My partner and I have a long distance relationship, and so we usually only get the chance to have sex every 2-3 weeks. I have a rather thick penis(6 inch circumference) and she is a small girl. she cant have intercourse for very long, usually after 10 minutes she gets too sore to continue, but she insists that it feels amazing with a constant small pain that gradually gets worse. She tells me its only because we don't do it regularly. We do use plenty of foreplay and i do notice the looser feel when she is extremely aroused. She does orgasm during sex and always loves the feeling of being really stretched out and dilated. When she's sore after i tell her "you're the one who always asks for it harder" but she just tells me it hurts the same amount whether i go slow or fast, but she feels a lot more stimulation when i go fast. She is an older women and she is my first sexual partner, but im still wondering if she's right and it is normal. It always feels great for me and apparantly it does for her but for her sake i wish it didnt hurt her. Thanks for any input
Fri, 10/12/2007 - 00:03
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Painful for her, but she says its normal
thanks for the input, im not sure how i'm gonna approach this because im so much younger and inexperienced and she'll think its just fine, but she can only know so much having had only one other sexual partner
[quote=Evil_Meat;195796]thanks for the input, im not sure how i'm gonna approach this because im so much younger and inexperienced and she'll think its just fine, but she can only know so much having had only one other sexual partner[/quote]Tell her the truth. You can disclose where you found information and why you did seeking information. I have been with many, married for years in between, some were very well-endowed, mainly my ex-fiance. And this is what I found, it fits & works and as I said the most limiting factor was positions and frequency. Learn together.
I highly doubt it. Penis's tend to fit into small areas with minimal difficulty, some soreness is expected when prolonged intercourse happens. But it sounds as if she need to talk to her gyn about this. The only limiting factor to size tends to be some positions.
shes only had one other sexual partner, and apparantly it happend with him also but not as bad. I imagine he was also well endowed because when i asked which condoms to buy because of not being able to comfortably use a regular size one because of the small girth of condoms she said she doesent know but she used Trojan Large so he probably was large. The last time she had sex with him (or anyone) was like 2 years ago so she's lost any tolerance to large member i'd assume. And no she hasn't talked to anyone about it because she thinks its normal. Is it possible that her vagina is just small and my width causes some pain?
I would wonder if she has spoke w/her gyn about this & has she experienced this with previous partners?
The lack of frequency in your sex life may be part of the issue. I know when my ex-fiance traveled and returned I was uncomfortable but it was incredible sex. After some time back together [while not traveling] there was no discomfort for me...only when there was no regular frequency.
well her experiences sound just like mine...minus the orgasm lol
im beginning to accept it as normal since no doctor has ever told me otherwise.
Apparently some women are just built smaller.
Arousal, lubrication, and a correctly sized and considerate lover or two are recommended.
well it doesent matter now cause she dumped me yesterday cause of the age difference, and of course she tossed in some other bs reasons like we dont have enough in common. Especially hurt cause she was crying her eyes out too...Oh well ill get over it in time hopefully
Awww Poor lady can't take it!
:p
Sorry to hear it. Keep looking and next time do not go exclusive but date as many as you can talk into it!
think about it
the vagina is meant to spread far enough to fit a baby through it
..she prob does need to talk to a gyn