I always find it hurts when my bf penetrates me, no matter how aroused I am, or how long we fool around for before hand. Nevertheless after a moment or two the pain stops and the fun begins ;). I don't think its to do with being wet enough however my bf is well endowed :D
I heard that there's a psychological condition where anxieties can cause a woman to "tense up" however I really have no inhibitions about sex or my partener and as I have already stated the pain goes after a minute.
It is a problem that I can live with and I would rather not tell my bf cause I feel that he would worry about me and it would be a bit of a mood killer. I was really just wondering if this was normal and if anyone knows any ways to avoid this.
thanks
Sun, 01/21/2007 - 15:31
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Penetration hurts.. help!
that happens to me aswell. it just means your a little tight, and after a few moments the muscles stretch and relax as you get used to him. i'm not too sure how you could get rid of it though. personally i kind of like it ;)
My ex was "well endowed" and it was always uncomfortable for the start up of all sessions...the discomfort becomes pleasureable, never found away around it even after nearly 3 years, and it was not b/c I was too tight exemplified w/experiences w/other men, he was just a bit too large (if there is such a thing).
Try stretching the entrance to make it more pliable.
I recommend sitting in a bathtub of clearn warm water that will soften the skin, or, you can stand in the shower. Insert a finger and tug in one direction holding the tension for a few moments before moving around to the next quadrant. Repeat as you work your way around the opening. Do this daily for several days to a couple of weeks. Eventually you should be able to insert two fingers, either from the same hand or one from each. When you can, just use them in opposition to tug and hold the tension.
Doing this should help make penetration easier for you in a short amount of time.
Also, make sure his penis is well lubricated, either by applying some of your vaginal mucus to the glans and shaft, or, using a lubricant. Sometimes it is not enough that you are wet, because if he is dry and trying to go in, he may not pick up enough mucus to eliminate the friction.
Lastly, insertion should be by gentle pressure and not by shoving or jabbing.
yeah what they said. I had/have the same exact problem with my boyfriend. I thought it was that disorder of tensing up you spoke about, but if that was the case then it wouldnt relax, and he wouldnt be able to get his penis out of you with out ALOT of pain. You just have to completly relax, take it slow, use lubrication, and let it stretch out. Have fun :)