i just noticed this topic so i was wondering what really is the best condom to use your first time cuz im really scared of knocking up my girlfriend cuz were both virgins and i know that im not gonna last long cuz of the whole one minute deal and im really sensitive, but im really scared of the pre stage cumming more then the final stage so what would be the best condom that has spermicidal stuff on it to kill my sperm and make it for her not to get pregnant? but i wanna get the great feel out of it too? any ideas of brands?

Thanks,
John

hey...the perfect first time..(i didnt think that was possible) my first time was great, but awkward...but if you and ur gf have a serious relationship you can talk about it after ....and practice makes perfect. If something goes wrong, dont stress!! it's ur first time! you can't be an expert on the first shot! just relax and make sure she's relaxed too
i was too nervous on my first time so that was part of my problem

hmm, well, i guess any condom will be good, but my advice is that you should try those extra thin ones, because if you are not used to them, you won't feel a thing. Practice how to put them on until you doit like an expert, because it can kill the mood if you don't know how to doit, and you want to do it fast. I even recomend that you masturbate some times with the condom on, that way you'll know how to deal with it.
Remember to put some lub on the tip of your penis before puting the condom on and some more after, you'll need plenty of it, since it is the first time for both of you.
Remember, don't go for the kill right away, you need lots and lots of foreplay, and then some more, try oral sex, most women realy enjoy it (be realy gentle down there).
And don't think too much about what will happen "when her cherry is popped", all women are different, if you read some of the posts in this forum you will find that for some women the first time was a great experience with no pain or bleeding at all while for some others it was a little less enjoyable experience.
well, good luck   , if after that every thing went well, like Rudyard Kipling said:

"...Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!"

Lol

just kidding, have fun

TJ had some good points, only thing i might say is that he suggested a real thin condom or u wont feel anything this might be better for more experienced guys but if its ur first time and u dont want to finish too early then maybe a regular condom might be better to desensitize the area so that u just dont cum right off.
like he also said its different for different girls... just make sure she is relaxed a lot of foreplay can help this also oral on her can help her relax and get her natural lubes going so that insertion is a lot easier.. just take it slow and it should work out fine

LOTS OF SPERMICIDAL LUBE!!!!!

The lube makes it much easier for her. The spermicide says it all. Not just what is on the condom, but add a bit of foam or jelly inside the condom and in her. This greatly reduces the chance of pregnancy but, remember, a penis in a vagina always has the potential of parenthood.

For lasting longer there's two kinds of condoms that I know of that offer a desensitizing agent on the inside.

Trojan Extended Pleasure
Durex Performax

Wow, you have a lot of questions, its ok to be nervous but there is really no reason to. Just a question first, you guys are young, I was young to, I thought I was ready but I really wasnt, so before you two go to the next level make sure that you are ready, dont make the mistake I did.

Every girl is different the first time having sex, if she uses tampons they it is less likely for her to bleed, I didnt use tampons so I did bleed and its not for a long time, I had sex went to bed, the next day it was gone, its no big deal.

It will hurt her, because she is not used to something like that going inside of her vagina, so definately take it slow for her sake, it takes a while, not a couple of hours, a couple of days, weeks, months even, its different for everyone for the vagina to losen up.

I would recommend, dont ever have sex without a condom
Hope I helped, good luck.

Well here is my opinion...
Me and my guy just recently lost our virginities to eachother. Make sure you are protected... he used trojen condoms with spermicidle lube and I was on the pill and he pulled out. Just make sure you feel comfortable when you do it. Any extra stress can make it difficult for both of you. Do it someplace you are safe and comfortable (I suggest one of your beds which can be hard to do if you live at home) I think girls are more afraid of the whole thing then guys. Make her feel comfortable. Go slow. Ask her if she is ok. I suggest missionary. Stay the night with her so she doesn't feel used. the guy shouldn't worry about how good he for awhile because I had basically had enough by the time my guy came (and lets just say he didn't last very long) but I understand. It did hurt me to some point. It is hard to get it in and it does hurt when the hymen tears... I was seriously like 2 seconds away from crying then all of a sudden it felt ok and I forgot everything! but everyone is differen't. There was blood on the condom when we were done but that was it. Its not like it was everywhere.... but this is just my experience hopefully you get more advice.

[QUOTE=Quote (LuvinVanessa4 @ April 11 2003,21:32)]i just noticed this topic so i was wondering what really is the best condom to use your first time any ideas of brands?[/QUOTE]
well, like I said in another post, Lifestyle is NOT a good brand, the last couple of times me and my b/f used it, the condom broke everytime. So I would not reccommend that brand.

And for the original post, communication is a big key, (I say that a lot but it is so true) the first time isnt going to be the best but it will always get better with communication. Just try not to be scared or nervous, just do what you feel is right, If you are that scared then think twice whether you are ready or not.

There is nothing worse then having sex and not being ready for it, I made that mistake, and it was a big mistake for me, Just make sure you are ready, and ALWAYS use protection.

My boyfriend and I had the wonderful opportunity of getting a hotel room for the entire weekend. He also got tips from a mutual friend of ours and it really worked.

1. Get her really excited, foreplay, oral, etc. Make sure she wants you and she's relaxed and open. She has to be thoroughly wet and totally wanting you.

2. Finger her first, use one, then two, then three then four so she's open and it will minimize pain in the actual act, maybe even break the hymen beforehand.

3. Go in slow and use a condom. One of you has to hold her open, and the other has to guide you in. Use the missionary position since it's the simplist and most common. You won't last long at all, no matter how you can last with a blow job or mastubation or whatever. You'll go quick.

4. Don't wait too long to try it again, 20 or more minutes is good so you can rest and build up. This time, have her on top. You'll last longer this way and you might not even be able to cum. This is what happened with us.

5. Have fun and if it doesn't go smoothly the first time don't give up!

as you more than likely know, there is no such as thing as 'perfect 1st time sex'. so just go with the flow and be as careful as you can and enjoy it.