Does the pill make it harder for a woman to orgasm?
My boyfriend has been finding it VERY difficult to get me to orgasm, and hasn't got me there in quite some time (and I do mean quite some time!!!). He recently checked out some web pages, and found some people saying it does make it harder... Is this true?
If it is true, what can I do to fix this?
And, if it isn't true, what can I do to help him get me there? (guys, any tips on how you get your girl there?)
Shadowy
Well, your boyfriend does not get you to orgasm; you get you to orgasm. We each need assume responsibility for our own satisfaction. You do not mention whether you are able to reach orgasm on your own.
Though nothing is related directly to orgasm, some women do experience a reduced libido on the pill. Alternatives, working with your prescriber, are to change pills or add testosterone. There are forty or so pills out there with probably 30 different formulations. Some women adjust better to some than others. Switching to a lower dose pill sometimes works. It is almost always possiblt to get a woman to a hormonal contraceptive that works for her. The ring actually puts the lowest level of hormone in the blood stream.
In exceptional cases, some women are put on microdoses of testosterone. We all make it in our bodies in small amounts and it determines our sex drive. If the additonal female hormone from the pill has overwhelmed it, a little extra may help.
Direct answer to your question is that it should not; indirectly, it can have an effect.
Thanks, Brandye for your reply.
I can get there on my own, that's all fine and dandy... but my boyfriend keeps getting upset and frustrated when it's me that has to finish myself off rather then him. I would love him to be able to do it for me, but every time he tries and it doesn't work, he gets frustrated, and next time, doesnt try as hard as he did the first time. So really, every time he tries - since he isn't trying as hard as he did the last time - the chances of it working are getting smaller and smaller.
Next time i'm in to see my doctor, i'll remember to ask about a different pill. :) Thanks for the advince!
Shadowy
I've been on the pill for over 6 years. During that time, I have switched pills several times. Never has it effected my ability to achieve orgasm with another person.
A suggestion: If you are able to do it on your own, perhaps next time you two are intimate, you should show him what you do to yourself to get there. Do it together! For example, you could put your hand over his, so that he's the one actually doing the work, but you're the one guiding him to all the right spots. This works because you know what it takes to get you to orgasm, he gets to learn, and it's often a turn-on for him because he gets to kind of "watch." That's my suggestion!
Look around in Chick Chat, especially Female Sexual Response. Not all that many of us do get finished with penile thrusting. Perhaps he needs to develop another trick or two.
Thanks for the help!
I have tried showing him, and "teaching" him, but he keeps saying he doesnt need to be taught. That he's made other girls orgasm (at this point I normally start to get upset... i mean, who wants to hear their boyfriend talking about past girlfriends?!)
i'll keep trying to show him though.. maybe sometime soon he'll learn...
shadowy