I guess this is more of a poll than a question...
I was just wondering how many of you out there planned your first sexual experience.
I think it is great that so many people today are thinking ahead about contraceptives etc., but at the same time I wonder if planning sex so far in advance down to a T takes away from the experience.
I in no way planned my first time. Of course we wouldn't have sex if there had not been condoms available, but neither me or my boyfriend seemed to be concerned with correct/best positioning, penis size, the sheets, movement, "the right way to do things"...
Anyway, who planned out their first times and if you planned things out did everything go according to plan?
I did not planned it. I was drunk
, so i can hardly remember it.
mine was unplanned and good for me. My g/f of 4 years says the 1st time was unrommantic and not as special as she had hoped it to be. She tends to remind me of this from time to time, like i can go back and change it. ha. so, for people thinking about their 1st time i think it should be special and do whatever you have to do to achieve that wether it takes planning ot not.
My girlfriend and I each had boyfriends, were too young and tired of being virgins. In my family it was something to be protected liked treasure and I was tired of the burden. She and I, with the help of my older sister, accumulated condoms and vaginal jelly, read whatever we could find and used a variety of dildo like objects to make sure we were "ready" ( how dumb can you be?)
On the agreed upon evening date, we made our moves - seduced our boyfriends who were both scared silly. It was a non-event and with that boyfriend, we never did have satisfying sex. Usually it was boring; once in a while I would get aroused enough to go home and masturbate - alone or with my g/f - another story. After a few months, we simply stopped and it was a couple years until I tried again with a male.
Well planned, poorly executed because we were not ready and did not know what we were doing. I getthe giggles sitting here remembering stupidity. But safe stupidity except during my period I would ignore the protection - dumb.
Second night I spent with my ex, and it just happened. First night was when I got my first kiss. Nothing was planned.
same here....pretty much
I think that if you plan it, its not going to be as good as if it just happened. You can't really plan something like that. You just have to see what happens.
I agree, everything just falling into place should be the best way to loose your virginity. It worked for me, I've just noticed a lot of young people taking special care to read into sex before they have tried it.
Other ideas, thoughts, stories, dramas, blue-prints (
) are still welcome.
Actually, I was kind of thinking that it might be helpful to a lot of people reading this in this particular forum to be able to read stories (not graphic pornography) of people's first times. I think that the media has given a lot of people a false image of sex and instead of reading "don't worry, your first time won't be perfect" or "every woman's body is different" it could be helpful to see a variety of true stories. Anyone somewhat understand my line of thought there?
I guess I can't expect anyone to share if I don't - The first time I had sex was also my boyfriend's first time. I can't remember much planing, and we never really talked about it, but we both knew that it was going to happen. My roommate had left early for a holiday and as soon as I told my boyfriend that I had my own room for 10 nights...Well, it didn't happen until like 5 days after my roommate left, and it would have happened much sooner had we not been swamped with work. It was very natural, I wasn't wearing anything "sexy" etc., just my everyday clothes because we had just gotten back from a night in the city with friends. In fact it was cold and disgusting out so I probably looked like a mess. My boyfriend and I went back to my room, started to makeout (such an awful word, I think) as usual, and then he asked if I had a condom, which I did, and that was that. I don't remember that as the best sex, but not the worst. I was very glad that it happened and that detracted from the fact that he did have trouble finding his way in at first, that I didn't orgasm, and that there was a little bleeding. In fact I was so elated by the entire thing I didn't think about the bleeding, until about 4 hours later when I woke up and realized I had bled and looked at my lovely mostly white sheets. All in all, I was ready for sex, no regrets at all, but planned or not nobody should have sex if they are not fully ready (mind and body) for the consequences.
Well, I'm still intrigued by my orginial question so if you have anything to say, I'm not trying to totally revamp my post.
Well, for my first time which was May 12 of this year, it was planned the day before it happened. But a month before anything happened i told him i wanted him to be my first. He was a virgin at the time too so he had to think about it himself.
When we had sex it lasted about 45 minutes. It was painful so i keeped making him stop. There was good commuication between us. I did enjoy it and so did him. Hopefully the next time I try having sex it will be less painful.
I try to wait until i was 18 to have sex..I really wasn't trying to plan it out or anything..On May 18th.(3 months before my birthday) of this year i had sex with my b/f who i have been with for 1 year..It wasn't plan at all...He left condoms at my house the week before..So we had condoms and it lasted about 1 hour..There was really good commuication between us..It wasn't painful..I like things to just happen unstill of planning things...
sex is a big issue, hopefully many of you may have seen my other posts, i dont regret my first time, but when i go back, i dont think i was mentally ready, not fully, but then i dont know how you know if you are. but when my period came i did find relief, i was just so worried. so everyone make sure you are ready for the mental effects you may get after.
I in no way planned on having sex before I was married. But I was sitting around with my first g/f, we had just recently got together whom I'm still with to date, and cuddling, and it went from there. The biggest mistake we made was no foreplay and that was how it was for the first couple of months. Now, it's awesome.
i didnt plan it..it just happened..i was at my g/f's house and i kissed her...and just grabbed her,picked her up,took her upstairs and.....
Honestly, having plans on your first time doesn't really work and it would only increase the tension that you have. One way or the other just be smart in doin it! think of all the love that you have and best advice use contraception. Coz tension usually is beyond control during this time and I don't know if both of you can handle it.
One way or the other once you start doing it the party continues and this is where you have to be matured abd prepared.
Good Luck!!!
my first time was crazy yo. I did not love/like the girl or anything. she had a body though and I knew she loved me for like three years. so oneday me and my boy was smoking and she came to smoke with us
she reached in my pants and ..... the rest is kind of blurry (was high) but I could not get a erection for long. luckily she liked me so much she did not laugh or anything. that could have been very traumatising
I don't think u should plan when or where to have sex for the first time. What my girlfriend and i did was talk about if we were ready and when we were both ready we made sure we had protection and then about a week later we were alone and the mood was right and we spent the next 4 hours getting to know each other.
my first time was a disaster.. I wasnt hard enough, the condom wouldnt go on right because it was too small or something, and i had a major headaqhe that day so i wasnt really into it.. i forgot to keep my cool and relax.. , i was totally nervous , which is why it was so bad.. But when i came here and asked for help, things got better, i can go for about an hour now
my first time sucked. The guy was a year younger then me but experienced times 10 when it came to his sexual partners. He was a 'player' to the very end of the word. Horrible. But that's what happens when you do it with an insensitive jerk who wasn't the 'right' one.
sorry to hear it vixen.. my girl went through that with her first time.. not fun at all
... hopefulyl u'll find someone that treats u right an cares about you 