i've been dating this girl for about two months now and everything is going well. the sex is only getting better the further we progress in the relationship. so far i've yet to make her orgasm during actual intercourse. fingering and oral sex take some work but get the job done. she recently told me she likes her clit being played with during sex and i've tried but it's very difficult to do. we mainly have sex on a waterbed and things get to be very unstable because we both like things very rough. i don't have a headboard or anything and it's very hard to balance myself with one hand. also i've only tried to do this on top. does anyone have any tips on how i could do this?
Wed, 06/13/2007 - 16:19
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playing with the clit during sex
have you tried other places besides your waterbed???
Why don't u get her to play with her clit while she is on top of u? That way u can staedy urself on ur waterbed and she gets pleasure. Thats what I do. And plus u will get the pleasure of watching her pleasure herself. Iv never had sex on a waterbed! I bet that's fun!!
Good idea nympho. You could also try her on top reverse, your both on your backs stacked like. This is the best position for you to touch her whole body, while still inside her. I have done this in a water bed, and its quite fun.
Get out of the waterbed. I don't know what the fuss is about waterbeds. Unconfortable and difficult to act on them :)
Get on a sofa or chair and sit yourself with her on you, back turned. She then has control, but your hands can be all over the place :D
Try spooning, that usually gives good access... plus like Nympho said... have her do it.
I prefer to do it myself...b/c I know the speed/pressure that feels good.. my b/f tends to rub it too hard =\
Ooooo waterbed, I will have to try that one.
If you do reverse cowgirl then you have great access to her clit, and she has access to your balls too, more pleasure to the both of you.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;182431]Try spooning, that usually gives good access... plus like Nympho said... have her do it.
I prefer to do it myself...b/c I know the speed/pressure that feels good.. my b/f tends to rub it too hard =\[/QUOTE]
My girlfriend says when she does it herself it doesn't feel good or something. I'm not too sure why. Maybe she hasn't been to "experimental" with herself?
that's not good. Women should ALWAYS know their bodies better than us. If she can't feel good touching herself, who can?!
as said before, forget the waterbed. they're good to play and roll about but not so comfy for sex, as they're unstable. try the chair, the sofa, the floor (a blanket under the body(bodies) might be a good idea). as to clit touching there's nothing like being a good observer ;-) have her do it in front of you and learn. maybe she prefers to do it herself. be open about it and talk! I believe that if we were to talk more openly there would be no wars :-)
[QUOTE=wetwilly;182533]My girlfriend says when she does it herself it doesn't feel good or something. I'm not too sure why. Maybe she hasn't been to "experimental" with herself?[/QUOTE]
I also prefer him to do it. Doing herself is what I always do, but getting it done also gives more relaxation, some differentiation and emotional advantages. Also, the more I "experiment" with myself, the more I want my bf to do the job during sex. I juts get bored of my own fingers (not that they are not more effective - but as I said, all the added emotional sides giv much much more).
Of course playing with the clit works during sex. I personally have had a lot of luck with this in postitions like doggy style. From what I've seen when you wrap your arm around the girl and begin to slowly massage the clit during sex it gives an extra orgasmic boost and really pleases the girl, which is the most important part of sex.
have you tried playing with her clit while you're doing her from behind.it works for us.;)
Insert from behind while you are laying on your side. My wife LOVES it. reach your arm around her and play with her like that.