushing into adult behavior before you are ready?

> I have tried masturbation a few times and it just isn't the same!

Of course the sensations are not the same. Pheromones are not flying that when present increase libido, sexual tension, and the intensity of what we feel during a climax. This does not mean masturbation is inferior or somehow wrong--just ask any boy or man. Many fellas masturbate multiple times a day!!

You do not have to learn to masturbate. You can go on as you have been for the rest of your life and be content and happy in your relationships and with the degree of pleasure the two of you give to each other. As for body image and learning how to achieve orgasms, well, now this is simply exquisite icing on the cake so to speak. There is an article listed in the Index detailing the many benefits. I challenge you to read it if you dare.

-doc

This is what happens when education is lacking - an entirely NORMAL young woman thinks her gentials are disgusting and gross - and wouldn't know an orgasm if one reared up and bit her. Through no fault of her own - she doesn't even know how her body and her sexuality works!

The sensation to urinate is the hallmrk of a HUGE EJACULATORY ORGASM about to happen.

What you do is to RELAX your body, rid your mind of any and all anxieties and just LET IT GO. You will then ejaculate and orgasm - IF YOU ARE WILLING TO ORGASM. Because if you do not want to orgasm, no matter he does, you won't.

Yes, you come equipped with the software (brain) and the hardware (genitals) but in women the two are NOT automatically connected and you, YES, YOU, have to do the connecting yourself by masturbating to orgasm. Just how it is. It is YOUR body - OWN it.

Please find and then read all of my articles here on this site. They contain a lot of the information you need.

No, your genitals are not gross - think of a FLOWER which is what they are most commonly described as with the labia being the petals. Ask your boyfriend - I'll bet he'll tell you that your genitals are beautiful and perfect and "May I have another look, please"?

Dancing Doc - the ha-ha is just nervous laughter.