My girlfriend and I decided to try sex for the first time the other day, but we came up against a bit of a problem, as I just couldnt get it in further than just about the tip. We had plenty of foreplay and she was quite wet, and I did manage to get two fingers in, but when we tried to go the whole way i just couldnt get my penis in far enough, and it made her bleed.
We are both virgins, although she has tried before with different partners, but only to have the same problem.
Size is definately part of the issue, as she is quite small and my penis is about 8". I have been reading around the forums and picking up some tips, like having her stretch herself in the bath, an obviously to use some extra lube.
However, I havent been able to find anything about positions which might make our life a bit easier, so does anyone have any ideas? Or any other tips at all would be much appreciated
Fri, 03/09/2007 - 14:40
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penetration problems
There are dozens of threads on this same topic. Do a search and include "vaginismus" and "tough hymen."
Some women have a particularly thick or tough hymen. This may result in a need for a little help from her doctor to make things comfortable.
950% of all vaginas will accept 95% of all penis'. Not likely a cause there.
She is tensing up, try to get her to relax more, do more foreplay to the point she really is ready. Have her get on top of you first, it's easy for you to guide in her and she can slide down to the point which is comfortable for her. But have her lean towards you, rather then staying straight up. Another is missonary, have her slide to the end of the bed and put her legs near your hips and you guide your self into her and you can stimulate her clitoris at the same time, just go gentle for a bit. She can adjust her legs up or down and hips up or down (or put a pillow under her butt) to what positions feel good. If you have to; just hold still a bit and rub her clit for a while, get her going again and relaxed, then slide in a bit more. Just keep the tip in and pull back-- not out, just don't go thrusting or pushing too much nice and gentle, keep her stimulated and keep some KY hanging around...
thanks for the quick replies, and thanks for the search tips as well, i appreciate theres already quite a few posts like this, the hard part was just findin them out of all the hundreds of others
thanks again