ive been with my girlfriend for 6 months and we are going on holiday together. we have rented a cottage and has said that she wants to have a week of "sex and intimacy". this is great and im looking forward to it but am slightly worried as well. she is my second sexual partner and with the first one i could never come and it was all about pleasing her and she wasnt interested about my problem. with my new partner she was really supportive and helpful and if i couldnt come she would make me do it in front of her while she played with herself. after a bit of experimenting i have started to come during intercourse but cant cum through oral or through masterbation. but it does feel good. and during sex i can only come in 1 position and thats with her on top leaning forward into me and me going in and out. this is good for her cause it hits her g spot and we tend to cum together at the same time. but far from getting easier its getting harder. most other positions i cant feel anything unless the tip is going in and out. i feel nothing along the rest of my penis. im worried cause my gf says she wants to give me oral till i come in her mouth and wants to make me come through masterbation. and im worried i wont be able to. has anyone else had this problem. would my foreskin being too thick make me not feel anything? also when i masterbate by myself i find it hard to do it normally i have to do it from the top near the tip.
Wed, 10/03/2007 - 10:26
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Penis insensitivity - slightly worried
oh and i struggle to stay hard. im really turned on by what my gf does but its rock hard one minute goes slightly soft but not completely down then goes hard again its like a bloody yo yo
You need to chill out and just get into it.
If your problem is, indeed, a psychological thing, then you need to stop worrying about "am I pleasing her?" and "am I going to go soft, oh no!"
You might try have about two or three glasses of wine before beginning foreplay. True, alcohol can have the opposite effect that you're going for, but if you have a little bit it can also lower your inhibitions and make you stop worrying so much.
If you say your head is really sensitive, why not have her pleasure that while she's giving you a hand job or blow job? Give her feed back, close your eyes, lean back, and enjoy the pleasure.
> i have started to come during intercourse but cant cum through oral or through masterbation. but it does feel good.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping(plus the G-spot and Making Out)
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
> would my foreskin being too thick make me not feel anything? also when i masterbate by myself i find it hard to do it normally i have to do it from the top near the tip.
* The Foreskin has lots of nerves so in and of itself it is very sensitive.
* The Glans of a Penis having a Foreskin is vastly more sensitive than one that has had a lifetime of exposure to the elements.
* You may be the exception, although I rather doubt it. How do you stimulate the shaft of your Penis? Most guys clamp down pretty hard as they move up and down the shaft taking the skin with them in hand.
* Do you retract the Foreskin when rubbing the Glans or do you leave it in place?
* I suggest trying out lubrication for two reasons. The lube will increase sensitivity while at the same time reducing the need to use a strong grip. In fact, you should be able to invoke intense sensations from the lightest grazing action of your fingers.
> most other positions i cant feel anything unless the tip is going in and out.
Please clarify. Are you saying that the shaft of your penis is "dead" and has no feeling, or that you can feel it being touched, just that rubbing it has no effect?
Keep in mind that as a woman becomes highly aroused, the diameter of the vagina increases and this "loose fit" means that the penis no longer fits like a glove having intimate contact with her.
Lastly, make sure that you do not begin intercourse until you have been brought to the very brink of a climax, yet can still maintain sufficient control in order to move around and get into position. If you are operating under the notion that lots and lots of stroking is the way to build your arousal, then you are going about this backwards. Stroking maintains a preexisting high level of arousal while thrusting peaks this triggering an orgasm.
As for having difficulty with hand jobs, either by your hand or hers, give this site a good reading:
http://jackinworld.com/sitemap.html
Begin by reading the "How-To" and the "Expert" sections, then read the rest of the information. I consider this to be the preeminent source on male masturbation.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Calm down...thats all you need...my first time well first few times, were like that...i could only feel things on the tip of my penis but no where else...just chill..thats what i did and everything is fine! it takes me a while but no where near as long as it used to be....
as far as oral and masterbation, do you mean you have never been able to come through masterbation? or just not when she does it to you. Most experiences with my girlfriend were kinda forced orgasms at first...i kinda willed myself to finish, so i didnt enjoy it cuz it took me a long time..oral i could finish without manual stimulation for the first few times either...i just did it a few more times, tried to relax, and I was good to go. Oral feels great, masturbation does too!
Just CALM DOWN and youll be fine...i mean hey a week of sex and intimacy...girlfriend wants to go down on you and give you a handjob? Enjoy it...basically your week is one of enjoying yourself and your girlfriend.