Hello, first of all great site!
Well basically, me and my girlfriend have been going out for over a year, and were both 18. We have been sexually active together for 7 months and our each other’s first.
The problem is, we only use extra safe condoms as our only protection.
I want her to go on the pill and so does she, but were both worried how her mom or even dad is gonna’ take the news that were having sex and wants to go on the pill. (if we choose to tell her)
Her mom has never spoken to her about sex, pregnancy, safe sex etc. so weather this is because she does not expect us too have sex (which I find to believe) or she doesn’t want to get involved and trusts her daughter to go on the pill without her consent (which I find hard to believe).
Her parents arn’t really strict beyond normal, or religious, and as were both 18, surely she can’t be angry!?
I was jus wondering if any one could give us advice on weather she should tell her mom and ask for advice from her, or weather to go on the pill without telling her?
If so any advice on what to say?
Thanks
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Where I live, any woman over sixteen who asks for the pill will receive it. No parents involved. Each nation or province or state will have its own legal requirements.Beyond the legal or medical requirements, it is up to the individuals involved. I doubt that your g/f advised her mum that you two were buying condoms. What is the difference? At 18, "the talk" is a bit late. I hope your g/f has found other dependable sources of information (not school, not friends).
I would advise that until she gets on the pill, use vaginal spermicide as well as condoms. That is jelly, foam film or whatever.
Planned Parenthood does not require a specific age (I am not talking about 12 year olds though), and at the age of 18 she can legally make all her own medical choices since she is the age of majority. All she needs to do is see a Gyn & get on the pill; as far as telling her parents? Why? Forget it.
ya 18 legally her mom has no say in anything unless they are the medical care providers but under the w/e law you can tell your doctor not to tell your parents and if her mother really doesnt think her daughter at 18 has never had sex ..... thats beyond me
16 any1 can get with parent. 18 any1 can get here.. any1 bein girls that is. obviously males cant. (jus incase for some smartass)
jus go see your locan G.P n well ultimately its up 2 u2.. not her parents...
it's up to her and her parents have no say in the matter
i was in a simular situation a few weks ago.....
me and my bf discussed bowt e goin on the pill like you have and as i am quite close with my mam i was able to ask for her advice and she adviced me to read her pill paket to get an understandin of the pill risks etc .. as your gf is 18 and older than me it is her responsibility to be safe not any body elses so if she wanted to go on the pill she dosnt need parental consent it just helps greatly for someone to advice you who is close to you..... the problem with me i had to take the emergency pill after and accident with the condom splittin so i took it and i noticed my period came that week and the doctors told me to take the pill the next time i was on bt because i thought it was just a bleed from the pill i am now still waitin to take my first pill lol
cheers for the advice,
the main concern about not telling her mom was if she found out, that she may be angry or upset she didnt ask her for advice. but weve decided not to tell as she is 18
cheers xx
Well if you have any problems just tell her parents that it's to regulate her period. I know a lot of girls who aren't sexually active but use it to regulate themselves. It's not a big deal.
I remember when I was first offered the pill, only to use for my acne of course not going to think about sex at 14. My grandmother gave the doctor a HELL NO! I was disappointed that she couldn't trust me enough, to take simple meds for a different problem. But there was a lil something something called privacey laws when it comes to birth control pills. In my state any female can get birth control without the consent of parents. So I didn't have to walk through my grams to get what I needed, just around her.