my girlfriend and i have had to have a long distance relationship for awhile, and we've had a lot of phone sex. sometimes, though, i have a lot of trouble having an orgasm during phone sex or even trouble getting an erection or something. last night, i went for like 25 minutes and i couldnt have one. after we got off the phone, i saw something sexy on tv (not porn, just something kind of sexy) and i was able to give myself an orgasm easily. i dont know whats wrong. i love my girlfriend very much and i find her incredible sexy. i get hard as a rock around her all the time when we're together. she's my first sexual experience (we havent had sex yet, just fooled around a little). i used to masturbate a lot, so maybe im just used to not having pressure? sometimes during phone sex i feel pressured to have an orgasm. any thoughts on whats wrong?? i feel terrible that i can get an orgasm from the tv but not from my girlfriend who i find incredibly sexy!
Sun, 04/06/2003 - 18:11
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Phone sex/masturbation
yeah i guess you're right. i just dont like the fact that aafter seeing something sexy on tv i was able to, when i WASNT able to when she was making INCREDIBLE sexy sounds on the other line and saying INCREDIBLE sexy things. it doesnt make any sense. :P
Perhaps you could try occompanying phone sex with some sort of visual stimulation. You could look at porn while you do it, or even have your girlfriend send you some pictures.
It sounds like phone sex just doesn't do it for you.
I agree with the last post, the pornos or pictures is a good idea. Its not the same doing it yourself, you're not seeing her or shes not doing anything to you orally so its kind of hard to get off that way. Some people it doesnt work for and others it works out great for them. You are one of them that it doesnt work for. It not a bad thing though. Just learn how to work around that.
I wouldn't take too much time worrying about that hunny. Phone sex is a whole other world. The phone's purpose is the keep you and your girlfriend in touch, not give you an orgasm. Just enjoy talking with your girlfriend, just because you don't orgasm over the phone doesn't mean you won't when two are together again.
I agree with Girly's post.. pictures will help you. have your woman send you pictures of her.... I for one though, do get off vocally. Before I moved, I used to talk to one of my friends that way.. then I moved here and things didn't work out between us, but at the time, it was a lot of fun and we helped eachother out many times... you put fantasies in your head, well the phone lines help you to get the audio end of your fantasy, then your mind takes over for the rest...
I would say to just relax and make her do most of the talking if she is confortable more than you. And just relax and think of her doing things to you and relax.