At some point in time every guy wonders about the adequacy of his penis with regard to its size and shape. This is also a great time for him to put into practical practice all those sensations that feel really good during masturbation. What do I mean? Simply that it is every guy's responsibility to learn when the Glans of his penis is in contact with his partner's vaginal opening.

When we use our hand to stimulate our penis we know exactly where it is along the shaft or Glans. We simply must become aware of where it is if something other than our hand is encircling it. So, instead of becoming lost in the flood of sensations experienced during stroking and most particularly thrusting, we must keep one corner of our consciousness focused on what our penis is doing and where it is when moving in and out along the wall of the vaginal vault.

This is not unlike learning to associate the sensations that immediately precede the trigger point of an orgasm soon enough so that a pause can be initiated in order not to climax before wanting to. We must learn when the Glans of the penis is nearing the opening and reverse our direction, simple as that. If and when the penis slips out, it does not matter much in the overall scheme of things who reinserts it. Just as with the first time a couple has intercourse, the woman knows where P & V are and can deftly bring the two together. The man can often reinsert his penis with little or no adjustment to his position; however, if the angles are not right then he can use his finger to find the entrance and bring the tip of his penis to his finger. If you do not make a big deal out of it, it won't be one.

I agree that exploration and familiarity are good and necessary; although, these require confidence and trust and are traits that sometimes take time to develop. Once these are in place and inhibitions are not a problem then the man can explore his partner's body. Sex is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together in partnership.

Well, it would help if you got to know her body a bit more. Try having long fingering sessions and really learn first hand (haha) what she has down there.

Also, If you keep on falling out of her, maybe you should slow down a bit and get a good rythem going first, and slowly increase speed until you are really good at it.

Ok, now on a side note... If you don't know where/how to put it in, and you have had sex, maybe you are going a little too fast in your relationship? Just my opinion...

[QUOTE=dick_da_emo;217151]we've been together just over a month and in my area all my mates are getting laid. i was surprised as she came onto me and no girl ver really has and when i slept over at hers she came onto me again and we ended up having sex. we seem perfect together and if theres a nxt time i jus wanna know a bit about what im doing and where its going...[/QUOTE]

if she knows your a virgin she should understand...

[quote] we've been together just over a month and in my area all my mates are getting laid. [/quote]

this is not an excuse for you to get laid too! everyone goes at their own pace... do not get on a horse if you do not know how to ride!! this is very important!

how about doing some foreplay and learning where everything is first. you can read as many books as u want but the only real way is to feel and learn.. this comes with the more u do it..

just because 'your friends are doing it' does not mean you have to.. if all your friends were taking drugs or going around stealing cars does that mean you have to? no!

with the slipping out maybe if you get her to go ontiop so you can see where it is all going and well stops from slipping out..

but as clevername stated slow down. go at your own pace and well learn each others bodies first..

[QUOTE=dick_da_emo;217153]wen i said about every1 gettin laid i wasnt meaning it like i needed to keep up, its more like added pressure, wen ur my age in my area its all around u. u hear from ur mates alll about wot their gettin upto. i didnt really care tbh and didnt go out lookin for it.[/quote

again.. everyone to their own.. i am 19... i lost my virginity when i was 17... and to be honest me and my gf at the time had been dating for couple of months and had learnt each others bodies and had achieved orgasm in every way possible before intercoarse.. so when it came to my big first time it all went smooth and well due to us knowing where each other's bodies started and ended.. sure the sex got a whole whole lot better but practise makes perfect..

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The same girl asked to sleep with me the night i first met her but i said no becuase she was wasted and didnt want to take advantage. but this time she was sober and knew what she was doing. [/quote]

that is good you said no. but sleeping with someone on the second night being a total virgin and from hearing obviously having no past experience does not sound like the right choice.. i cannot comment on good or bad here only my opinion..

as for everything else.. if she really likes you she should understand if you tell her you wanna take things slow and do some foreplay and learn your way around.

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all i wanna know are the wheres and hows
just in case![/QUOTE]

i cannot tell you where and how... its something you have to learn..

[quote]where[/quote]

well between her legs.... pretty much the where is always the same spot and well you should always fondle around down there and have a bit of a feel and a 'look' so to speak before you climb in.. there is only one way to find it and that is to feel and a bit of foreplay

[quote]how[/quote]

i dont think anyone here could tell you 'how' its done... simple basically said 'inserting the penis into the vagina and penetrating until achieving orgasm'

how you move is based on the 2 people at the time. each case is different... i have had numerous partners and not 1 has been the same as another. every one is different and some better than others. but u take them on their own merrits...

tell her your not ready and want to slow down.. if she laughs or what not then obviously she does not care about u and is not worth it.. find someone you can share your experiences with and play around with.

You don't have sex just because all of your buddies are! I know a lot of people do ,but it is for everyone in there own time not a mass experience.

I remember being in high school and having the pressure as they called it to have sex. All my friends claim they still have more partners than I probably will ever have. That is fine with me due to I rather find someone special to have it with. It creates a bond that is hard to get anywhere but in a relationship.

Now on where to learn…I would say your health teacher would be a good person to ask. If you ask before or after class he will probably show you some diagrams or models so that you can better understand. If that isn’t your cup of tea then I would rent or download an adult film to watch. They are pretty in depth in some things that you might learn from.