My wife and I are new to sex. We're having problems with penetration from any of the rear entry positions, but really want to make it work. Specifically just being able to get my penis to the opening her her vagina. Any advice?
Mon, 06/07/2010 - 17:53
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penetration for rear entry
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Have you looked at the illustrated animated sexual positions on the Home age? Much has to do with the relative body sizes and statures of the couple. What specifically is giving you trouble? If it happens to be locating the vaginal entrance, then let her position your penis because she know where P and V both are and can deftly bring the two together. If the problem is in reaching the opening, try having her kneel while she remains on her hands or perhaps forearms. If you are directly behind her, then you should have a direct shot so to speak.
Thanks for the advice. The problem is more finding the entrance before getting frustrating and getting soft. We're both very goal oriented people.
I wonder if lubricant would help. She gets very wet, but i feel like the initial penetration is very hard sometimes.
I'm glad I was able to solve your dilemma.
As for lube, you might just finger the vaginal opening for two good reasons; first, to spread her mucus around the entrance making sure there is no dry skin; second, because you will be involving some sensitive nerves in the area that will surely pleasure her.
Yes, do add some water based lube to the glans and shaft of your penis in order to make movement less difficult. It may or may not always be necessary if you take care of the former.
Each couple must work out the positioning for each position as fits their body type. Try arranging yourselves in different variaqnts of the position when you are not really planning to complete the act. You can try on your sides or with her resting her upper body on pillows. If either of you has excess weight in critical places, rear entry can be a problem.
Don't know if this works for everyone, but perhaps it's worth the try :)
Position the penis between the inner labia, somewhere just past the clitoris. Hold your penis and then start slowly stroking towards the vagina, keeping constant contact between your penis and her vulva. As you apply (very)mild pressure, it will have no choice but to sink in, when arrived at destination :)
Good thing about the stroking is that it too automatically spreads mucus (like the doc mentioned). To me; this also helps me 'opening' up to him. I've noticed when he starts 'poking' around softly along the edges of the vagina, muscles will tighten up. Being 'tight' feels good when he's already in there, but makes it hard to get it in ;)
O, and a little patient may help as well! ;) Keep up experimenting, cause every position gives you new sensations. Have fun!