I would add alot of foreplay for her prior to having sex ie. going down on her , after you're already hard...that way you will be stiff enough to enter but not close to climaxing. Also when you feel the urge to come switch positions or continue to go down on her. You get stamina with time. And it will probably be quite a while before she will ever orgasm from sex. I think it usually takes about a year or so--according to me and my girlfriends. It's just one of those things, it's a mind and physical thing for a female--whereas for males is mostly just physical to climax.

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> we did it for the first time about a month ago im 17 she is 18 this was her first time but not mine anyway i find it really annoying that i cant even last long enough to make her climax ...its just that it really bothers me that i cant give her what she wants

> i have tried thinking of other stuff to take my mind of it but that only works for like and exrta minuit or 2

Your concerns are but one more in a very very very long list of like concerns others have and have written in about. You will find many Sticky Posts that remain at the top of many of the forums that address the most common questions. A partial Index is located here.

The informational post I want to direct your attention to is:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

An exercise is described that the two of you can work on together. Also, GOOGLE "Squeeze technique" and learn about this method of controlling your response that works well in the here and now.

Please read some of the other Sticky posts. You will learn if you do not already know that very few sexual positions place her body and your body in close constant contact that is required to generate sufficient friction to build and then trigger an orgasm. That said, what a considerate, compassionate, caring, lover will do is reach around and finger her while stroking.

You can give her what she wants--IF:
1. She has learned to masturbate and can climax regularly and consistently on her own
2. You finger her before, during, and/or after intercourse (or anytime really)
3. The two of you use one of the sexual positions that does lend itself to generating enough friction for her when she rubs her pieces-parts against you
4. She is relaxed and in a receptive frame of mind and not bothered by problems or outside distractions
5. You learn with her guidence how to mimic the movements, rhythms, and pressures she uses when home alone

As for lasting long enough, here is the skinny on this:
If you are of the belief that lots and lots of stroking is the way to build your level of arousal in order to climax then you have the cart before the horse. You should not begin intercourse until you are at the very brink of an orgasm yet not so close that you cannot continue to maintain control.

Experienced women state that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become sore, bored, and, tired. PE is only a problem if it happens during the first minute or so such as with the initial inward stroke, its return, or, one of the next few. After that, a climax is simply an unplanned inconvenience. The fix for either situation is the same and that is mastering the exercise and using the Squeeze technique as needed.

You are doing quite well to last a couple of additional minutes. Using the two techniques in addition should give you much better staying power.

> plus i get it my head that if she sees me like im not concentrating il think that she'l think im not enjoing it which i do enjoy it

As Arnold stated: "Forgetaboutit".