[COLOR="Sienna"]okay, a few days back, my boy friend and me were getting intamet. i had givin him a few hand jobs before, and he said that he wanted to please me as well. well anyway a few days back it was my first time getting masterbated from someone else. i myself have done it before, but never gotten as far as an orgasim, or near it. I usually did so to sooth myself from the stress of the day. okay..heres my problem....when he going at it..my body kept twitching from my legs, all the way to my arms....the faster he went the faster i twitched...the slower he went it was just every once in a while. i do not understand why this had happend, or if this is normal...please i could use some help.....[/COLOR]:
Fri, 03/17/2006 - 06:36
#1
please help..
Twitching is quite normal, as is perspiring, breathing rapidly or holding your breath, curling your toes, making a fist, or arching your back. As your orgasm nears, you will find your awarness of your surroundings narrows as you focus in on your approaching orgasm.
Here is some information for you; it is a copy of a recent post that addresses the need to masturbate, and why learn:
Everyone, male and female needs to learn to masturbate in order to "connect the dots", that is, make the necessary connections between the thousands of nerve endings in the genitals and the pleasure center of the brain via the autonomic nervous system. This is not a given, the pathways must be established. Boys do this pretty matter of factly right out of puberty; however, many girls do not masturbate as early or at all as in your case.
In order for you and any other woman to experience orgasms, you must learn to generate them. This requires that you take matters into your own hands, so to speak, and teach yourself. Once you can achieve a climax reliably and regularly, and know what specific movements, rhythms, and pressures are required, you can then teach your partner how to mimic your technique.
It is important to understand that we do not give orgasms away to others. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own. We are in fact responsible for our own orgasms. Brandye and I and a couple of others have replied to numerous posts about this. I am surprised you didn't run across one of these threads. Please check this out as just two examples (my reply and her followup):
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/othe...nsitivity.html
> I don't find myself sexually stimulating, so thinking of touching myself is a turn-off.
You are looking at this incorrectly. Masturbation is not about loving yourself, nor is it an act in response to being "full of yourself", so to speak. Pure and simple, masturbation serves two purposes: first, is pure pleasure and enjoyment; second, to reduce and eliminate pent up sexual tension and daily stress.
thank you :)