Man what's up with all these silly kids on here saying they have lots of experience?...I started having sex at 14 and after u few hundred times I still didn't know what I was doing come back after u hit 10,000 times, oh wait by then u will know what experience is....anyway I need some advice from a mature woman preferably one without ovaries...I'm a 34 yr old male and I've met and enjoy this 47yr old woman and everything is wonderful except she can't cum.....she has had her ovaries taken out and doesn't take hormone pills and just barely gets wet but she is wild and loves sex anyway...she said she used 2 cum but hasn't in a long time and I really want 2 make her feel good.....she says the sex and feeling of everything is enough but I couldn't imagine having sex and not being able 2 cum...I've tried every type of oral, fingering, and intercourse there is with no luck....but when I'm licking her clit and fingering and pressing on her g spot she she squirms and quivers and when she does I move with her and stay in the same spot hoping she will cum...I have also noticed her pussy is was different than all the other younger girls I've been with i don't know if its because its not as wet or what but its actually way better....she makes me feel good and gives blow jobs and wants me 2 cum as much as I want 2 but I do really want 2 return the favor.....its not a problem in our relationship or anything cause she still likes everything I just wish she would cum....if u have any suggestions of something I can do or try that maybe I've missed let me know....
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What follows is a quote from our Resident M.D.: [quote= Brandye]
* 25% of all women never have orgasms; 50% of all women need some stimulation in addition to penile thrusting to achieve orgasm.*** That leaves one-quarter of us who regularly have orgasms as part of regular vaginal sex.
Though all of us are capable of multiple orgasms, only about ten percent of us regulary have multiple orgasms. Many of us, I have no numbers, choose not to have orgasms each time we have sex. I am perfectly content with an orgasm once a week but while living with men (two different ones) in our twenties, they wanted more sex than that. I commonly had sex, very willingly, without orgasm. One of the beauties of being a woman is that we can fully enjoy sex without ever reaching orgasm.
We can only guess at how commonly women have orgasms during sex but it is less than most believe. [/quote]
She has also stated that orgasms are not the biological imperative for women that they are for men. That said, it is important for men to understand that for women, just making love and expressing it is often satisfaction enough. This may well be the path the two of you are on. Know that if you have her best interests at heart, love her unconditionally and demonstrate it, that she will be satisfied.
First, buzz, let me ask that you not use even a hint of teenie text shorthand. We are not all native English speakers and many of us are well beyond teens. It is so much easier to deal in rather standard English.
Any answers you may be looking for could be developed only between your friend and her doctor. The only direct relationship between ovaries and orgasm is the hormones provided by the ovaries. Testosterone is produced, in small amounts, by both the ovaries and adrenal glands. It is not only involved in sexual response, but also muscle and bone strength. She may not be on hormone replacement therapy, her choice, but may find it useful to have her testosterone levels checked as she faces the inevitable decline that comes with age.
There is more that you do not know about her sexual history than there is that you do know. The questioning required to gain this knowledge may be uncomfortable for either or both of you. For instance, was there a relationship between her hysterectomy and the disappearance of orgasms? Is it possible that she is simply using a non-orgasmic woman's line, "I used to but have not in a long time."? Not an idle mention on my part. I know of women who have never had an orgasm but have never told partners the truth, whether or not she is faking on occasion. Was there some other sexually based trauma - either physical or psychological? Why did she and her doctor decide to not use hormone replacement therapy? Is she really into the sex (possible) or is she enjoying the novelty of a new lover that may wear off? Why is she really pursuing a relationship (if she is) with you? What medications is she on? Why? Is she using sex as a crutch to sustain a relationship?
If a partner started pressing me on some of these issues, I would show him the door. My sexual history is mine, not his. But, if this becomes a lasting thing, some of those answers should be shared - in her time, not yours.
I accept that you really want to help her experience the pleasure of orgasm. Does she care? Is that a valid path for her? If she is satisfied, why are you not? You are dealing with a 47 year old woman. She has a history. She may choose to share come of that with you. She may choose not to share major parts of it.
There is absolutely NOTHING biologically wrong that would prevent her from orgasm. I had a lover who'd had a total hysterectomy and she was amazingly multi-orgasmic.
Michael
Sorry brandye for the so called text short had I'm just so used 2 texting and short fast email writing its just a habit and I don't really even think about it...
Anyway, u sure put a lot of questions up there and I understand about her sexual history and actually we have talked a lot about it. She has been married twice and has three kids that are grown (well 15-21). I believe we have an open and honest type relationship and she knows I don't care about her past so I don't know why she would tell me any lies especially about her ovaries and all that. She has been a struggling single mom for her youngest daughter for over 4 years now and hasn't dated anyone or had sex in that whole time. We talked about the hormone medicine and she said she didn't like the way they made her feel and has been off them for a long time but I don't see what they have to do with making her cum. As far as getting more details about her orgasms in the past well she said she has cum before but not a lot. Since she was married twice and for so long she said that both of her husbands were obsessed with why she wouldn't cum and aha said that just made it harder. Then after a while one turned into a drunk and would beat and rape her both analy and vaginal and the other just abandoned her and their daughter. We have been seeing each other for a year or so and I do know she has a lot of things on her mind and stuff she has to deal with, especially her past and I'm trying to be very supportive. I've read several other forums here about women not being able to cum and I understand (from what I've read) that you have to be relaxed and let your mind go, plus some medicines can get in the way. I just see her and think about all the things she has been through and think that the least thing I could do to make her feel better is to male her cum. Maybe I want her to cum so bad because I like to cum, I really don't know. I think maybe its just gonna take a while and I understand that. I've never rushed or said u need to or anything like that, I tell her I hope she does and if it does happen great but if not that's fine too. I told her when the time was right it would happen. I just think to myself that her going without sex or orgasm for so long that she would be horny as hell and cum like crazy but I guess that's just the way a guy would be. Like I said in the other post she loves to still have sex and wants me to cum and we have long hours and hours of love making sessions. I don't mean intercourse for hours and hours I mean lots of making out and rubbing and touching and playing and just holding each other. I believe and hope she enjoys it as much as I do and not just doing it because she thinks that what I want. From what I've read on here lots of women lie to there man so I guess u never really know.