> the foreskin is pulled down further than ive ever had it before (when masturbating it doesnt go down that far) the pain is where the head connects to the foreskin. i get some pleasure but am still unable to finish.

The normal position for a retracted foreskin is just behind the Corona Rim where it will fold with pleats. Have you tried positioning it there, first, rather than having it just go back as a result of her actions?

If you find it difficult to get the foreskin in this position, you may need to work on it on your own a bit. When you masturbate what position does the foreskin assume?

it means that the foreskin needs more work. generally you should be pulling it back quite far to clean it everytime you have a shower. this will also keep it from getting infections and relieve some pain during other activities.

I used to be in the same sort of situation as u with the hurting when pulling it back too far though my gf has been working on it on occasions and just doing it now and again to get me used to it. (though has never hurt during her foreplay or intercoarse)

I have that occasionally.. More so when I first started, though it wasn't unbearable. I just pull the foreskin back up covering the end then continue, it usually fixes itself and goes where there is no pain. But its definitely something that goes away the more you do it.

Use lube and pull your own foreskin back on a regular basis to get used to it.
It just takes a bit of getting used to at first